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Refusing to allow neighbour use driveway for toddler bday party?

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haloeeenbany · 12/09/2026 16:20

I'm probably going to sound really mean but my NDN out of the blue asked me today if some of her guests would be able to park on my driveway in a few weeks for her child's 2nd birthday party.

We have a DC who is the same age but they have never played or interacted so we defo wouldn't expect an invite or want one either.

We are literally waiting for handover for our new home so it's not like our kids would ever play interact anyway when we move.

For back story we don't really get on, she's very nosey and always talking about people, been the perpetrator of anti social behaviour and the moans about other neighbours doing stuff.

I have tried to remain civil as they live next door to me but last time prior today I saw her 3 months ago and said hello but she was very reluctant to say it back but did say "hi" but could tell she didn't really want to speak so we have just ignored each other since.

They have quite a few issues with other neighbours so it's not just me.

But when she asked me when I declined straight away without even thinking about it and walked back into the house.

AIBU?

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Minasama · 16/09/2026 19:09

How petty.

Hildegard25 · 16/09/2026 19:08

haloeeenbany · 12/09/2026 17:02

Well one of her visitors parked on our drive a month ago and I actually went out and got them to move their car, and if it happens again I will do the same thing.

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On the day in question just park your car on the street so that you block the entrance to your drive.
That way they cannot block you in.

pollymere · 15/09/2026 11:12

You definitely did the right thing. If you'd been invited to the party, you could have offered your driveway. The fact she had to ask just shows the relationship you have.

I'd be worried about people parking in front of my driveway though so definitely find some traffic cones...

Laurmolonlabe · 15/09/2026 08:36

Sounds reasonable, suddenly being civil because you want something doesn't count in my book.

Muffinme · 14/09/2026 22:39

Thinkofnewthings · 14/09/2026 21:07

Have you declared this neighbour dispute when selling your house?

Property forms don't require you to disclose hurt feelings over parking, or not liking a neighbour, surely you don’t seriously think saying 'no' to a neighbour asking for a favour has to be declared as a dispute 🙄

MaddestGranny · 14/09/2026 21:30

MaddestGranny · 14/09/2026 21:29

She doesn't sound nice at all. Do you have some wheelie-gins you could park obstructively on your bit of the drive? Or, do you have a couple of friends who would come and park their cars on your drive for the duration of her social event.
I'm not normally so obstructive and unkind. But your neighbour sounds really not nice at all. Block her.

"bins".

Tho' "wheelie gins" sounds quite interesting (hic).

MaddestGranny · 14/09/2026 21:29

She doesn't sound nice at all. Do you have some wheelie-gins you could park obstructively on your bit of the drive? Or, do you have a couple of friends who would come and park their cars on your drive for the duration of her social event.
I'm not normally so obstructive and unkind. But your neighbour sounds really not nice at all. Block her.

fuckeditupbadly · 14/09/2026 21:10

This is so weird. It would never in a million years occur to me ask anyone if I could use their driveway. Its private property and id find it really odd if I was asked. Should the op invite them in to use the downstairs loo, her garden space? Its her property.

Thinkofnewthings · 14/09/2026 21:07

Have you declared this neighbour dispute when selling your house?

Muffinme · 14/09/2026 21:01

maxslice · 14/09/2026 19:02

No, it’s being a mature adult.

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Setting boundaries with toxic people isn't immature; it’s called self-respect

GaIadriel · 14/09/2026 19:48

Wtf is with all these posters falling over themselves to state how they'd help somebody who'd shown them nothing but disrespect. Confused

Be the bigger person mug.

Straycats · 14/09/2026 19:38

God some of you, I do wonder.
Good on op for saying no, it’s a case of you reap what you sow. Some of you need to learn this.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 14/09/2026 19:14

haloeeenbany · 12/09/2026 23:29

The drive has space for 2 cars, we have one space spare.
She still has loud music playing and it's every 2 weeks when her DC is with the dad, if she wanted favours surely she would be more considerate?

To be honest, I absolutely hate her guts and do not want to be doing her any favours, I hate her.

To be honest, I absolutely hate her guts and do not want to be doing her any favours, I hate her.

You probably should have led with that @haloeeenbany

😂

maxslice · 14/09/2026 19:02

Muffinme · 12/09/2026 21:14

I wouldn’t be doing favours for someone who’d treated me like the OP’s neighbour has treated her. I don’t get people who brown nose people who treat them badly, it’s just spineless.

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No, it’s being a mature adult.

RamALamADingDong2 · 14/09/2026 18:38

If you have the space, why not? Sometimes it's really easy to do something nice for someone that makes their life a bit easier, and it's no skin off your nose really. I wouldn't care if she's a bit snotty sometimes (as long as she's not a neighbour from hell!). I personally just aim to be a nice person and hope it rubs off 🙂

Pherian · 13/09/2026 23:24

Flamingojune · 12/09/2026 16:24

If it doesnt inconvenience you then why not. Youre leaving soon anyway

It will be an inconvenience- because if you allow it once then it will asked again. When new neighbours turn up it will be “old neighbours allowed it “ the sense of entitlement among CFers is immense.

PenelopePinkerton · 13/09/2026 21:11

maxslice · 13/09/2026 20:47

Entitlement would be doing it without asking. She asked.

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Doing it without asking is trespassing. Asking when you have a poor relationship is entitlement.

maxslice · 13/09/2026 20:53

Steeleydan · 13/09/2026 13:12

Because she's a cheeky rude fucker and doesn't give OP time of day normally. So it's clearly going to be a big fat no

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So there!

maxslice · 13/09/2026 20:51

Fupoffyagrasshole · 13/09/2026 12:14

God people are so precious over their bloody driveways

I’d have just said yes it will make zero diff to your life letting people park once for a few hours

I had no idea how many people were this pissy about their neighbours until I got on Mumsnet. It’s astonishing.

maxslice · 13/09/2026 20:49

haloeeenbany · 12/09/2026 23:29

The drive has space for 2 cars, we have one space spare.
She still has loud music playing and it's every 2 weeks when her DC is with the dad, if she wanted favours surely she would be more considerate?

To be honest, I absolutely hate her guts and do not want to be doing her any favours, I hate her.

Then why ask AIBU?

maxslice · 13/09/2026 20:47

PenelopePinkerton · 12/09/2026 22:24

What’s wrong with not wanting anyone on your property ? The entitlement of some people is astounding

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Entitlement would be doing it without asking. She asked.

maxslice · 13/09/2026 20:46

haloeeenbany · 12/09/2026 21:47

It's like right now she has her music on at full blast and I am supposed to be doing her favours?

She has no awareness or consideration for anyone just herself, she has been asked politely many times by myself and others if she could keep her music down.

She has made my life hell here, and again most normal people who had general awareness wouldn't have even asked after how she has treated me and they would know I wouldn't want to be helping her.

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Have you asked them to turn their music down, or just seethed with resentment?

maxslice · 13/09/2026 20:40

PenelopePinkerton · 12/09/2026 17:13

They’re not on nice terms.

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Saying “yes” might have made things nicer.

Muffinme · 13/09/2026 19:47

haloeeenbany · 13/09/2026 17:13

The time when I said hello to her to keep things civil.
She saw me as I got out the car and put her head down and when I said "Hi are you OK?" she paused for half a minute and then replied "Hi".

When she asked me yesterday she came out of the house and was like "Hiya you all right?"

I simply just said "Hello" and then she said " It's Tommy's (not real name) birthday in a few weeks, can't believe he is 2 already, just got his bed up today".

"We were wondering if our guests would be able to park on the drive? It's on the 27th"

I just said "No sorry" and got my bags and walked in my house.

I was just shocked at her cheek.

I did feel bad as her child hasn't done anything wrong but it's the principle.

Ugh, what a two faced user, the bare faced cheek of the woman

Wingingit73 · 13/09/2026 17:20

Good for you. How cheeky

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