To want to scream at my SIL

Can’t stand people like this. Parading every hospital and GP appt on social media for attention. Most likely exaggerating it all too. Some people make it their entire personality it’s tragic.

I have family like this, accompanied by a hefty wedge of disability benefits they really don’t bloody need as well, for all the EDS, fibro, back pain shite they’ve made up and which the GP can’t disprove….

Exactly. Don't read her Facebook. Simple.

She repeatedly went onto school grounds when she was banned (used to stand in the school carpark watching her dc at Playtime and try to talk to them through the gate which would upset them. Then I think she threatened a member of staff.

Bloody hell! The school took a restraining order out on a parent?

Jesus christ what is wrong with people? I have two on the spectrum wouldn't dream of putting their struggles on the Internet for the world to see!

Social media is to blame for all this. I went to A and E with my late mother and it was packed with well, what seemed like whole families saying into their mobiles ‘we are at A and E’. They were all on mobile phones taking pictures etc.
Looking at who was sat on the seats I sometimes struggled to work out who was having the accident or emergency. The place was rammed.

The next day I had reason to take mum into A and E again. She really should have been kept in overnight as she broke her wrist. Anyway, she had a stroke and back we went.

Snow had fallen overnight.

A and E was empty apart from a couple of other people and me and mum.

The need for attention and high drama is fuelled by social media. The need for validation by others. People write things to gain sympathy or support. The language people use, more extreme, to gain attention. It is like a disease.
And your SIL is affected by it. And no, it will not be good for her mental health.

You seem overly involved in her life. Have you got much going on in yours?

We’ve got one in our family.

her eldest is ASD. The other four dc all have some sort of illness, she’s also insistent that they are all ASD despite having bullied school/docs into having them assessed and the assessments coming back that they are not ASD. Social services ended up getting involved and it turned out things were a lot worse than we knew.

The daily fb posts of ASD quotes, the videos of her ASD son having meltdowns, the highly intrusive medical information she shared of her dc online and the restraining order the school took out on her were actually the tip of the iceberg. Truly shocking.

id keep a close eye on her dc op. As they get older they will push back and start asking questions. They may need some support.

Might there be financial gain if she gets her children all labelled with something or other? A Pip? Or carer's allowance?

If it is affecting her kids shouldn't OP give a shit?
At what point does it become a safeguarding issue or an abusive situation?

She sounds like the Love you to Death woman
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ckge7jl0qeyo

Unfollow/hide her and if she starts up in person remain as neutral as possible- zero attention.

I have someone very similar in my family- to the point I wondered at first if this post was about them 😳 I found out recently I am definitely not the only one in my family sick to the back teeth of my relative’s behaviour. People just don’t want to be bitches about it.

Ignore her. Who gives a shit, it doesn't affect you.

She sounds so annoying. I know people like this who tag themselves in on Facebook into A and E or post cryptic hospital pictures. Just remove them, it’s pathetic attention seeking.

Just delete her off social media. How irritating.

It's ok not to like her, it's ok for others to like her, remove/mute/ignore the social media.

My sister is like this. Posts pictures from hospital bed with no explanation of why she’s there, cryptic posts about things can only get better….it’s tiresome

She sounds annoying, but it’s your choice to let it bother you.

Stay away from FB. There is nothing for you to do here except remove yourself from the situation.

Stay off her social media.

The people that aren't as bothered about her behaviour probably don't see it, if it all stems around Facebook rants. Stay off Facebook, it will do you the power of good. She's not your responsibility, you don't need to "do something" about her, back away, and mind your business.

I used to do the school run with a mum like this. Her youngest was a skinny little thing and she was always tagging herself at GOSH for an apparent lung condition 'that will only ever get worse". She visited the GP weekly with one or other of her kids, I think she had them on speed dial. She too would post cryptic messages hoping people would comment 'hope everything is ok', or like her posts. Her two DDs are grown now and the youngest is, let's say, not a frail woman, and she's extremely healthy. No idea what happened to the awful lung condition.