AIBU to feel upset my daughter-in-law will not help with our dog?

I was definitely singing it as i posted! 🤣🤣🤣

Maybe dog sitting was what meatloaf was singing about all along!

I'm far from inflexible when it comes to helping family and friends in emergencies and also in day to day life.

But i don't do that (dogsitting)

Probably but that’s never bothered me 😁 I don’t have much time for people who don’t like dogs. I honestly think there is something fundamentally wrong with them. And yes I have been bitten by a dog

It’s not about that though is it - if you aren’t a dog person, you won’t even know where to begin in looking after a dog!

So you think it's ok to dump a supposedly much loved pet with someone who doesn't want to, and doesn't know how to, look after it.

As I said upthread, the so-called dog haters aren't the problem here.

Unlikely since OP's previous thread was complaining that DIL/DS haven't asked her to look after their child after OP dropped them on their head.

I'd much rather have the snake! I like snakes, I'm comfortable handling them, and they don't smell.
I have the emotional bandwidth to realise that other people feel differently.

tbh its better she says no than take your dog in and not look after it. Depends on why she doesnt like dogs and how long you will be away for

I love dogs (all animals) and hate people and even I am struggling to find your DIL as unreasonable here. Dogs are a HUGE commitment, and if someone doesn’t want to look after a dog that they did not choose or commit to then that is absolutely their right.

It’s your dog and your responsibility no one has to look after it for you and the fact you get some help from your other daughters is a real positive. You have options these are dog kennels and pet sitters. Sounds like you don’t want to pay for food quality care for your dog

The fact that you bring your dog to their house when you visit is very telling.

She doesn’t like dogs. The end.
I don’t like dogs either and don’t want one in my house, ever. Sorry if that offends the ‘dogs are people too’ brigade but dog folk really need to start understanding that not everyone likes your furry friend!

There was a past thread mentioned yesterday where OP talks about dropping her grandchild on its head and not being trusted to care for the child again. So I am guessing not.

I find the inflexibility of posters disappointing.
So much for family. She does not even appear to want to help in an emergency unforeseen situation. Hope DIL never needs help

Then you lack empathy.

My partner and me absolutely love dogs and we are the go too people when our friends need dog sitters. Iv looked after every thing from a dash hound to a XL bully. We treat them as if they were our own pets. But I fully understand that your SIL is not a dog person. I still don’t understand how people cannot love dogs. They are frikking wonderful

I know it’s your dog and your problem but I’d be pissed off with her and take a real dislike to her…yes it’s unreasonable but I would. I just find people like this really awkward and childish, just bloody help out in a difficult situation total wet wipe

Can you not put the dog in the kennels?

I cannot stand dogs and wouldn’t help in this situation. I am actually quite a helpful person who volunteers myself for stuff but this is something I wouldn’t do.

I’ve been in a bind a few times with my cat and would never feel this way to anyone who couldn’t or wouldn’t help out. It was my choice to get a pet and I understand sometimes that means having to board her even though I hate doing so and prefer a pet sitter. The only responsibility is my own.

Do you help them out a lot with grandkids a lot?
Even if you do, I still think yabu, but understand why you’d be a bit cross. However people who are dog owners often don’t get that it’s a big ask to ask others to care for your dog. I’m not even sure I’d know how!

It’s really not the same thing.
It’s a lot of responsibility looking after someone else’s dog, especially when have you have little to no experience of dogs.

It is not as if DIL has always been fine with the dog and is now refusing in OP’s hour of need.
OP knows the situation but is pushing the boundaries and then feeling annoyed.

Can the dog go in a kennel or have someone look after him/her in your house. My friend does thos. Theres a charge but dog looked after at home, so all is good!

This is daft. It’s your pet! Imagine if a
relative decided you needed to care for their horse in your garden due to a personal emergency. Or take in their snake etc. having a pet is tricky in these circumstances but it’s why you need an iron clad option such as a decent local kennel or sitter.

You've no justification in my mind for feeling cross with her. I'm not a dog person and wouldn't ever have a dog in my house. Your dogs are your responsibly not hers. Dogs can be very unpredictable and make me anxious at times.

Dog owner and dog lover here. You are being unreasonable to both your DiL AND your dog. Why would you want someone who doesn’t like dogs to care for your pet? She’s said she doesn’t like dogs. So she’s entitled to refuse. I’m sorry you’re having a stressful time, but you need to organise a dog sitter or kennels.