Page 2 | AIBU to keep our Disneyland trip if it clashes with the nativity?

workingmama111 · 2026-09-12T09:50:16+00:00

Booked Disneyland trip from Saturday to Tuesday in December and just realised that it might fall on the day of the Nativity Show. My mind is saying it’s okay but I feel bad! Will I regret missing it in the year to come or is there always another year? DD stared Y1.

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workingmama111 · 12/09/2026 15:20

@twoshedsjackson she will be back for everything else it just MIGHT be that she misses the nativity depending on the day it falls on. Teachers will be informed and nobody is trying to cause any troubles to anyone.

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FancyBiscuitsLevel · 12/09/2026 15:19

x2boys · 12/09/2026 15:10

Yeah but being Mary in a school nativity or Disney 🤔
I think most kids ( outside of mumsnet where posters will insist their children would prefer to take part in the nativity )
Would prefer Disney

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Most kids would prefer both, but not really understand at that age they can’t just go for the weekend and be back on Monday morning.

PuppyMonkey · 12/09/2026 15:19

They’ll probably be practising the nativity for several weeks before the performances too. Your DD might feel she’s missing out if she hasn’t got a part to rehearse like everybody else.

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 12/09/2026 15:17

I think the last week of term very little learning happens, however a lot of fun stuff happens. Your dd is probably best to lose some days that week from an educational standpoint, but from a “fun memories of school”, it’s the worst time to miss.

Only you know your dd and her personality. I know a family where the mum isn’t from the uk originally and would go stay with her family over Christmas, taking their dc out of school for a week to make the long haul journey “worth it”. They always missed the last week of term or part of it, reasoning that the first week back in January was more valuable. But their dc talked about feeling they always missed out on all the treats for working hard all term.

Seashor · 12/09/2026 15:16

Sorting out a nativity is bloody hard work. I HATE parents like you who dip in and and as they fancy. The taxpayer pays for your child to be in school. I hope you receive a hefty fine.

twoshedsjackson · 12/09/2026 15:11

Agreeing with PP's about giving teacher due warning, especially if speaking parts are involved.
I still remember the panic one parent caused by making a unilateral decision to skip off for a slightly cheaper skiing break (and it has to be said that her son was somewhat miffed to be losing his admittedly short speech, not to mention the end-of term Christmas party) but it was an independent school, so no fine incurred.
Luckily, he was in a group scene, so we hastily redistributed his script between the other four members of his group, who had heard him saying them so often at rehearsals. However, it did mean that we were wary of giving him speaking parts in future productions.
The Christmas study pack was not available until the last day of term, (the MRO was working to a schedule) and the classroom post box was traditionally opened on the last day of term, so we dutifully saved his cards until we could hand them over, but both looked a bit sad and pointless by January,

x2boys · 12/09/2026 15:10

TellHerIFeelFine · 12/09/2026 15:02

I have.a very strong memory of my two school nativities and being involved in them, I was Mary in one. Shame to.miss that.

Yeah but being Mary in a school nativity or Disney 🤔
I think most kids ( outside of mumsnet where posters will insist their children would prefer to take part in the nativity )
Would prefer Disney

Timeforachange26 · 12/09/2026 15:08

CooperCopperCapper · 12/09/2026 11:10

Presuming they did the nativity last year in reception, I’d still go to Disneyland. If it’s their first, I’d switch dates.

Why? So a kid can put a tea towel on their head as a shepherd or even be a sheep? It's really not a big deal

CaptainMyCaptain · 12/09/2026 15:07

Changingplace · 12/09/2026 10:51

There will be years of nativity plays to come, keep your plans.

At the school where I taught we had a Nursery/Reception Nativity and no more thoughout school so check that if it's important to you. If you decide to go away inform the teacher so she doesn't waste time rehearsing your child in a major part and then has to replace them.

MellowSubmarine · 12/09/2026 15:05

EverytimeItPours · 12/09/2026 11:09

You were fine with taking your child outside of school until you realised something fun for you was going to happen during that time. I mean I don’t care about strangers taking their kids out of school but I do think it’s a bit rich in this case

Would you consider watching a primary school nativity a fun activity?

I’d be more likely to take my child out specifically to avoid having to go! (I’ve never actually done this)

GreenShady · 12/09/2026 15:05

x2boys · 12/09/2026 14:56

Im not sure i would class a year1 nativity as fun...

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I think it’s fun for the kids though, which is more to the point

GreenShady · 12/09/2026 15:04

I think I’d check with what your DC would prefer. It’s a lot of weeks of rehearsals and feeling left out of something that’s generally quite a highlight at that age.

TellHerIFeelFine · 12/09/2026 15:02

I have.a very strong memory of my two school nativities and being involved in them, I was Mary in one. Shame to.miss that.

x2boys · 12/09/2026 15:00

sesquipedalian · 12/09/2026 11:20

Why are you taking your DC out of school in term time? I take it you don’t regard education as important…

The child is in year 1 and it will be just before xmas
What vital part of education do you think they will miss?

x2boys · 12/09/2026 14:56

EverytimeItPours · 12/09/2026 11:09

You were fine with taking your child outside of school until you realised something fun for you was going to happen during that time. I mean I don’t care about strangers taking their kids out of school but I do think it’s a bit rich in this case

Im not sure i would class a year1 nativity as fun...

MorganKitten · 12/09/2026 14:41

Former Disney Castmember here, Xmas is the second best time to go….do it!

Besidemyselfwithworry · 12/09/2026 12:35

Our school have already issued a list of key dates, it’s also on the website aswell.
if you checked perhaps you could swop the dates for another weekend if you were going to miss the nativity.
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workingmama111 · 12/09/2026 12:30

@Imightbeinthewronghere no because that was not the question.

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workingmama111 · 12/09/2026 12:28

Just told her and she’s absolutely over the moon. I’m sure we will both live! Thank you all for your opinions 😋

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Imightbeinthewronghere · 12/09/2026 12:26

EverytimeItPours · 12/09/2026 11:09

You were fine with taking your child outside of school until you realised something fun for you was going to happen during that time. I mean I don’t care about strangers taking their kids out of school but I do think it’s a bit rich in this case

100% agree with this

What did you think she would miss taking her out of school in the run up to Christmas?

Imightbeinthewronghere · 12/09/2026 12:25

workingmama111 · 12/09/2026 11:15

@EverytimeItPours You sound like a delight

Why because they pointed out the obvious and challenged you? Sorry that doesn't make them not a delight, it merely your ridiculousness

JanBlues2026 · 12/09/2026 12:18

I wouldn’t be bothered to miss it. But check when the children are performing it to the school or doing dress rehearsals as our school lets parents attend those if they cannot make the event.

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workingmama111 · 12/09/2026 12:17

@Needmoresleep89 yes it’s year R,1 and 2. She had one last year. In the later years it’s a choir show.

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Needmoresleep89 · 12/09/2026 12:14

Our school also only does the Nativity years 1 and 2, so I wouldn’t want to miss that. If they were going to do it every year, I’d go on the trip.

CloudyWithAChanceOfCustard · 12/09/2026 12:11

You booked it for December…what did you think would be happening in December, if not the Nativity? 🤷‍♀️