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AIBU to oppose housing 1,000 undocumented young men near Piddington?

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PiddingtonFan · 16/09/2026 09:38

We dont need anymore undocumented young males.

1000 proposed to be housed near Piddington. Young males from a different culture.

AIBU to agree with them. Enough undocumented males. Too many males overwhelming a small population. 😪

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EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 11:24

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 11:21

The asylum system isn’t ’arrive by small boats’ no.

I’m also in favour of safe routes and outside country applications, as per Australia, that would drastically reduce the boats but probably not eliminate completely.

Can you quote where I said that line?

You can only get that if you adopt all their policies which includes the deterrent, would you?

BIossomtoes · 17/09/2026 11:22

AlphaQueue · 17/09/2026 10:28

They are more likely. Look at the per capita data. Also they come from nations where VAWG is a lot higher and women are treated very poorly

You mean like the woman who was set about with a walking stick at the Reform conference? By a white, true Brit pensioner.

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 11:21

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 11:19

The asylum system is just that so the ‘quote ‘ isn’t necessary.

Australia uses a humanitarian visa system, it’s stopped deaths at sea.

The asylum system isn’t ’arrive by small boats’ no.

I’m also in favour of safe routes and outside country applications, as per Australia, that would drastically reduce the boats but probably not eliminate completely.

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 11:19

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 11:17

People arriving by small boat isn’t a ‘system’
though is it? It’s a problem that nobody wants to continue and that needs a systematic solution.

So the question is what is the solution. You think it’s mirroring Australian policy of returning boats, some think Rwanda would have worked, others think safe routes, others law enforcement against traffickers. But there’s also the problem of how to accommodate people when they are here and awaiting a decision, and for those whose claims are rejected but who can’t be removed to their country of origin.

The asylum system is just that so the ‘quote ‘ isn’t necessary.

Australia uses a humanitarian visa system, it’s stopped deaths at sea.

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 11:17

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 11:08

It was a mere timing thing. You answered after I asked it’s no biggie it happens.

On the question of the system I think isn’t working I’d say overloaded unsafe dinghies where there’s deaths at sea, often vulnerable women and dc isn’t a good system.

If that were to stop no one would run on bringing it back. I’d predict even the left who want to defend the system wouldn’t vote it back.

People arriving by small boat isn’t a ‘system’
though is it? It’s a problem that nobody wants to continue and that needs a systematic solution.

So the question is what is the solution. You think it’s mirroring Australian policy of returning boats, some think Rwanda would have worked, others think safe routes, others law enforcement against traffickers. But there’s also the problem of how to accommodate people when they are here and awaiting a decision, and for those whose claims are rejected but who can’t be removed to their country of origin.

Wordsmithery · 17/09/2026 11:13

angelos02 · 16/09/2026 09:59

Very few are genuine refugees. Stop kidding yourselves. Most Brits don't want them anywhere in the UK.

Well thank you for speaking up on behalf of most Brits.

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 11:08

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 11:04

Not at all, just not interested in repeating myself. If you don’t want to answer a question about your post, that’s fine.

It was a mere timing thing. You answered after I asked it’s no biggie it happens.

On the question of the system I think isn’t working I’d say overloaded unsafe dinghies where there’s deaths at sea, often vulnerable women and dc isn’t a good system.

If that were to stop no one would run on bringing it back. I’d predict even the left who want to defend the system wouldn’t vote it back.

shecanbe · 17/09/2026 11:05

Dollymylove · 17/09/2026 10:57

Well there is clearly a need for it or they wouldnt have spent god know how much translating and printing them.
You can do your bit by accommodating a few of them in your house, you know 😉

If you prefer to define everyone by this leaflet and prefer to think in stereotypes, that's up to you.

Just walking through King St Hammersmith in London. Come here and tell me who is an asylum seeker please? Which men on this street have read 'the leaflet' and who is more likely to sexually assault me or my daughters?

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 11:04

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 11:02

You seem put out. It’s just a post.

Not at all, just not interested in repeating myself. If you don’t want to answer a question about your post, that’s fine.

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 11:03

Dollymylove · 17/09/2026 10:57

Well there is clearly a need for it or they wouldnt have spent god know how much translating and printing them.
You can do your bit by accommodating a few of them in your house, you know 😉

When I go to the doctors there are leaflets telling me how to stop smoking, how to eat healthily, when to see the pharmacist rather than book the GP etc. Do you think that’s because everyone that comes to the surgery needs that, or do you think sometimes public awareness aims at the lowest common denominator?

I agree it’s horrible to think some men need to be told not to sexually assault women and girls, but it’s also something that is taught in schools in England.

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 11:02

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 10:59

If you’re interested in what I said you can reread, the discussion has moved on, keep up! 😝

You seem put out. It’s just a post.

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 10:59

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 10:56

After you. Was it your post that said Piddington should ask to keep the men in the facility?

If you’re interested in what I said you can reread, the discussion has moved on, keep up! 😝

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 10:59

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 10:56

What metrics are you using to say the system isn’t ‘working well’?

I don’t think I expressed a preference for detention - it has pros and cons. More realistic than farming engagement via a meaningless referendum, which you applauded them
for.

Yep it’s obviously been a success with publicity and awareness. Good for them.

Political pressure will help.

Dollymylove · 17/09/2026 10:57

shecanbe · 17/09/2026 10:23

Ffs. Yes they must all be the same and all think the same and behave the same and all need this leaflet, mustn't they.

Well there is clearly a need for it or they wouldnt have spent god know how much translating and printing them.
You can do your bit by accommodating a few of them in your house, you know 😉

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 10:56

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 10:52

Ik you’re keen, but the system isn’t working well. What did you prefer again? To make people stay in the facility? Why was that.

What metrics are you using to say the system isn’t ‘working well’?

I don’t think I expressed a preference for detention - it has pros and cons. More realistic than farming engagement via a meaningless referendum, which you applauded them
for.

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 10:56

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 10:53

Are you thinking of PNG to the northern islands?

After you. Was it your post that said Piddington should ask to keep the men in the facility?

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 10:55

shecanbe · 17/09/2026 10:45

Where is the data that migrants are more likely to be sex offenders?

Everybody knows that most violence against women and girls is perpetrated by people known to them. Family members, friends, date rapes etc. If Reform were really concerned about women and girls, they would be focusing on this - not the possible impact of a small subset of the 1.5% of total migrants - as if that's all anyone needs to be up in arms about. Politicians need to be more concerned about the impact of porn on all men - this is far more of a cultural threat to our society and safety than anything else. The only time Reform comment on violence against women and girls is when it fuels their agenda

Piddington voted Lib Dem. They’re probably similar demographics to some of those who want to keep the system as is and say they’d welcome the 1000 men nearby.

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 10:53

EasternStandard · 16/09/2026 15:46

It’s not that much in it for crossing distance at closest point. Especially now boats are coming from further away across the channel.

They were about the same size and overloaded too.

Are you thinking of PNG to the northern islands?

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 10:52

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 10:45

And generally it does - for the millions of people who arrive to work, study or visit every year, plus the largest proportion of people seeking asylum who come via regular routes. For this relatively small group of people, there is a different arrivals system.

As you say, we can’t tell who is a risk. You could be the next Rose West, and having your passport on file isn’t going to help us predict that.

Ik you’re keen, but the system isn’t working well. What did you prefer again? To make people stay in the facility? Why was that.

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 10:49

shecanbe · 17/09/2026 10:32

I can obviously understand why, in a tiny village of say 300 people, if you put 500 men there in a hostel, residents will be up in arms. And if the men are from 'those countries,' certain people will get even more discombobulated, particularly given the stereotypes currently pedalled by populist media.

I'm just saying, there are loads of places where 500 men from 'those countries' etc wouldn't be noticeable at all.

The problem is that suitable locations for 1250 people are not often situated in towns and cities. And that’s not something any government can solve. Unused hotels seemed a reasonable compromise to me - better than HMOs in residential areas that potentially introduce a lot of people into an unsuitable area, with no facilities. Hotels are generally near amenities and away from residential areas. But people don’t like that, protested and pushed governments into finding alternatives. No surprise those places are out in the country and in or near small villages.

shecanbe · 17/09/2026 10:45

AlphaQueue · 17/09/2026 10:28

They are more likely. Look at the per capita data. Also they come from nations where VAWG is a lot higher and women are treated very poorly

Where is the data that migrants are more likely to be sex offenders?

Everybody knows that most violence against women and girls is perpetrated by people known to them. Family members, friends, date rapes etc. If Reform were really concerned about women and girls, they would be focusing on this - not the possible impact of a small subset of the 1.5% of total migrants - as if that's all anyone needs to be up in arms about. Politicians need to be more concerned about the impact of porn on all men - this is far more of a cultural threat to our society and safety than anything else. The only time Reform comment on violence against women and girls is when it fuels their agenda

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 10:45

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 09:33

The issue is you can’t tell who is a risk, and we’ve seen some horrendous crimes. Generally the gov should ensure we have a system of entry that is better checked.

And generally it does - for the millions of people who arrive to work, study or visit every year, plus the largest proportion of people seeking asylum who come via regular routes. For this relatively small group of people, there is a different arrivals system.

As you say, we can’t tell who is a risk. You could be the next Rose West, and having your passport on file isn’t going to help us predict that.

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 10:37

shecanbe · 17/09/2026 10:32

I can obviously understand why, in a tiny village of say 300 people, if you put 500 men there in a hostel, residents will be up in arms. And if the men are from 'those countries,' certain people will get even more discombobulated, particularly given the stereotypes currently pedalled by populist media.

I'm just saying, there are loads of places where 500 men from 'those countries' etc wouldn't be noticeable at all.

There may be areas where people feel as you do. There’s still posters who think the Piddington women are wrong and other lines of attack.

So yes the men could be near where people feel it’s fine.

DrudgeJedd · 17/09/2026 10:36

shecanbe · 17/09/2026 10:32

I can obviously understand why, in a tiny village of say 300 people, if you put 500 men there in a hostel, residents will be up in arms. And if the men are from 'those countries,' certain people will get even more discombobulated, particularly given the stereotypes currently pedalled by populist media.

I'm just saying, there are loads of places where 500 men from 'those countries' etc wouldn't be noticeable at all.

Why do you keep saying "500 men", the reports put the number at over 1000. Are you taking about a different place?

shecanbe · 17/09/2026 10:32

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 10:22

It could be dealt with in a way that causes less backlash. There are posts where people decry those who say no thanks and how bad those people are.

The obvious way to avoid a lot of tension is to put the men near where those welcoming people are.

Of course Piddington was welcoming but now are worried, but maybe the steadfast will stay welcoming. If you keep telling everyone his terrible the objectors are you can really object (general you).

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I can obviously understand why, in a tiny village of say 300 people, if you put 500 men there in a hostel, residents will be up in arms. And if the men are from 'those countries,' certain people will get even more discombobulated, particularly given the stereotypes currently pedalled by populist media.

I'm just saying, there are loads of places where 500 men from 'those countries' etc wouldn't be noticeable at all.

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