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To want to know why I feel so tired/ill all the time!!

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Bamboozle30001 · 12/09/2026 18:22

I'm 41, 5ft 7in 12 stone and I strength train for half an hour 4 days a week. I do under 20k steps due to being a cleaner 5 days a week. I eat very well and log my food on myfitnesspal.

Last week doctors thought my gallbladder was inflamed but, bloods, urine and a further physical exam all came back fine. Then why for the love of God am I am ALWAYS tired?Energy drinks or black coffee do nothing. I sleep for 8 hours.

I'd had a previous blood test a few weeks back as I suspected perimenopause but apart from high reading of b12...which I have no idea where that came from as I don't eat much in the way of the foods mentioned that are fortified, or take vitamin supplements either. I do have fibroids, but still I constantly feel tired and just generally unwell. Like the feeling that you're coming down with a cold, just run down all the bastard time.

Would it be worth getting a private doctor and see if there's any other tests or something because I am fed up of feeling like this.

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Bamboozle30001 · 13/09/2026 12:04

Ok i have sainsburys vitamin c gummies, feroglobin capsules and haliborange iron+ energy support gummies.

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NewNameW · 13/09/2026 11:58

Why are you on weight loss jabs yet taking protein powder for breakfast with waffles?

It seems backwards to be trying to consume extra calories whilst taking WLI medications.

Just have eggs ?

You are doing low cardio cleaning but that is movement regardless so don't focus on how many steps you've done, that's not a requirement to eat more or less - are you working slowly because you need to work slowly, or working slowly because you are tired?

Bamboozle30001 · 13/09/2026 11:15

LittleGreenDragons · 13/09/2026 11:10

My results for ferritin was 19

That is your problem right there and you need to focus on raising it. NHS guidelines regarding ferritin are abysmal and doctors are very dismissive of women's symptoms regarding it. No idea why as Europe would treat this so can only assume it's penny pinching rather than health.

To put this in perspective your level should be 70 for healthy hair growth, and around 100 for optimal health. 19 is very low. Make sure you take any iron supplements with Vitamin C, and no caffeine for one hour either side as it inhibits absorption. This means no coffee, tea, cola, chocolate OR energy drinks. It is buyable from Boots, pharmacies and most supermarkets.

Any vitamin c tablets? And any iron tablets? The boots is shut due to flooding so will have to go to Lamesburys now.

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LittleGreenDragons · 13/09/2026 11:10

My results for ferritin was 19

That is your problem right there and you need to focus on raising it. NHS guidelines regarding ferritin are abysmal and doctors are very dismissive of women's symptoms regarding it. No idea why as Europe would treat this so can only assume it's penny pinching rather than health.

To put this in perspective your level should be 70 for healthy hair growth, and around 100 for optimal health. 19 is very low. Make sure you take any iron supplements with Vitamin C, and no caffeine for one hour either side as it inhibits absorption. This means no coffee, tea, cola, chocolate OR energy drinks. It is buyable from Boots, pharmacies and most supermarkets.

beaglescurleduplikebagels · 13/09/2026 11:00

Bamboozle30001 · 13/09/2026 10:35

I wish i could get 9 hours sleep. I ha e to be up at 4am weekdays to finish cleaning and be back in time incase dh needs to go the office. I go to sleep as soon as our ds is asleep and now he's 5 its about 8pm or 8.30pm some nights.

Jeez. Getting up at 4am isn't going to be helping!

EveryoneUsingOutro · 13/09/2026 10:58

Bamboozle30001 · 13/09/2026 09:58

My periods are starting a few days earlier and are heavier and a day or two shorter now. But when i told the doctor this i was told no periods get lighter when going through perimenopause%menopause. Again young female doctor....

Jeez she’s going to find out pretty sharp that is NOT true, whatever her 50 year old textbook says!!!
Every woman I know well enough to discuss this with, including me, had horrendous heavy periods in the run up to menopause!

DuckWithOneWing · 13/09/2026 10:51

I'm just recovering from this, and in my case I had Epstein-Barr Virus (glandular fever) along with severe anaemia. I've run two marathons this year, but suddenly I got tired walking round Tesco! I hope you get some answers soon too.

Gribouille · 13/09/2026 10:43

Bamboozle30001 · 13/09/2026 08:57

I have one energy drink with breakfast everyday. Thats my treat.
Im still have discomfort and pain in my right side by ribcage. The co dydramol doesnt really help unless I take it all day

Just wondering - do you mean cocodamol? If you're taking codeine, it will make you tired and mess up your digestion... And if you're taking ibuprofen it can damage your gut lining and cause a bleed/anaemia...

I agree with the advice to get a printout of your results and take it from there.

Good luck, I know how demoralising it can be to be constantly tired - don't beat up on yourself for not living exactly right and 'doing all the right things'! 🤗

Bamboozle30001 · 13/09/2026 10:41

Even dh is saying why the fuck are you taking advice from people on the Internet and not an actual doctor. Wtf do you mean the doctors dont know what to test for? I could cry

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Bamboozle30001 · 13/09/2026 10:35

Bestfootforward11 · 13/09/2026 10:30

Just some thoughts to consider which may or may not make a difference, I think it’s likely to be a matter of trial and error!
cut the energy drink
eat more whole foods
Iron tablets
try 9 hours sleep
limit screens before bed
limit/cut out caffeine consumption
what do you do to relax?

I don’t know much about these things but as non medic it sounds like your body has gone through a lot with two types of weight loss drugs.

good luck x

I wish i could get 9 hours sleep. I ha e to be up at 4am weekdays to finish cleaning and be back in time incase dh needs to go the office. I go to sleep as soon as our ds is asleep and now he's 5 its about 8pm or 8.30pm some nights.

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OneNavyPoster · 13/09/2026 10:35

2 things I’d check for extreme fatigue - Obstructive Sleep Apnoea and Thyroid function.

Google the Epworth Sleepiness score. Complete it and take the results to your GP if you get a high score or if you snore badly. Obstructive Sleep Apnoea is relatively easy to treat with CPAP but is a high health risk if untreated.

Thyroid disease is much more common in women so largely under diagnosed and poorly treated. Thyroid regulates your metabolism and affects everything. Underactive thyroid causes everything in your body to slow down and so extreme fatigue.

Drs now only test one Thyroid hormone typically but this tells you nothing. They test TSH and this tells you how much demand there is for Thyroid hormones. But your demand (TSH) level can be normal even if your body isn’t making the right Thyroid hormones it needs.
You have to test the actual Thyroid hormone levels themselves - both Free T4 (storage) and Free T3 (active). Both of these need to be at a good level for your body to function well. Private test companies and discount codes listed on the Thyroid UK charity website.

i had a normal TSH level but my FT4 and FT3 were far too low and my underactive Thyroid (Hypothyroidism) had progressed into Autoimmune Thyroiditis (Hashimoto’s). I had a Thyroid antibody level 13 times above the top of the normal range - my immune system was destroying my Thyroid gland. I’d never have known this without private testing. Turns out I have a DIO2 gene variation and cannot metabolise Levothyroxine. There is a UK pressure group supported by all the UK Thyroid charities to get access to NHS prescription T3 - Liothyronine for those who need it; ITT - Improve Thyroid Treatment.
Ive had to go on to NDT via private Endocrinologist prescription.

Bamboozle30001 · 13/09/2026 10:34

beaglescurleduplikebagels · 13/09/2026 10:24

I find it interesting that you keep referring to them as a treat - what is that you like so much about them? There's absolutely nothing beneficial about them (diet wise) and I'm not surprised you feel like shit if you drink one everyday.

I guess the taste really. But I've felt like shit even before they were a thing. Even as a teenager, i would come home, have a nap for an hour (mum wouldn't let me nap for more than that) then have dinner/exercise.

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Bestfootforward11 · 13/09/2026 10:30

Just some thoughts to consider which may or may not make a difference, I think it’s likely to be a matter of trial and error!
cut the energy drink
eat more whole foods
Iron tablets
try 9 hours sleep
limit screens before bed
limit/cut out caffeine consumption
what do you do to relax?

I don’t know much about these things but as non medic it sounds like your body has gone through a lot with two types of weight loss drugs.

good luck x

Bamboozle30001 · 13/09/2026 10:29

euff · 13/09/2026 10:25

Are you eating veg/ fruit/fibre to go with all that protein?

Yes.

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Bamboozle30001 · 13/09/2026 10:28

itsme7 · 13/09/2026 10:25

Food, diet and GLp1’s are totally overwhelming. I haven’t used GLPs but i did get ChatGPT to help me build a low upf, high protein and fibre food plan.

You can tell it your budget and where you shop, as well as everything you’ve told us here. Then tell it to act as a qualified and registered dietician and give a list of foods to focus your meals on, snacks and meal ideas.

if you have tried ChatGPT before, you just need to download the app. You can write loads in the prompt box and then keep asking it questions or clarify anything you’re not clear about.

Honestly, I was over complicating it so much and it really helped me work out what to eat, what to have in moderation and how to speak to the GP about perimenopause so I was listened to and helped.

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I will look at that later. We're going out now. Thank you.

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itsme7 · 13/09/2026 10:25

Food, diet and GLp1’s are totally overwhelming. I haven’t used GLPs but i did get ChatGPT to help me build a low upf, high protein and fibre food plan.

You can tell it your budget and where you shop, as well as everything you’ve told us here. Then tell it to act as a qualified and registered dietician and give a list of foods to focus your meals on, snacks and meal ideas.

if you have tried ChatGPT before, you just need to download the app. You can write loads in the prompt box and then keep asking it questions or clarify anything you’re not clear about.

Honestly, I was over complicating it so much and it really helped me work out what to eat, what to have in moderation and how to speak to the GP about perimenopause so I was listened to and helped.

euff · 13/09/2026 10:25

Are you eating veg/ fruit/fibre to go with all that protein?

beaglescurleduplikebagels · 13/09/2026 10:24

Bamboozle30001 · 13/09/2026 10:22

Ok i will try that. Thank you. I know I should stop the one treat i have. Now its getting cooler i will likely go back to having my black coffees

I find it interesting that you keep referring to them as a treat - what is that you like so much about them? There's absolutely nothing beneficial about them (diet wise) and I'm not surprised you feel like shit if you drink one everyday.

Bamboozle30001 · 13/09/2026 10:22

beaglescurleduplikebagels · 13/09/2026 10:18

Get your protein via natural sources, not waffles and powder. The rest of your diet sounds fine so why not do something similar for breakfast? I would do full-fat greek yoghurt with fruit and granola, instead, for example.

And no energy drinks. They are so bad for you - yes, they give you a boost but they will then cause a massive slump which you can only recover from by having more energy drinks.

Ok i will try that. Thank you. I know I should stop the one treat i have. Now its getting cooler i will likely go back to having my black coffees

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domesticslattern · 13/09/2026 10:21

Bamboozle30001 · 13/09/2026 08:57

I have one energy drink with breakfast everyday. Thats my treat.
Im still have discomfort and pain in my right side by ribcage. The co dydramol doesnt really help unless I take it all day

Start by dropping an energy drink for breakfast everyday!!! That will put you out of whack from the start.

beaglescurleduplikebagels · 13/09/2026 10:18

Bamboozle30001 · 13/09/2026 10:15

I don't know what to eat then 😭 i need to have protein otherwise I wont be full up and then ill get fat again. Ive already been told im overweight its only by about 16lbs but still im trying everything but without glp i just cant lose the weight. Im always hungry. Always tired and im at my wits end. Im so fed up.

Get your protein via natural sources, not waffles and powder. The rest of your diet sounds fine so why not do something similar for breakfast? I would do full-fat greek yoghurt with fruit and granola, instead, for example.

And no energy drinks. They are so bad for you - yes, they give you a boost but they will then cause a massive slump which you can only recover from by having more energy drinks.

Bamboozle30001 · 13/09/2026 10:17

If i have snacks i go over 1800 calories. Even that amount is doing fuck all for weight loss. If i go lower at 1600 im hungry

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Bamboozle30001 · 13/09/2026 10:16

For lunch i had sweet potato with scrambled eggs and cheese. I will probably have turkey mince with salad and a chipotle sauce made with greek yoghurt and chipotle paste.

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Bamboozle30001 · 13/09/2026 10:15

beaglescurleduplikebagels · 13/09/2026 10:09

Is that a typical diet for you? What about lunch and dinner? Snacks?

Because on the face of it, you're having energy drinks and UPF nonsense for breakfast - so it's not really surprising that you feel like shit and that your stomach isn't very happy with you.

I don't know what to eat then 😭 i need to have protein otherwise I wont be full up and then ill get fat again. Ive already been told im overweight its only by about 16lbs but still im trying everything but without glp i just cant lose the weight. Im always hungry. Always tired and im at my wits end. Im so fed up.

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