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To book a solo weekend away without my partner?

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ijustwanttiread · 16/09/2026 12:25

My partner is absolutely enraged by the idea I might go away without him. We don’t live together and finances are totally separate.

My mum is a planner and likes to know what we would like for Christmas early. I have always wanted to go to London to the biggest bookshops in Europe. Sad, I know, but I love books. I can’t justify a splurge on them though, so I’ve asked her for vouchers. She still gives pretty decent gifts. My plan is to go for a weekend (£100 hotel and £70 train fare)

My partner is enraged. He thinks I should a) ask for money for both of us to take a holiday together and b) go away with him only.

AIBU to do it anyway?

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ijustwanttiread · 16/09/2026 12:34

MelonSorbet · 16/09/2026 12:31

Your partner's an idiot but YABU to go to London just to visit some bookshops. You could get a lot of books for £170!

OK I have googled and the biggest bookshop in Europe is a Waterstones, you can buy from them online!

Edited

My town doesn’t have a book shop, and even our closest city is pretty rubbish. I want to go and properly explore, and £170 is totally feasible for me

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MelonSorbet · 16/09/2026 12:31

Your partner's an idiot but YABU to go to London just to visit some bookshops. You could get a lot of books for £170!

OK I have googled and the biggest bookshop in Europe is a Waterstones, you can buy from them online!

Morecoffeeneedef · 16/09/2026 12:30

Come on OP, how could it be reasonable for you only to go away if you take your boyfriend with you? What century do you live in?

SilverPink · 16/09/2026 12:29

Jesus Christ red flags 🚩 all over this one. How controlling is he?! Please dump this arsehole. He will never change.

Gobbledegoo · 16/09/2026 12:29

You are not bound together physically or legally. Go on your own and really enjoy yourself. If he kicks off in any way at all dump him. Even if you were married you are still your own person.

Lots of red flags - He is past his sell by date. Bye bye.

TheHungryHungryLandsharks · 16/09/2026 12:27

I’m about to go away for two weeks on holiday without DH. DH is 100% supportive (actually his suggestion).

Your partner sounds like controlling. Get rid. You deserve better

PinkyFlamingo · 16/09/2026 12:26

Seriously you have to ask?

OsfameronTanamoril · 16/09/2026 12:26

I would ltb. I can't bear possessive men. I do at least 1 solp trip a year and many solo weekends.

Keyleads · 16/09/2026 12:26

Enraged?
WTF?

Dump this nasty controlling loser.