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AIBU to want an apology after a colleague injured my ankle?

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Scrrt · 13/09/2026 16:59

a few weeks ago I was coming out of the staff room at work and a colleague came flying in, crashed into me, knocked me out of my shoe and I stumbled and landed awkwardly on my ankle. It’s been weak and painful ever since. I had to cancel a charity race and Ive had time off work for appointments and X-rays.

Her response was “well I was hungry”. Everyone who saw it happen finds it hilarious. People who didn’t see it finds the description hilarious. I don’t and I’m pissed off. I want her to acknowledge it and acknowledge that it was her fault and apologise rather than it still being treated like a comedy sketch.

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researchers3 · 13/09/2026 23:07

TwinklyAmberSloth · 13/09/2026 17:25

Are you for real?

Someone came through a doorway with such force/speed it knocked someone over, and then rather than apologising, they made an excuse and said "well I was hungry".

That's shockingly bad behaviour.

Bursting through a door because you're hungry is one thing, but if your actions then knock a person flying, you apologise for your mistake.

@Scrrt that's really awful. And the fact people find it funny indicates it's a work place with a bit of a bullying culture???

I agree with this. And it should have been logged as a work accident aswell.

Sereine · 13/09/2026 22:59

ColdAsAWitches · 13/09/2026 17:19

I'm not entirely sure it was her fault though. Two people bumped into each other because neither of you can see through doors. I'm sure it's annoying and painful, but nobody is necessarily at fault.

She ran into the room and barged out of her way the person who was between her and the fridge. How could that possibly be the fault of OP?

SummerPunch · 13/09/2026 22:53

Offherrockingchair · 13/09/2026 17:16

Take a bit of time off work and say it was due to being injured in the workplace. Presumably there’ll be a form to complete and they may start taking it seriously then? She’s very rude not to apologize!

Good idea

Sereine · 13/09/2026 22:52

DandelionSeeds · 13/09/2026 17:18

Im not convinced there wasn't fault on both sides.
She definitely shouldn't have barged into the room or you, but were your shoes aporopiate? Don't think ive ever fallen out of a pair of shoes.

Edited

Come off it. Who the hell thnks , when they choose their shoes, "Hang on, are these shoes totally suitable for use in case someone comes charging into a room and barges into me? How about if I have to go tightrope walking, or if I'm in a flood, or if I step on a bomb?

Sereine · 13/09/2026 22:48

ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/09/2026 17:01

So she didn’t say sorry at all at the time? Wasn’t it just an accident anyway? I assume the door doesn’t have glass in it, so she couldn’t see you were there. I’d have expected an apology in the moment but that’s it

No, it wasn't "just an accident". It was an accident which was totally avoidable with a minimal amount of common sense and forethought. If the door was opaque, that is all the more reason to be careful.

ifonlytheydlisten · 13/09/2026 22:46

Offherrockingchair · 13/09/2026 17:16

Take a bit of time off work and say it was due to being injured in the workplace. Presumably there’ll be a form to complete and they may start taking it seriously then? She’s very rude not to apologize!

This from me too. Take two weeks off and then see what they say

5foot5 · 13/09/2026 22:25

Notsosweetcaroline · 13/09/2026 21:07

It was an accident, she didn’t hurt you on purpose

But flinging open a door when you can't see who might be on the other side and barging through yourself is stupid, careless and reckless. There is always a chance someone could be coming in the opposite direction. Forget the pointless discussion about the OP's shoes. What if she had been carrying a hot drink?

The colleague almost certainly didn't do this on purpose but surely any normal person would be mortified at having hurt someone and would apologise. And hopefully learn from the experience and resolve to take more care in future. As it is she just seems to be brushing off the consequences of her carelessness.

I think it would be entirely appropriate for the OP to make a quiet point that she was actually hurt by this incident, enough to embarrass the careless mare who knocked her over

ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/09/2026 22:23

PsychoSyd · 13/09/2026 22:09

This needs to be reported under your workplace health and safety using an Accident/Incident Report (AIR) form. After the initial submission, one of your Locally Nominated Health & Safety Officers (LNHSO) should contact you to talk about the incident. Make sure you tell them everything, including any medical reports you might have. Also include how it made you feel & continues to make you feel. This could have been far more serious (facial injuries, broken nose or jaw) & your workplace needs to do something about the door & your colleague.

It doesn’t even say if she fell to the ground, so broken jaw is a bit of a stretch. Surely broken ankle would sound more realistic.

PsychoSyd · 13/09/2026 22:09

This needs to be reported under your workplace health and safety using an Accident/Incident Report (AIR) form. After the initial submission, one of your Locally Nominated Health & Safety Officers (LNHSO) should contact you to talk about the incident. Make sure you tell them everything, including any medical reports you might have. Also include how it made you feel & continues to make you feel. This could have been far more serious (facial injuries, broken nose or jaw) & your workplace needs to do something about the door & your colleague.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/09/2026 22:00

CakesForAll · 13/09/2026 21:57

Ok, this is the last time. Falling out of your shoes when someone knocks forcefully into you does not mean your shoes did not fit. No one said she was the victim of a crime, although now you mention it, recklessness can be an element of assault occasioning actual bodily harm. End of conversation with you.

Glad you ended it on such a calm rational note 😂

CakesForAll · 13/09/2026 21:57

ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/09/2026 21:53

Because someone bumped into her, she fell out of the shoe and hurt her ankle doing so. It’s not hard to understand. It was an accident she’s hardly the victim of a crime.

Edited

Ok, this is the last time. Falling out of your shoes when someone knocks forcefully into you does not mean your shoes did not fit. No one said she was the victim of a crime, although now you mention it, recklessness can be an element of assault occasioning actual bodily harm. End of conversation with you.

pimplebum · 13/09/2026 21:56

The fact that everyone thinks it was hilarious and you are not seriously hurt and will make a full recovery - i think you may need to let it go

Or you could maybe limp a bit around her or make sure she catches you will an ice pack or bandage
send out an send all email asking if people would like a refund fr the sponsor money due to injuries sustained

ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/09/2026 21:53

CakesForAll · 13/09/2026 21:51

How do you know they didn't fit "properly"? they could have been court shoes, heeled mules, whatever. Suitable for an office. As well you know. Talk about blaming the victim.

Because someone bumped into her, she fell out of the shoe and hurt her ankle doing so. It’s not hard to understand. It was an accident she’s hardly the victim of a crime.

CakesForAll · 13/09/2026 21:51

ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/09/2026 21:50

Steel toe capped wouldn’t have made a difference here. Just shoes that fit properly

How do you know they didn't fit "properly"? they could have been court shoes, heeled mules, whatever. Suitable for an office. As well you know. Talk about blaming the victim.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/09/2026 21:50

CakesForAll · 13/09/2026 21:48

"Unsuitable" for what? For being barged into with force? That is ridiculous. Should we all wear steel toe-capped boots to the office in case some idiot runs into a room, flinging the door open, totally reckless as to whether anyone might be in the vicinity on the other side of the door?

Steel toe capped wouldn’t have made a difference here. Just shoes that fit properly

CakesForAll · 13/09/2026 21:48

ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/09/2026 20:27

I’d be surprised if this worked for OP, she fell out of her own shoes which must have been unsuitable.

"Unsuitable" for what? For being barged into with force? That is ridiculous. Should we all wear steel toe-capped boots to the office in case some idiot runs into a room, flinging the door open, totally reckless as to whether anyone might be in the vicinity on the other side of the door?

RitaIncognita · 13/09/2026 21:47

It was the coworker's heedless action that set in motion the circumstances that caused the OP's injury, not the OP's choice of footwear.

And for those posters who are saying it was just an accident as though that relieves the coworker of any responsibility, do you think the coworker's action was unreasonable? Or negligent? A person does not have to intentionally cause harm in order to be responsible for it.

CakesForAll · 13/09/2026 21:45

MrsKateColumbo · 13/09/2026 19:44

Your post is a bit full of hyperbole, "flying in", "flung the door open" then you fell out of your shoes?Confused nobody should laugh but you sound a bit drama llama

How do you know it's "hyperbole"? We have no reason to believe it did not happen exactly like that.

BlueMum16 · 13/09/2026 21:45

ArseSkinForAFriend · 13/09/2026 17:19

She should've apologised at the time.

But as it was a few weeks ago, I would've let it go by now.

This. it's weeks ago. Move on.

CakesForAll · 13/09/2026 21:43

Notsosweetcaroline · 13/09/2026 21:07

It was an accident, she didn’t hurt you on purpose

Have you not heard of the concept of recklessness?

ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/09/2026 21:22

Bookbears · 13/09/2026 21:06

Your username is quite fitting for the explanation of your question. I would imagine OP was wearing heels and when this troll came barging through the door and knocked into the OP, she stumbled, twisted her ankle and her shoe came off.

Seen it many times whilst out on a Saturday night when people have had too much to drink. It’s really not difficult to imagine 🙄.

OP wasn’t out in the town drunk on a Saturday though in silly heals was she. She was sober at work, even in heels they shouldn’t be that easy to come off

PaperPanama · 13/09/2026 21:14

Notsosweetcaroline · 13/09/2026 21:07

It was an accident, she didn’t hurt you on purpose

Doesn’t absolve her from apologising or checking that the person she hurt is OK. Certainly doesn’t entitle her to make a joke out of somebody else’s injury.

FreddysFingers · 13/09/2026 21:10

Bookbears · 13/09/2026 20:55

I have been in a similar situation at work before in the ladies toilets. There’s a particular colleague who refuses to touch the door handles so she kicks the door to the main toilet open and then again goes and kicks the cubicle doors too before using toilet paper to close the latch. The main toilet door is a fire door in our workplace so it’s heavy and she has to kick it with a lot of force to open it. It’s solid so you can’t see through it, I was coming out of the main toilet as she was coming in and she smacked me in the face with the door! I didn’t see her and wasn’t expecting her to be kicking a door into my face at the time. So these people really do exist unfortunately!

She sounds a class A idiot!!

FreddysFingers · 13/09/2026 21:08

She sounds very rude and childish OP 'I was hungry' is a dick comment to make! If she didn't apologise at the time, then I can understand why you were annoyed, but as it's been some time since she did it, I doubt you'll get any concern or worry from her now.

Notsosweetcaroline · 13/09/2026 21:07

It was an accident, she didn’t hurt you on purpose

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