AIBU to feel upset my daughter-in-law will not help with our dog?

if she doesn’t like dogs , that’s it. There are people who’ll come to yours ,those who offer stays at theirs or just walk and fed them. I don’t have dogs and was initially reluctant to look after my adult children’s dogs but love having them. One son and his wife like animals but have a toddler who adores the dogs but don’t want them in their home and we understand and respect that .

Kennels should be relatively quiet at this time of year. I have three dogs and no way would I ask anyone who didn’t like dogs to look after them under any circumstances. Ask a friend who likes dogs or take the dog to kennels.

Have you considered she might actually be afraid or allergic too rather than just dislike dogs, find a dog sitter or kennels.

Good advice. Though if the dog isn't fully vaccinated and inoculated against kennel cough, that might not be possible in short order.

Indeed.

It's precisely for such emergency occasions that I advise people who own dogs NEVER to rely solely on friends and family looking after them.

Have you considered a kennel?

I find this really weird

Not the fact she won't look after the mut I wouldn't either

But the fact you take it to their house when you know she doesn't like them

Pop the dog in kennels

If she is not a dog person, your dog would not have a happy time anyway. Even if she did do you a favour, in the circumstances you have, it probably would not be the right solution.

Not everyone likes dogs. She doesn’t. End of

Pay for a dog sitter!

If she doesn't like dogs and doesn't feel comfortable around the dog then she shouldn't have to look after your dog. I wouldn't want a dog in my house either as I don't feel comfortable. Good on your DIL for saying no

Does your DIL refer to herself as a housewife? I find this an extremely dated and sexist term. The way you speak about your DIL is generally quite derogatory. You come across as saying that your Dd's are far too busy with their important jobs, but as a lowly 'housewife' your DIL's time should be completely at your disposal. Also your Dd's have no right to get annoyed that DIL doesn't want YOUR dog in HER house. You all sound extremely entitled.

Myself and my youngest Dd are slightly nervous around dogs. DH and oldest DD are terrified of them (DH was attacked and pulled to the floor by 3 dogs as a child). No, there is no way we would be having a dog in our house. It's unbelievable that you keep bringing yours round to DIL's, when she has told you where her boundaries are. To be annoyed at her for not wanting to look after your dog too... Unbelievable!

OP has pet sitters, but none of them are available at such short notice.

I’m an animal lover and will 99% of the time side with the dog/dog owner, but in this case OP even I think you’re being batshit unreasonable.

Any annoyance should be directed towards your own kids, if anyone. Your son can come home or your daughters can take time off work. Why should your DIL have to help when she has been clear and consistent about her boundaries ?

Also, why are you taking the poor dog to DIL’s house when you know it’ll have to sit outside the whole time ? Leave the dog at home!

More importantly though, as a dog owner you should have something in place for emergencies rather than just assuming that family will jump in. A good option is to have a paid pet sitter in place, who has taken time to get to know your dog and who your dog feels comfortable with. That doesn’t help you right now but hopefully this situation will be a prompt for you to sort it out.

I hate that a fear or phobia of dogs is just ignored, either the 'It's fine, they're lovely' type that then shoves the dog in your face, or it's mocked as not real.

Maybe consider other phobias? I don't have a problem with spiders or snakes, but I'm not about to minimise others fears, or chuck a spider at them and say, it's fine! He's lovely.

I don't think reasons for saying no are relevant even in extreme situations. Someone asks you to do something. You say I am really sorry but that won't be possible.

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Of course she's unreasonable - there are plenty of people that like dogs and make a living out of looking after them - but she doesn't want pay and is expecting someone who is scared of dogs - lets face it she is minimising it by saying 'doesn't like' - should suck it up since she's cheap

Also surely the dog would not enjoy staying somewhere where it is disliked? YABU

YABU and shouldn't have even asked her if you know that she doesn't like dogs.

There must be kennels near you.

Eloquently said.

I bet these are the same people who spend hours at the wheel because their adult children 'won't use public transport'.

Maybe she does not want the expense of dog food, collars and leads, dog toys, vet bills either, but that is her problem. If you decide to get a dog, you are responsible for dog-related expenses, including those you have not foreseen because you did not think your decision through properly. If you begrudge the expense, or cannot afford it, you just don't get a dog. Nobody is obliged to have one.

Dunno why I posted a waving man.
I can't edit him out though!