Refusing to allow neighbour use driveway for toddler bday party?

Good work, OP. Continue to stand your ground.

I'd like to add potential property damage (and insurance matters) to your list of Reasons To Say No. What if the buddies are as CF-ish as the NDN? What if they damage your garden or fence while parking there? You're about to hand over your home to new owners; you'll want it looking good, with no insurance claims pending.

Just enjoy it. This is one of those little moments that can give a person pleasure.
She perhaps shouldn't have been a shit neighbour!

Well done. If someone isn’t nice to you, then don’t be nice to them back. I’m over this ‘being the bigger person’ crap.
The bigger person is always the mug.
good for you, you won’t be seeing her anymore soon so no need to give her any more headspace.
The cheek of HER to ask this when she has been rude to you.

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I once had neighbours like that - rude, entitled and constantly criticising me for ‘bringing down the tone of the street.’ I had better qualifications from better institutions than they had, admittedly I had never mentioned them as they did to me at every opportunity. When they wanted anything, they asked me to do it when it was really inconvenient and intrusive, like looking after their pets and even their DC. They got short shrift on that last one. I told them to engage a childminder!
What a happy day when they dragged themselves off to a ‘better area with a nice schooll’. Zero regrets about being unhelpful. All the people who have moved into their old house have been delightful.

Make sure you block your own driveway the night before the party. They will park there anyway if you don't, and it will cement in her mind that you really do think she's a cunt.

On the day of the party make sure your driveway is inaccessible to her guests. Actually if I was really petty I’d park over it so they can’t block you in either 😄

This is the petty I aspire to be!

I’d probably have rolled over for an easier life knowing I was leaving, but then, on the other hand, if I were leaving, I’d go all out ‘ScarFace’ style lol

How did the request play out OP?
Did you just give a flat no or make an excuse?
How did she respond? 🍿

Good for you. And on day of party, park on the street at the end of your drive so they can’t use it or block you in!

They are moving they are not going to be there

Nah, fuck em.

I’m probably the unfriendly neighbour and rarely interact with mine (well actually never). Makes life easier if they fuck you off and you need to have a go at them.

When I had my son's party my neighbour across the road messaged me to say for family to use her driveway as she would be out all afternoon, which was lovely and kind of her. But we do get on in a wave and say hello kind of way and no ill feeling. If your neighbour hasn't been kind to you then why would you keep putting yourself out to help? So you were absolutely fine!

Well she has reaped what she sowed.

It depends how you’d feel if you said yes I think. If you enjoy having the high moral ground and it makes you feel good you could say yes. But if it would make you feel like a pushover (understandably) or you just don’t want to, say no, as you have done.

Only you know which would be better for your peace of mind.

You dont get to be a rude and snotty neighbour than expect other people to do favours for you. Well done.

No is the correct answer. I agree with other posters…why be nice to people
who aren’t nice? She is only being nice because she wants something from you. And what seems a simple request a few hours for a party won’t be…guests overnight or her car overnight or something unexpected and inconsiderate. She didn’t suddenly become a thoughtful considerate neighbor.

absolutely be prepared for her and her guests to create parking problems day of event. Park your car so they cannot block you in or use your drive.

100%, people like this don’t get favours nor should they. As for rising above it and showing her how people should behave as someone else wrote (eye roll), that never works, it just gets you known as a push over and they’ll just take advantage of you more and more. Good for you, sounds like you’ve got this

Jeez how do you know she was reluctant to say hi? Maybe she had a lot on her mind. Honestly this sounds really petty.

Is parking on the road an issue?

Because she's a cheeky rude fucker and doesn't give OP time of day normally. So it's clearly going to be a big fat no

it is an inconvenience if you can't get on and off your own drive because complete strangers are blocking you in

And if they do there’s nothing you can really do about it 🤷‍♀️

God people are so precious over their bloody driveways

I’d have just said yes it will make zero diff to your life letting people park once for a few hours

Just be wary of her letting visitors park on there anyway!

in the OP