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Farrows1 · 13/09/2026 23:13

HELP ME! I’m desperate so I’m posting here.

I have an 8 year old girl that has been recently diagnosed with autism. We’ve done other health issues too and a paediatrician suggested she might be autistic.

nearly three years later we got the bit of paper that say she’s autistic.

it feels like that’s it. Discharged from the paeds team. School are overwhelmed with worse case kids. And besides she is “fine at school” due to masking

at home we walk on eggshells. But the worst are the frequent violent meltdowns. Punching, hitting, biting and it goes on for ages. Today she scratched her sibling. She hit me and broke a valuable item. We are all exhausted. She’s getting bigger and its Hard to stop her hurting me.

I’ve done so much research and purchased tools, fidget toys, books etc. all work mildly.

Ive referred myself to integrated front door for some help.

what the hell do I need? How can I help her? We are desperate and I’m so scared of her violent outbursts.

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Talkingfrog · 13/09/2026 23:28

Are there any parent run support groups or meet ups in your area?

Is there anything on the National Autistic Society website that can help in terms of finding support or using the online community?
Hoping you find some support.

cauliflowercheesey · 13/09/2026 23:18

Contact the council and ask what support they offer for families of children with disabilities and/or SEN. There will most likely be a team, either within the council or Health board (or both) and they will be able to offer advice and support. Sorry you’re going through this, it sounds really hard.

ETA: just re read and seen integrated first door, that sounds like it will set you on the right path. good luck x