I posted this below on ‘relationships’ last night and after having some helpful feedback, I’ve been thinking about it all day. I thought I’d post again here to ask AIBU to speak to DP about this now?
YABU - nothing has happened (yet) and you’ll open a can of worms and look mental for checking his work laptop.
YANBU - nip it in the bud now and hope it doesn’t backfire in your stupid face.
So I’m checking my partner’s work laptop (I know, but don’t). There have been some messages with a new-ish female colleague recently, nothing obviously untoward, but a couple of things are grating on me. The first message came from her when a senior colleague asked her to check something with DP. A few messages back and forth about work thing. He then tells her that they were both recently in the same place at the same time, with different clients and he thought it was weird (I’ve no idea why). He had been ‘waiting’ to tell her that but hadn’t had the ‘opportunity’ yet.
She was going on holiday in the summer and he messaged her to say he’s ‘disappointed I will miss you’ at the meeting, but enjoy your holiday etc. She mentions her ‘boys’ a couple of times and DP asks if ‘the boys’ includes her partner, like he didn’t know if she had one.
Am I reading too much into this?