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To cancel going to friends wedding

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Watdidusay · 12/09/2026 21:18

We have a close friends wedding to attend in 6 weeks. It's been booked about 6 months in advance. We've prepaid for travel, hotels, childminding and bought traditional clothing for the event. I'm in the wedding party.

Just received an invite to my SILs wedding today (DHs sister) for the same date. In 6 weeks time.
Different part of the country.

Family are all saying we have to cancel the other wedding. We are going to be out hundreds of £.

AIBU to go to family wedding instead just to make my life easier? Everyone is angry at me for even considering not going to DHs sisters wedding. I feel terrible.

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DidYeAye16 · 12/09/2026 21:21

If you're in the wedding party you can't pull out now. Dh can go to his sisters and you your friends.

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 12/09/2026 21:21

I’d go to my friends wedding no contest.

Holdinguphalfthesky · 12/09/2026 21:21

Bit odd that she didn’t ask you to save the date. Unless she did?

But you’re in the wedding party of your friend! Are you a bridesmaid?

Maybe you go to your friend’s wedding and your husband goes to his sister’s?

Peonies12 · 12/09/2026 21:20

My god that’s a tough one. I am pretty shocked someone is only sending invites 6 weeks out, without at least checking availability first? Honestly id probably go to your friends wedding and let DH go to his sisters.