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AIBU to think of course all the anti-trans posts on this website and others are leading to real life harm?

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helpfulucy · 14/09/2026 15:39

Just seen a video of a trans woman minding her business in a train station getting horribly bullied by some Tommy Robinson wanna-be and couldn't help but think back to all the aggressive threads I've seen on Mumsnet.

Pages and pages of vilifying innocent trans people, calling them perverts and all sorts with zero evidence of anything of the sort of course would lead to people like this harassing and attacking trans people in public. I've see a few of so-called GC brigade say 'this isn't what we wanted' but it is the end, isn't it? If you do see trans people as disgusting abusive perverts trying to sneak into your changing rooms and hurt your daughter, you'd want them to be bashed in public yeah?

Am I wrong to think their chickens are coming home to roost and certain posters will want to claim they never had a hand in it all?

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Shedmistress · 15/09/2026 17:12

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2026 17:08

She got banned for being cheeky on a Stella Creasy webchat, not for any of the things the poster claims.

Was that the same Stella Creasy webchat where a mother who spoke about the violence her daughter had at school from a boy was called 'just peer on peer' violence not 'violence against women and girls', the inference being it was just like 'banter' and harmless?

AmberTigerEyes · 15/09/2026 17:12

ArabellaScott · 15/09/2026 17:12

What, on here?

Yes.

AmberTigerEyes · 15/09/2026 17:12

TheKeatingFive · 15/09/2026 17:09

Interesting context, thanks

I don’t know why she was banned, I wasn’t there. But it can’t have been just being cheeky. I only said she was banned for a reason.

ArabellaScott · 15/09/2026 17:12

AmberTigerEyes · 15/09/2026 17:11

I have seen posts that have said trans people are all pedophiles and the gender ideology is a conspiracy to make sex between adults and children legal. I have seen posts mocking and celebrating when a trans child is murdered with comments that most certainly would have caused harm. I have seen posts that have called for mass detention and imprisonment in camps of trans people. I have seen posts that advise child abuse when a child is questioning their identity instead of educating them.

What, on here?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2026 17:11

RedToothBrush · 15/09/2026 17:08

So am American wrote a book and included KJK to look like they understand the whole world but actually it has fuck all relevance to British politics?

Is that right?

Sounds depressingly predictable. Most American commentators don’t have a clue what the British gender critical feminist movement is.

AmberTigerEyes · 15/09/2026 17:11

TheKeatingFive · 15/09/2026 16:57

What posts do you think are causing real harm?

Can you be specific?

I have seen posts that have said trans people are all pedophiles and the gender ideology is a conspiracy to make sex between adults and children legal. I have seen posts mocking and celebrating when a trans child is murdered with comments that most certainly would have caused harm. I have seen posts that have called for mass detention and imprisonment in camps of trans people. I have seen posts that advise child abuse when a child is questioning their identity instead of educating them.

DeanElderberry · 15/09/2026 17:11

The theory seems to be:

'I disagree with the women on MN on some subjects'.

'I disagree with KJK on some subjects'.

Therefore: 'the women on MN agree with KJK on all subjects'. Even though she does not post on MN and many of them never read her anywhere.

ArabellaScott · 15/09/2026 17:10

AmberTigerEyes · 15/09/2026 16:33

Not at all. The “far right” is part of the title of the book I read:
“Pink Pilled: Women and the Far Right by Lois Shearing”

Edited

So ... what the fuck does that book have to do with this thread?

TheKeatingFive · 15/09/2026 17:09

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2026 17:08

She got banned for being cheeky on a Stella Creasy webchat, not for any of the things the poster claims.

Interesting context, thanks

RedToothBrush · 15/09/2026 17:08

AmberTigerEyes · 15/09/2026 17:04

It has a heavy US focus, but they did mention a few British women like Kellie Jay Keen and how in seeking support for single sex spaces, the far right radicalised her into Islamaphobia and then into trad wife territory where she has partnered with forced birth organisations and publicly stated she is willing to give up abortion rights. It also morphed her activism into the more patriarchal segregation of the sexes, biological essentialism that says women are inferior, weaker and need to be protected and all that entails.

I mean she was banned from MN for good reason. Those posts were doing harm.

So am American wrote a book and included KJK to look like they understand the whole world but actually it has fuck all relevance to British politics?

Is that right?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2026 17:08

TheKeatingFive · 15/09/2026 17:07

KJK was banned from MN years ago.

At least five. She was before my time.

And there’s no evidence about what she was actually posting on, on MN at that time. Or not that I know of.

She got banned for being cheeky on a Stella Creasy webchat, not for any of the things the poster claims.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2026 17:07

AmberTigerEyes · 15/09/2026 17:04

It has a heavy US focus, but they did mention a few British women like Kellie Jay Keen and how in seeking support for single sex spaces, the far right radicalised her into Islamaphobia and then into trad wife territory where she has partnered with forced birth organisations and publicly stated she is willing to give up abortion rights. It also morphed her activism into the more patriarchal segregation of the sexes, biological essentialism that says women are inferior, weaker and need to be protected and all that entails.

I mean she was banned from MN for good reason. Those posts were doing harm.

KJK is her own person. We’re not her keepers and there are lots of threads about her here with healthy debate. She’s done a lot of good things and she is brave. You don’t have to agree with her on everything to think that.

RedToothBrush · 15/09/2026 17:07

AmberTigerEyes · 15/09/2026 16:49

Some women have been and are. The book makes a compelling case about the line between activism and extremism.

Are sex based rights and protections extremist positions?

TheKeatingFive · 15/09/2026 17:07

AmberTigerEyes · 15/09/2026 17:04

It has a heavy US focus, but they did mention a few British women like Kellie Jay Keen and how in seeking support for single sex spaces, the far right radicalised her into Islamaphobia and then into trad wife territory where she has partnered with forced birth organisations and publicly stated she is willing to give up abortion rights. It also morphed her activism into the more patriarchal segregation of the sexes, biological essentialism that says women are inferior, weaker and need to be protected and all that entails.

I mean she was banned from MN for good reason. Those posts were doing harm.

KJK was banned from MN years ago.

At least five. She was before my time.

And there’s no evidence about what she was actually posting on, on MN at that time. Or not that I know of.

spannasaurus · 15/09/2026 17:05

AmberTigerEyes · 15/09/2026 17:04

It has a heavy US focus, but they did mention a few British women like Kellie Jay Keen and how in seeking support for single sex spaces, the far right radicalised her into Islamaphobia and then into trad wife territory where she has partnered with forced birth organisations and publicly stated she is willing to give up abortion rights. It also morphed her activism into the more patriarchal segregation of the sexes, biological essentialism that says women are inferior, weaker and need to be protected and all that entails.

I mean she was banned from MN for good reason. Those posts were doing harm.

You think KJK is a trad wife?

AmberTigerEyes · 15/09/2026 17:04

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2026 16:58

Life is short, I’ve got plenty of books to read, thanks. Would you read my book about naive left leaning women and how they enable abusive men?

Of course I would.

AmberTigerEyes · 15/09/2026 17:04

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2026 16:50

Which women are they then?

It has a heavy US focus, but they did mention a few British women like Kellie Jay Keen and how in seeking support for single sex spaces, the far right radicalised her into Islamaphobia and then into trad wife territory where she has partnered with forced birth organisations and publicly stated she is willing to give up abortion rights. It also morphed her activism into the more patriarchal segregation of the sexes, biological essentialism that says women are inferior, weaker and need to be protected and all that entails.

I mean she was banned from MN for good reason. Those posts were doing harm.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2026 16:58

AmberTigerEyes · 15/09/2026 16:57

The book I recommended researched the radicalisation process of women into the far right and the trans debate is one of several pipelines by which they do it. It might be useful for everyone to read to guard against those who have been radicalised and to protect against it.

Life is short, I’ve got plenty of books to read, thanks. Would you read my book about naive left leaning women and how they enable abusive men?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2026 16:57

AmberTigerEyes · 15/09/2026 16:55

What ‘far right’ bandwagon? If there is one, I’m not on it.

I am not here to debate. I said that some posts on here have gone well beyond advocating for women’s rights and I agree they are causing real harm to others.

Then I recommended a book which researched the radicalisation process of women into the far right and the trans debate is one of several pipelines by which they do it to show why some posts on MN have gone too far and ended up deleted.

Which posts. Specifically. If you can’t give an example, it’s just a vague smear.

TheKeatingFive · 15/09/2026 16:57

AmberTigerEyes · 15/09/2026 16:55

What ‘far right’ bandwagon? If there is one, I’m not on it.

I am not here to debate. I said that some posts on here have gone well beyond advocating for women’s rights and I agree they are causing real harm to others.

Then I recommended a book which researched the radicalisation process of women into the far right and the trans debate is one of several pipelines by which they do it to show why some posts on MN have gone too far and ended up deleted.

What posts do you think are causing real harm?

Can you be specific?

AmberTigerEyes · 15/09/2026 16:57

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2026 16:53

Why are these mysterious far right women relevant to women speaking up for sex based rights on Mumsnet?

The book I recommended researched the radicalisation process of women into the far right and the trans debate is one of several pipelines by which they do it. It might be useful for everyone to read to guard against those who have been radicalised and to protect against it.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2026 16:56

PrancingPanda · 15/09/2026 16:53

I never cease to be amazed by the number of women who are more than prepared to give away womens' rights; why?

OP tends to start many a post with insults- the snarky comment re day jobs???
Retired? Stay at home mums? Recently experienced redundancy?
FWR (and other boards) consists of a variety of posters in different circumstances. And those with the big fat cheques from the Far Right of course 🙄

Have there been any comments from the anti-womens' rights posters, regarding the 'terf is a slur' site? Or the vitriol on Reddit? Or the threats ? Or shouting down with loud hailers when women meet?

I haven't seen the aforementioned video, that sparked this thread.
Sounds unpleasant but it's not the fault of women!

No there hasn’t, just the normal mealy mouthed “I don’t condone either side”, as if calling for women to be raped, tortured, beheaded and punched in face is equivalent to the discourse on Mumsnet.

AmberTigerEyes · 15/09/2026 16:55

Gloriia · 15/09/2026 14:32

You know @AmberTigerEyes instead of jumping on the 'far right' 'bandwagon why not try and debate?

See if you can answer 2 simple questions for starters

  1. Why should women accept men in their single sex areas because men are scared of men?
  2. Why can't men just wear dresses if they so wish but accept it is impossible to change sex?

What ‘far right’ bandwagon? If there is one, I’m not on it.

I am not here to debate. I said that some posts on here have gone well beyond advocating for women’s rights and I agree they are causing real harm to others.

Then I recommended a book which researched the radicalisation process of women into the far right and the trans debate is one of several pipelines by which they do it to show why some posts on MN have gone too far and ended up deleted.

PrancingPanda · 15/09/2026 16:53

I never cease to be amazed by the number of women who are more than prepared to give away womens' rights; why?

OP tends to start many a post with insults- the snarky comment re day jobs???
Retired? Stay at home mums? Recently experienced redundancy?
FWR (and other boards) consists of a variety of posters in different circumstances. And those with the big fat cheques from the Far Right of course 🙄

Have there been any comments from the anti-womens' rights posters, regarding the 'terf is a slur' site? Or the vitriol on Reddit? Or the threats ? Or shouting down with loud hailers when women meet?

I haven't seen the aforementioned video, that sparked this thread.
Sounds unpleasant but it's not the fault of women!

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2026 16:53

Why are these mysterious far right women relevant to women speaking up for sex based rights on Mumsnet?

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