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To want to know why I feel so tired/ill all the time!!

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Bamboozle30001 · 12/09/2026 18:22

I'm 41, 5ft 7in 12 stone and I strength train for half an hour 4 days a week. I do under 20k steps due to being a cleaner 5 days a week. I eat very well and log my food on myfitnesspal.

Last week doctors thought my gallbladder was inflamed but, bloods, urine and a further physical exam all came back fine. Then why for the love of God am I am ALWAYS tired?Energy drinks or black coffee do nothing. I sleep for 8 hours.

I'd had a previous blood test a few weeks back as I suspected perimenopause but apart from high reading of b12...which I have no idea where that came from as I don't eat much in the way of the foods mentioned that are fortified, or take vitamin supplements either. I do have fibroids, but still I constantly feel tired and just generally unwell. Like the feeling that you're coming down with a cold, just run down all the bastard time.

Would it be worth getting a private doctor and see if there's any other tests or something because I am fed up of feeling like this.

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backformoreofthesame · 12/09/2026 18:59

4 litres of water plus other stuff? That’s a lot

2 litres including liquid from your food is “normal “

ToddlerFun1234 · 12/09/2026 18:58

Do you have any joints issues/pain/recurrent injuries? Are you quite flexible?

I was diagnosed with hypermobility recently which explained a lot of issues, including fatigue. I was a dancer when young so I had never considered I was bendier than most. Hypermobility is a connective tissue disorder so it's not just that your joints are flexible and muscles have to work harder. It also affects how you absorb food, your cardiovascular system, your sleep, everything. Look it up. You have to change how you exercise as if you push yourself too much in the wrong ways it will cause even more fatigue.

Oioiqueen · 12/09/2026 18:56

Did they test I think it's T3 and T4 levels for your thyroid? Sometimes they don't test for both.

Pavementdweller · 12/09/2026 18:55

What did your GP say about the high B12? Was it just out of range or higher?

Bamboozle30001 · 12/09/2026 18:54

Megamegablahblah · 12/09/2026 18:51

I can have high B12, I think its because almond milk is fortified. The main ones to check are vit D, folate, ferritin. Do you drink enough water? Eat enough calories/protein/carb/healthy fat? Get enough sleep? Are you exposed to a lot of toxic cleaning products?

Yep I drink 4litres a day of water. I make sure to.eat enough protein and healthy fats such as avocado,nut butter etc. I dont believe I am exposed to much. Just spraying tables and wiping down and mopping floors. I sleep minimum 7 hours.

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Megamegablahblah · 12/09/2026 18:53

Energy drinks or black coffee do nothing Defo cut them out.

Megamegablahblah · 12/09/2026 18:51

I can have high B12, I think its because almond milk is fortified. The main ones to check are vit D, folate, ferritin. Do you drink enough water? Eat enough calories/protein/carb/healthy fat? Get enough sleep? Are you exposed to a lot of toxic cleaning products?

Bamboozle30001 · 12/09/2026 18:45

dizzydizzydizzy · 12/09/2026 18:38

Sorry to hear you are having a rough time. You say you have had blood tests. Have you you had all the regular tests such as ferritin, B12, vit D, diabetes and thyroid blood tests? If yes and they all ok, start looking further afield eg ME/CFS and coeliac disease

https://meassociation.org.uk/

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I had a full blood work test beforehand which showed elevated levels of b12 which baffled me. I need to have a repeat full work test in 2 months time to check again.

The blood test I had last week showed no abnormalities. It's hard as I have no energy to do anything or play with our DS.

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dizzydizzydizzy · 12/09/2026 18:38

Sorry to hear you are having a rough time. You say you have had blood tests. Have you you had all the regular tests such as ferritin, B12, vit D, diabetes and thyroid blood tests? If yes and they all ok, start looking further afield eg ME/CFS and coeliac disease

https://meassociation.org.uk/

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