Unbalanced Inheritance Division

I think you are being unreasonable to expect your sibling to disregard the will. It was legal and whether you understand the split or think it fair is irrelevant. If you have a good relationship with your sibling it's less unreasonable to hope that she might be generous, assuming she feels her inheritance puts her in a position where she can afford to be.

You are not being unreasonable to decide that what seems to you to be a selfish refusal to mitigate an unfair will makes it impossible for you to remain on good terms or any terms. I'd probably aim for minimal contact, rather than no contact, simply because feelings and positions can change over the years - there's little difference in practice.

But that's why so many of us are saying that there probably is a genuine reason. If the OP has gone through her whole life NOT feeling unequally treated by her parents, there must be a reason why they made this choice now. She either knows this, but hasn't put it in her posts, or she genuinely doesn't know, in which caase she needs to talk to whoever helped draft the will.

she could've lent them money, paid of debt etc. unfortunately you'll never know. Fine to cut her off though as it is incredibly hurtful and even moreso with no opportunity to find out why.

Your parents were cruel to do that.

I can’t under the logic behind it. They would have know it could cause conflict.

It must be very painful but sister is following parents' wishes. Whether or not she knows their reasons it will be a big decision for her to go against that. Plus the pain is in their decision, DSis sharing isn't going to change that.

Not really... she can share the money but she can't change the fact that it's not what the parents wanted.

Unless there are genuine reasons like addiction or illness, parents that do this are effectively saying a massive fuck you to the children recieving less. It's a horrible,nasty thing to do to leave those left dealing with the fall out 😡

She could but she may also be feeling an obligation to honour the parents' wishes.

Or this could all be nonsense because we must be talking about one parent's will.

And the sister can rectify the situation if she wanted to.

Cutting all ties is being dramatic. You are hurt right now. Step back from the relationship. You don’t have to destroy it, just give it space.

I'm guessing they didn't get the kidney.

That's awful. What happened?

It’s …….‘intents and purposes’……

There must be a reason. Maybe you don't know what it is but they didn't wake up one morning and (both of them?) decided to leave things so unequally, for no reason. Did they have mirror will that both left this unequal split? Or are you only talking about the most recently deceased parent?

They've left your sister in a really difficult position. Maybe she knows the reason (or not) and does want to respect their wishes.

It seems odd that your answer is to cut her off? Is that something that's been coming for a while?

Agreed. Depends if the sister values the money more than a relationship with her sister I guess. The ball is in her court to fix this. I'd be very hurt too in your shoes 😔

You have not the first idea. I was responding to OP.

She's consciously being vauge. Did she has less contact with her parents, did her parents financially support her more, did her wealthier sister support her parents, etc?

My father was always a difficult character, and lived abroad for final 12 years of his life. I maintained contact, while siblings / he didnt. When he had an accident abroad I paid for treatment, siblings refused. I solely cared for him in old age.

My father, rightly or wrongly, left me slightly more in his will. I split everything equally to avoid anamosity, but siblings felt they had "right" to equal share.

I wondered about this too. There will be an unequal split between my sibling and I when the last remaining parent dies. Over the last 20 years I have given up a lot to support them when needed. My sibling has done nothing despite being in a better position to help than I am. Last parent is disgusted with them, so has expressed that in the will. I won’t be sharing what I am left.

However, I will explain this clearly if asked. In this case, if OP is in the dark, it would be kinder to share the reasons.

Is a relationship with your sister worth more than money?
If the money is more important, end your relationship with her, and move on.

I agree with this POV, I think.

It must be hard to be on the receiving end of this, OP. And I'm not saying I would like it or be OK with it. At the same time, your parents must have had their reasons, and I can understand why - on being asked to more evenly distribute the money - your sister is taking her stance.

At the end of the day, it's your parents right to split the money how they wished and I don't think it's fair to expect your sister to rectify that when she clearly doesn't want to. If you don't want to speak to her because of this, that's your right too.

If inheritance is going to be split unevenly, I think it's the parents responsibility to make that known - and their reasons why - beforehand, rather than this way where fall outs are inevitable.

Blaming parents for your nastiness...

Wow! why would you say that? Parents can be cruel in all sorts of ways.

When we made our wills, one of our DC was in a far better financial position than the other, but we still split the bulk 50:50. As things have moved on, they are much more equal now. I would hate to leave any of my family feeling as the OP does, because it must be really tough to never get answers from the people who caused the upset.

Ouch

She’s hurt and confused, not necessarily ungrateful.

This!

I could not imagine not splitting it completely equally to save arguments after I die.

If one child was a millionaire and one was a single parent on a low income, then I wouldn’t split it equally but I’d sit them down and explain my reasons as soon as I’d changed it.