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Would you hang this in your house?

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Floofparty · 13/09/2026 14:41

My DH has inherited a framed certificate and medal which was presented to a relative in 1937 when she was a British army nurse. She was stationed in Spain when a German battleship was bombed and she helped care for the injured.

The medal was awarded to her by the German Red Cross with the approval of Adolf Hitler, and his name is very prominent on the certificate - it stands out more than any of the other text. Do you think it’s bad taste to hang this in our house, or is it merely an interesting piece of historical memorabilia?

YABU - guests may take offence or think it odd
YANBU - hang the frame

OP posts:
DailyPlanner · 13/09/2026 21:22

greyss · 13/09/2026 21:09

I think it's fine if you want to display it. It sounds like a piece of your husband's family history. Truman authorised the bombing of Hiroshima and Nagasaki but this conversation wouldn't be happening if it was his signature.

spot on!

Notsosweetcaroline · 13/09/2026 21:21

Duckduckgander · 13/09/2026 21:16

Absolutely no reason to whatsoever! I'm totally baffled by some of the posts.

It's quite sad that people can't get past the obvious issue to the fact it's actually about a brave dedicated nurse.

I'd like to think that if such an item was displayed in my house, that anyone that I choose to have to my home would have the intelligence and curiosity to ensure they understood exactly what it was.

I don’t think it takes a rocket scientist to read it and understand it, maybe the only question is who was she.

the question I would have is did she display it once what hitler was became apparent, and why the hell would any one else.

as said, she didn’t do what she did so Hitler could recognise her. That was by the by.

Lampsandlightsandotherthings · 13/09/2026 21:21

i Would not have something with hhitlers name on in my home no. Categorically not.

pizzaHeart · 13/09/2026 21:19

I wouldn’t but that was my answer before I even got to mentioning of Hitler.
I would consider hanging it somewhere if you have sort dedicated space with a lot of things about this relative or other relatives Just this one ? No

Notsosweetcaroline · 13/09/2026 21:19

I’d keep it if I was close to and loved the relative. I would not display it.and if I’m honest I’d judge anyone who would,

did the recipient even display it. Knowing what evolved with hitler and that he was responsible for up to 50 million deaths after she received it. Because most people would view it with disgust. She did what she did because of who she was. Because it was her job. She didn’t do it for recognition from hitler.

Duckduckgander · 13/09/2026 21:16

Floofparty · 13/09/2026 17:43

Because we don’t see it as a “problem” or some sort of shameful secret. Why should we?

Absolutely no reason to whatsoever! I'm totally baffled by some of the posts.

It's quite sad that people can't get past the obvious issue to the fact it's actually about a brave dedicated nurse.

I'd like to think that if such an item was displayed in my house, that anyone that I choose to have to my home would have the intelligence and curiosity to ensure they understood exactly what it was.

LaurieFairyCake · 13/09/2026 21:15

Definitely hang it

There is nothing more loving or compassionate than caring for the enemy in a time of war. It is literally the best of humanity. 🙏🥰

greyss · 13/09/2026 21:09

I think it's fine if you want to display it. It sounds like a piece of your husband's family history. Truman authorised the bombing of Hiroshima and Nagasaki but this conversation wouldn't be happening if it was his signature.

Duckduckgander · 13/09/2026 20:54

Crispsandcola · 13/09/2026 20:35

I don't think being disgusted by the glorification of N*zis counts as 'having an attitude' 😏

Can you explain how you feel the item glorifies the Nazis?

The nurse carried out her duty to provide medical attention.

Medical staff are obligated to treat all individuals without discrimination.

The purpose of medical neutrality is not only to ensure that all parties receive medical care but that medical personnel can attend to the wounded without coming under attack themselves.

DailyPlanner · 13/09/2026 20:49

noctilucentcloud · 13/09/2026 20:17

There's a whole host of people that may come into your home - plumbers, electricians, decorators, health visitors, district nurses, bulky item delivery drivers (new sofa etc), dog walkers / pet sitter, baby sitters, cleaners, neighbours to water the plants if you're away for a longer holiday... I even had the police in my lounge for 45 mins to take a witness statement.

and?
|t's still your PRIVATE home. Why shouldn't you put things that are private to you, and have no controversy whatsoever unless someone is very ill educated and not very bright.

You are not making a statement by putting things in your private home.

You don't hide books away either, because someone might be "offended" by a title?

DailyPlanner · 13/09/2026 20:45

Crispsandcola · 13/09/2026 20:35

I don't think being disgusted by the glorification of N*zis counts as 'having an attitude' 😏

that's the point, where exactly do you see "glorification of Nazis"?

You know you can write the word, you don't catch Nazis by writing it?

SethTrek · 13/09/2026 20:43

beaglescurleduplikebagels · 13/09/2026 16:46

Both, surely?

I mean, there's a reason people tidy up before guests come over, and don't leave their dirty pants or sex toys or whatever in public view - because some things just aren't appropriate to have out in front of other people.

Are you equating sex toys and dirty underwear to an award given to a HCP by a nation's Red Cross? That's extremely disrespectful to that Nurse
Hiltler was the leader of that nation's Red Cross at that time, but that's as far as any relevance to yon devil goes.

Crispsandcola · 13/09/2026 20:35

DailyPlanner · 13/09/2026 18:16

I am sure they would be distraught to loose someone with your attitude 😂

I don't think being disgusted by the glorification of N*zis counts as 'having an attitude' 😏

Duckduckgander · 13/09/2026 20:27

Monty36 · 13/09/2026 18:24

It does. Everyone should know the history of Hitler and the Nazi party.
The only people who would hang such memorabilia would be supporters of both. And that assumption and impression given would be strong.
To say you do not understand why anyone would be offended is a joke surely? Or are you very ignorant ? Or a Nazi sympathiser. To man who murdered millions, gassed children, tortured many, experimented on them, disabled people of all nationalities and religions.
But you cannot understand why anyone would be offended. Such attitudes in themselves offend.

I don't think anyone posting here is unaware of hitler or the Nazis. Posters that see value in the item aren't Nazi sympathisers. They're just appreciating the document is about recognising the efforts of a brave, compassionate nurse.

She won't have been the only nurse that attended to enemy soldiers. Look up Edith Cavell, nurses such as them shouldn't be forgotten.

What is it that you find so objectionable? That medical attention was given to injured Germans or that the document refers to Hitler?

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 13/09/2026 20:24

He inherited it, it was never presented to him. He doesn't need to keep it and he most def doesn't need to display it - it isn't his as it wasn't him that earned it nor was he presented with it.

I am sure there will be some museum that would like it as a piece of history.

Jc2001 · 13/09/2026 20:22

It could be the start of an interesting collection of war memorabilia.

HoppityBun · 13/09/2026 20:22

It’s a humanitarian award and the relative, far from doing anything to be ashamed of, was caring for injured people.

It’s bizarre that H signed it, which gives a sort of perverse curiosity. The real problem is that some people might think the pride was in having his name on it, rather than being proud of the relative . I think it would disrespect the nursing that the relative gave to get rid of it and feel ashamed of it. But have it somewhere out of the way and maybe attach a little note beside it, like an exhibit in an art exhibition, to explain her name and what she did.

noctilucentcloud · 13/09/2026 20:17

DailyPlanner · 13/09/2026 19:34

but I think knowing it's a private home is relevant.

While it might be confusing in an shop or a work place, you only invite friends and family in your home. Not some random from the street. People you have discussions with, people who can ask about the frame if they notice and if they are curious.

If you see an iron cross medal hanging on a friend and relative wall, you don't immediately assume "it's nazi". You ask the history of it?
Your friends won't be that ignorant they will be offended on behalf of someone else.

There's a whole host of people that may come into your home - plumbers, electricians, decorators, health visitors, district nurses, bulky item delivery drivers (new sofa etc), dog walkers / pet sitter, baby sitters, cleaners, neighbours to water the plants if you're away for a longer holiday... I even had the police in my lounge for 45 mins to take a witness statement.

BeSharpHelper · 13/09/2026 20:02

DailyPlanner · 13/09/2026 19:34

but I think knowing it's a private home is relevant.

While it might be confusing in an shop or a work place, you only invite friends and family in your home. Not some random from the street. People you have discussions with, people who can ask about the frame if they notice and if they are curious.

If you see an iron cross medal hanging on a friend and relative wall, you don't immediately assume "it's nazi". You ask the history of it?
Your friends won't be that ignorant they will be offended on behalf of someone else.

I was thinking more along the lines of i wouldnt hang it in the hallway / downstairs toilet, as the Amazon/ Royal Mail/ meter reader/ workmen might see it . But I think im quite unusual in that I allow strangers in my house and let them use the toilet !

Shinyhappyapple · 13/09/2026 19:57

I think it’s interesting from a historical perspective but I wouldn’t hang it in my house. Mainly because I don’t have that kind of decor / display anyway.

Duckduckgander · 13/09/2026 19:53

I'd display it, I'd feel proud to have a family member who'd demonstrated the sort of compassion required to do what she did.

I understand that to many it would feel utterly distasteful to display a document containing the signature of someone as abhorrent as hitler. But the story behind the item is of someone who was the antithesis of hitler.

She didn't allow her actions be dictated by hate or discrimination. She must have been incredibly, brave, dedication and compassionate.

I feel it would be a shame for such an item to be hidden away for fear of offending people. She did something quite remarkable and deserves to be remembered. If you don't feel comfortable displaying it then I'm sure it would be of interest to the Imperial War Museums.

Thepeopleversuswork · 13/09/2026 19:44

I wouldn’t display anything with Adolf Hitler’s signature on but I would keep it: it’s a fascinating heirloom! When you know people well and can give the context it would be really interesting.

DailyPlanner · 13/09/2026 19:34

BeSharpHelper · 13/09/2026 18:24

A nurse shouldn’t discriminate or deny medical treatment for moral reasons. She was a good nurse and it’s an amazing piece of history . I would hang it somewhere , but maybe not anywhere where people could see it without knowing the context.

but I think knowing it's a private home is relevant.

While it might be confusing in an shop or a work place, you only invite friends and family in your home. Not some random from the street. People you have discussions with, people who can ask about the frame if they notice and if they are curious.

If you see an iron cross medal hanging on a friend and relative wall, you don't immediately assume "it's nazi". You ask the history of it?
Your friends won't be that ignorant they will be offended on behalf of someone else.

LivingTheDreamish · 13/09/2026 19:10

I was going to say downstairs loo until I got to Hitler. This belongs in the loft OP.

TheCoatThatLaunched1000Emails · 13/09/2026 19:07

As you say Hitler's name is 'prominent' I might consider covering that part of the certificate with a photograph of the relative you're honouring - not in a way that would damage the certificate, perhaps put it in a plastic slip cover and stick the photo onto the slip cover.

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