AIBU to feel used in a friends with benefits arrangement?

Yes, I echo your thoughts.

Sex was on the agenda, and he told the OP exactly what she wanted to hear to make her comfortable.

Perhaps she should wait a while before doing the deed.

Fair enough. I think that you'd be better off trying to get input from men like your fb though.

Takes one to know one.

Having input from any bloke may not provide you with much insight.

I know this

The biggest issue is in all of this is that you don't know this man. Having a drink in the pub and a few phone conversations doesn't mean anything very much. If you genuinely wanted to build a relationship with this man where he was going to become your friend so that you could have a FWB relationship how on earth was that going to happen in three meetings

If you really want a friends with benefits arrangement over very casual no strings sex you would be better seeing if any of your male friends would want this

You expect someone from a dating site that you hardly know to turn into a friend with benefits in that short timescale.

Nor would I.

Women do though.

Basically where I am from the term fuck boy means a player. I personally wouldn't go near someone like that in a million years. Other people would.

😁 Unlikely, though. I suspect such a man wouldn't be on mumsnet.

@AdeptLilacHare ,

Thank you. I appreciate you coming back on this and I hope my posts have been useful and given you perspective.

And, apologies for my spat with the two posters who seem to have an agenda and to not actually accept that you wanted exactly what you said you wanted.

Yet women willingly and enthusiastically have sex with them. Else, the fuck component would not exist.

They don't dislike fuckboys at all.
They just dislike the fact that they won't commit and why on earth would they want them to commit if they're that awful, anyway?

I mean just think about that for a second.

Sorry, your knowledge about women is very poor.

This thread is being completely derailed

@TotaleclipseinFrance ,

Do you know that the term ‘fuckboy’ isn’t a compliment! It is normally used by women to condemn them.

NOUN
Slang: Vulgar, Disparaging and Offensive.

1. a contemptible but often seductive man who is immature, entitled, and untrustworthy, treats women in a self-serving and disrespectful way, and avoids commitment in relationships.

Disparaging! Enough said.

Aw, aren't you trifling?

Someone is throwing their toys out of their pushchair again.

A 'grown' man trying to pick fights with women.

The OP had a problem with the so called "fuck boy" she was sleeping with. Which was the entire point of this thread

Maybe she is, however, in my opinion she'd be better off hearing from men like the one she has been having sex with than you who it seems to me to be totally naive about women.

Men who have been actual 'fuckboys' who can offer her actual wisdom on how they operate.

What's your beef with 'fuckboys', anyway?

I have no problem with them. Nor do the women who willingly have sex with them.

You seem bitter about them

@BlueFahrenheit ,

And she could have posted on Adultworks if she wanted advice on monetising her ‘cookie’.

But she didn’t.

Well, we’ll see what she actually thinks. As I said, if she doesn’t want my input, happy to bow out and apologise.

OP could have posted on Dadsnet, but she didn't.

What do you think?

🙄

Have I hit a nerve for you or something?

There's nothing inaccurate about what I said. At all.

Men take advantage of women and vice versa.

Nothing at all to do with the manosphere.

I knew this 20 years ago before the so-called manosphere was invented.

You seem to need women to validate you. Is that why you're posting on this thread?
With your talk of 'we'.

For a mostly female audience to say 'oh great wise guy' thanks so much for offering your perspective.'

I realise that mumsnet is a great resource on specific subjects for both sexes, why men feel the need to comment on threads like this, though, where it's really about women seeking advice from other women. I don't know.

Are you here to put us little women right?

I am not allowing a man like you to bully me.

What is your beef with 'fuckboys' anyway?

That they don't get put in the friend zone?

Good.

This is just silly.

read the exchange slowly. I mean, this is just too hard for a Monday morning!!

anyway I have to word so I’ll leave you to ponder extensively @YourGoldLurker

Is it up to you to tell people why they blocked someone else. Her reasons are her reasons. You said this thread bored you. But you're still here making digs at the Op