I was good friends with a neighbour for a few years, we buy each others children birthday gifts and also bought each other gifts. My birthday was in January this year. She bought me a lovely gift, I thanked her and it was all good. Then we stopped speaking, nothing drastic happened but she just seemed to stop speaking to me and likewise I did the same. She seemed to be actively avoiding me, no worries I just continued on with my own life. Her birthday was 2 weeks ago, I didn’t send her a message or buy her a birthday gift, my sons birthday was last week, she sent a card with some money and now I feel awful that I didn’t get her anything. I did of course send a message to thank her for the card and money and wished her well. Aibu to be feeling crap? We also fell out a few years ago, had an actual falling out and it was around my 40th birthday, she didn’t buy me a gift then or wish me a happy birthday (which isn’t why I done the same). I just thought we haven’t spoke in a while why would I give her a gift when we don’t speak now? Ain’t?