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To think there is a reason for this support worker not to be trusted

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Disney777 · 16/09/2026 01:45

Don’t want to post the full story but pretty sure they have been stealing off a vulnerable relative. (Not an elderly person) in case that’s relevant. They had been helping themselves to food and drink in their home when asked by the company they stated they had never used anything belonging to that person. Surely if you’ve been taking drinks and food you have? Aibu to think this is a very dishonest person? And ask that company in give removed due to the poor way they dealt with it. This is not a bashing of care workers I know they do a hard job for very limited pay. ‘Y relative is of course happy to provide drinks etc occasionally but couldn’t lots as they are also on low income.

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Disney777 · 19/09/2026 16:56

EastEndQueen · 18/09/2026 22:30

I would contact the police then OP, the LA if you get funding and the CQC.

The person doesn’t feel able to go to the police as they have not been taken seriously in the past by them

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bigboykitty · 19/09/2026 17:08

If this person is a child or a vulnerable adult, then you should report the carer to your local social care (social services). I have done this in the past and I can't say they were brilliant, but financial exploitation is abuse. You can only report re a vulnerable adult if they have a specific vulnerability, not just because you see them as vulnerable. The other option, if the person receiving the care is on board with it, is to put in writing to the carer and care company something like 'as a number of items have been given away and also gone missing, going forward there will be no gifting of food or any other items and if the young person offers gifts, they should be declined'. Could something like that be helpful?

BluebellBeth · 19/09/2026 17:17

Disney777 · 19/09/2026 16:56

The person doesn’t feel able to go to the police as they have not been taken seriously in the past by them

I would go back to social care and make a complaint to the LA that they aren't taking your concerns about adult abuse by one of their contracted carers seriously enough. Can the person being cared for write anything? They must take their views seriously.

fumingrightnow1 · 19/09/2026 17:26

Put a small camera up

Disney777 · 19/09/2026 18:53

bigboykitty · 19/09/2026 17:08

If this person is a child or a vulnerable adult, then you should report the carer to your local social care (social services). I have done this in the past and I can't say they were brilliant, but financial exploitation is abuse. You can only report re a vulnerable adult if they have a specific vulnerability, not just because you see them as vulnerable. The other option, if the person receiving the care is on board with it, is to put in writing to the carer and care company something like 'as a number of items have been given away and also gone missing, going forward there will be no gifting of food or any other items and if the young person offers gifts, they should be declined'. Could something like that be helpful?

I would assume they are classed as vulnerable as I’ve seen them being described by professionals as such in their paperwork.

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