Is this usual toddler boy behaviour or am I not being careful enough ?

Please don't be feeble, making out like you can't properly supervise your child whilst conducting basic daily living tasks, as a lot of us have done it with more than one or multiples. 🤦🏼‍♀️
It's not a 'boy' thing. My girls twins have always been ridiculously active, massive climbers and daredevil.
I never left them unsupervised, taught them how to climb - and fall - safely and channeled their energy with indoor trampolines, hanging bars etc, plus ensured they had a lot of outdoor, active time.

Normal toddler behaviour. Both my girls just the same. Why is it people think only boys like climbing, getting messy, playing with balls, being energetic all day?

It's not a boy thing, it's a toddler thing. They're curious and don't predict or appreciate consequences

Nothing to do with being a boy, thats normal Toddler .Why does their bed have a headboard?? You just have to always have your eye on them. My toddler just comes with me to the loo.

I have 3 boys now 18, 24 and 33. They were all bad really and the point is sometimes you don't think...until they do something and then it will always be on your radar!

Sounds like my kids. I’m always amazed when I go to the homes of families with similar aged kids and they have things like glass ornaments on display or just put a steaming hot drink down in reach of kids. Some kids are more predictable and don’t need to touch everything and climb on everything. Not mine. I need eyes in the back of my head with mine, even with house kid proofed much as possible, and they still get into accidents all the time 🙃

Don't be hard on yourself

can you get him to a tumble tots class ?- they teach safe climbing and dismount

he loves to climb so id actually encourage it rather than suppressing it

get a trampoline and one of those steps for the kitchen so he can be involved

ive given up getting mine to treat the sofa with respect its just a tumble toy ! We have soft mat on our hard floor

My son was very similar (his little sister is much more cautious), I found 18 months to 2.5 absolutely exhausting. You have to have eyes on them the whole time and they constantly find new ways to ‘explore’.

We had a couple of extra tall stair gates custom made so I could babyproof his bedroom and the playroom (RIP dining room 😂) and at least I knew he was safe whilst I did jobs or went to the loo. My husband also works away and I was pregnant/had a newborn so I needed to make sure I could keep him contained in a safe place.

We’ve had to work hard on getting him to understand rules to keep him safe because he doesn’t do it automatically, and we constantly talk about him needing ‘use your brain and then your body’. It does get better though, he’s 4 now and he’s still more adventurous/daring than most kids his age but he’s also a lot more sensible and has better judgement (we can also channel the energy into things like swimming, cycling, gymnastics, climbing and judo).

I also found it a lot easier if I got him out the house in the morning and wore him out somewhere safe (we never used a pushchair after he turned 2 because walking got his energy out and made him slightly calmer afterwards).

I have a boy and a girl, they’re both as feral as each other. We really have to keep anything dangerous completely put away, and keep careful watch of anything they can potentially clamber on or they’ll have scaled it before we can blink.

I have 3 boys, now 20, 18 and 15.

With DS1 and DS2 I didn't even baby/toddler proof the house at all, DS3 was the dictionary definition of a heavy stereotyped boy toddler - he and his brothers would climb trees and by 3 he was way ahead of them carefully climbing and at the top shouting that he was about to jump, whilst I was watching him in the kitchen whilst washing up he put lead pencils in the microwave which I caught as they were sparking, he would regularly climb up the fence of the football pitch and sort of hang over the top whilst I stood underneath panicked. He climbed out of cots, over gates, if you could climb it and it was challenge he did it.

The water was an error, and you admit that, I am not bashing you, I do think you need to be extra vigilant with toddlers like this and it is HARD work. I don't have any solutions, only sympathies.

I will say at 15 after sprains, breaks and many bleeds he is a robust, lovely, still a bit of a risk taker but less so than the early years, he did grow out of it, but it took quite a long time.

Mine used to clamber up the inside of the front door on the panels to reach the adult shoulder level latch. We had to add a top bolt.