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AIBU to oppose housing 1,000 undocumented young men near Piddington?

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PiddingtonFan · 16/09/2026 09:38

We dont need anymore undocumented young males.

1000 proposed to be housed near Piddington. Young males from a different culture.

AIBU to agree with them. Enough undocumented males. Too many males overwhelming a small population. 😪

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EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 21:37

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 21:34

The Ukraine scheme wasn’t designed exclusively for women and children, it was open to men but Ukraine conscripted men so very few elected to join.

It was a vetted, humanitarian visa scheme which you identified as something you want more of. Great, you already agree.

LuckyHazelFox · 17/09/2026 21:36

Like I said, pointless.

shecanbe · 17/09/2026 21:34

Oh ok, Palestinians, Eritreans, Sudanese etc. No real differences at all. Got it.

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 21:34

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 21:06

You already identified a humanitarian visa scheme that vetted plus was for mostly women and children in your post here.

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The Ukraine scheme wasn’t designed exclusively for women and children, it was open to men but Ukraine conscripted men so very few elected to join.

LuckyHazelFox · 17/09/2026 21:29

shecanbe · 17/09/2026 21:18

Do you know for a fact here are Palestinians in the hostel?

You don't agree on shared cultures so pointless taking the discussion further with you.

shecanbe · 17/09/2026 21:18

LuckyHazelFox · 17/09/2026 21:06

Same as one of the women in Piddington who was previously seen holding a Palestinian banner. She can put her money where her mouth is now and integrate with a culture she feels she understands. There should be no complaints from her.

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Do you know for a fact here are Palestinians in the hostel?

Onlyontuesday · 17/09/2026 21:17

FFSItsTooHot · 17/09/2026 21:00

I just can't help wondering how many of the posters on here who are calling people who object or have reservations about this,bigots and racists, would feel if it was happening in their village/town? A few years ago a friend of mine was going on about people in a town far from where she lived,objecting to numerous HMOs springing up in their area, housing immigrants. She said they were out and out racists. More recently,an HMO has appeared not very far from where she lives. Is she happy about it? No,she is not. Double standards IMO. It's fine as long as it's 'Not In My Backyard'.

If I was in a village I'd not be happy, no. That doesn't mean it's wrong though.

I'm not really sure what people want from the government..

  • Immigration and illegal crossings are significantly dropping
  • People smugglers are having to go to new lengths to evade capture

And

  • People hate the use of B&B accommodation for asylum seekers
  • Ethics aside, no one wants to pay taxes to fund staffed detention centres

So that leaves using places like Piddington. Yes, I'd be really pissed if I'd paid 900k to live there. But that doesn't mean an otherwise viable estate should be ignored to avoid annoying 300 wealthy people.

Clavinova · 17/09/2026 21:15

shecanbe · 17/09/2026 20:45

@Clavinova - fair enough, I'm glad to see it was at least in the Guardian. But the point is, can you imagine the news if Afghan asylum seekers had been the perpetrators of such a murder - in broad daylight in Richmond-Upon-Thames of all places? Can you imagine? It would have been the top story on the BBC and across all news channels; there would be debates in the House of Commons; probably a public enquiry would have been called; there would have been major marches; vigils and national public outrage. That is the difference.

I'm glad to see it was at least in the Guardian

It was reported everywhere - not just the Guardian.

The trial took place over a year later - I've just read that the perpetrator was convicted of manslaughter in the end.

probably a public enquiry would have been called

I very much doubt it.

We don't know the ethnicity of the perpetrator by the way - he was not identified because of his age.

nomas · 17/09/2026 21:09

LuckyHazelFox · 17/09/2026 21:06

Same as one of the women in Piddington who was previously seen holding a Palestinian banner. She can put her money where her mouth is now and integrate with a culture she feels she understands. There should be no complaints from her.

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There are no shops, no cafés, no pubs in Piddington for anyone to integrate with.

I can’t see what the asylum seekers would even want to go into the village for. Houses are much of a muchness everywhere.

LuckyHazelFox · 17/09/2026 21:06

FFSItsTooHot · 17/09/2026 21:00

I just can't help wondering how many of the posters on here who are calling people who object or have reservations about this,bigots and racists, would feel if it was happening in their village/town? A few years ago a friend of mine was going on about people in a town far from where she lived,objecting to numerous HMOs springing up in their area, housing immigrants. She said they were out and out racists. More recently,an HMO has appeared not very far from where she lives. Is she happy about it? No,she is not. Double standards IMO. It's fine as long as it's 'Not In My Backyard'.

Same as one of the women in Piddington who was previously seen holding a Palestinian banner. She can put her money where her mouth is now and integrate with a culture she feels she understands. There should be no complaints from her.

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 21:06

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 11:50

You’re suggesting the UK can only have safe routes if it copies Australian deterrent practices?

Obviously that’s not true. The Ukraine and much smaller Afghanistan schemes were examples that they UK could replicate for other countries, or they could create something new.

You already identified a humanitarian visa scheme that vetted plus was for mostly women and children in your post here.

nomas · 17/09/2026 21:04

AlphaQueue · 17/09/2026 18:12

She's just like this and refuses to hear explanations

The language you and Lugol are using (and supporting) about me tells me all I need to know tbh.

FFSItsTooHot · 17/09/2026 21:00

I just can't help wondering how many of the posters on here who are calling people who object or have reservations about this,bigots and racists, would feel if it was happening in their village/town? A few years ago a friend of mine was going on about people in a town far from where she lived,objecting to numerous HMOs springing up in their area, housing immigrants. She said they were out and out racists. More recently,an HMO has appeared not very far from where she lives. Is she happy about it? No,she is not. Double standards IMO. It's fine as long as it's 'Not In My Backyard'.

Clavinova · 17/09/2026 20:58

BIossomtoes · 17/09/2026 09:48

Foreign students make up over 24% of the student population. There are over 600k of them. There are 85k asylum seekers.

There are 85k asylum seekers

It's more than that in the system waiting for a resolution.

The Refugee Council estimated 113,685 people (87,450 cases) waiting to appeal initial asylum decisions;
https://www.refugeecouncil.org.uk/press-office/media-centre/number-of-people-waiting-to-appeal-asylum-decisions-triples-in-two-years/

In addition, there would be people refused asylum, whom the government have been unable to deport.

Switchnow · 17/09/2026 20:53

EasternStandard · 17/09/2026 18:34

Is there a reason you can’t read that response and understand what vetting means?

A woman from a refugee camp is less likely to rape someone, what do you think? Is that difficult to get still.

Now to you. Why are you against that system?

Edited

So by vetting you mean only selecting women? That’s not the usual definition of vetting, but if that’s your proposed system then ok, sure, good idea. Can you see any issues with a system that only rescues women?

Hazyjaneishere · 17/09/2026 20:52

I guess I’d want to know if you would be ok if they were housed somewhere else, or if it’s just your village that you’re worried about? Personally I think housing them spread out throughout communities is better but then I also think they could be treated badly in that way and poor behaviour either way is harder to monitor. There are a load of young men in a hotel in the city centre in my closest city and they’re honestly all fine. No bother, polite, keep themselves to themselves, some help out at a local church even though they’re not Christians.

shecanbe · 17/09/2026 20:45

@Clavinova - fair enough, I'm glad to see it was at least in the Guardian. But the point is, can you imagine the news if Afghan asylum seekers had been the perpetrators of such a murder - in broad daylight in Richmond-Upon-Thames of all places? Can you imagine? It would have been the top story on the BBC and across all news channels; there would be debates in the House of Commons; probably a public enquiry would have been called; there would have been major marches; vigils and national public outrage. That is the difference.

LuckyHazelFox · 17/09/2026 20:39

So as you say, it was reported. Why do people lie I wonder.

Sorry @Clavinova

shecanbe · 17/09/2026 20:34

Let's hope some people on here never need a doctor, or a pharmacist, or an optician, or a lawyer, or an accountant because they're more than likely to be of Indian or Pakistani origins. They may also be just as British as certain posters on here. Funnily enough.

Clavinova · 17/09/2026 20:34

Clavinova · 17/09/2026 20:28

It happened at Richmond-Upon-Thames College a few years ago

That's the second murder I referred to in my post, although the Afghan refugee was aged 18 - his killer was aged 16 at the time. Numerous articles in the national press.

https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2021/oct/14/boy-16-held-over-fatal-stabbing-of-afghan-refugee-in-west-london
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-london-58914472
https://www.thetimes.com/uk/article/afghan-refugee-18-stabbed-to-death-in-london-tzpk5n66l

LuckyHazelFox · 17/09/2026 20:31

Interesting poll 78 per cent YANBU. Oh well.

shecanbe · 17/09/2026 20:28

"Look and see on the contrary how British Pakistanis have done."

What, are you starting on British Pakistanis now? What is your problem with them exactly?

Clavinova · 17/09/2026 20:28

shecanbe · 17/09/2026 20:10

@Clavinova. It is 100% true. It happened at Richmond-Upon-Thames College a few years ago. I know this for a fact as my niece was at the college that very day. All parents of students were obviously informed. The murder was in broad daylight, just outside the doorway of the college, and witnessed by school pupils and their teachers playing football on the field. They saw the poor Afghan boy, who was 16 or 17 and trying to get his GCSE Msths and English, surrounded by 3 other boys and fall to the ground. When they got him to hospital it was too late. Nothing in the local press. Nothing in national news. Absolutely horrific and shocking. The boy was in his own here. Had nobody to fight his cause.

It happened at Richmond-Upon-Thames College a few years ago

That's the second murder I referred to in my post, although the Afghan refugee was aged 18 - his killer was aged 16 at the time. Numerous articles in the national press.

nomas · 17/09/2026 20:24

shecanbe · 17/09/2026 20:10

@Clavinova. It is 100% true. It happened at Richmond-Upon-Thames College a few years ago. I know this for a fact as my niece was at the college that very day. All parents of students were obviously informed. The murder was in broad daylight, just outside the doorway of the college, and witnessed by school pupils and their teachers playing football on the field. They saw the poor Afghan boy, who was 16 or 17 and trying to get his GCSE Msths and English, surrounded by 3 other boys and fall to the ground. When they got him to hospital it was too late. Nothing in the local press. Nothing in national news. Absolutely horrific and shocking. The boy was in his own here. Had nobody to fight his cause.

That’s horrific. Hope his murderers die a slow, painful death themselves and rot in hell.

AlphaQueue · 17/09/2026 20:22

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