AIBU to suspect a colleague’s behaviour may relate to my nationality?

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1. Israel’s government isn’t committing genocide. It’s a lie which been disproved but is very effectively serving its purpose in demonising Israel, Israelis and Jews worldwide.
2. OP I think you should purely concentrate on the issues in work and as has been suggested, respond to the late forwarding of requests etc, with a comment as to the lateness and copy in your line manager (is it the same person?). If she doesn’t change her behaviour soon, either speak with her 1:1 about it or raise it with her and a manager to sort this undermining behaviour out. I wouldn’t raise anything about her partner’s views at all.

Keep a diary of every incidents and how they are affecting your work.

Then I would raise this with your line manager first and escalate from here.

And her dislike would be entirely reasonable. However, acting on it at work would not be and shouldn’t be happening. We all have to work with colleagues whose views we don’t share and sometimes whose views are completely odious. In a workplace though the point is to work well together.

OP - I think you have your suspicions however to progress you need to work on a purely professional basis.

Pretend ‘racism’ wasn’t an issue - this woman is still not delivering content/work/instructions etc to you in a timely manner. Log all the instances and seek HR guidance on how to ask your boss to call her out on it.

The thing is, If you are ‘American’, only an idiot would assume that you support Trump. If, however, you are, in fact, a MAGA Trump supporter, and are happy to defend his position, then yes, of course it will adversely affect some people’s opinion of you, given the contentious nature of his decisions and proclamations thus far. Not because of your nationality, but because of your views. Obviously that should never lead to bullying or discrimination, as it appears to have done in your case. Would a conversation with this person be possible? Often face to face communication is the way forward - whether with workplace relationships or international relations!

If you’re Israeli and have spoken in support of the Israeli government committing a genocide, you’re not imagining it and she hates you

I think it’s highly likely to be deliberate, if perhaps unconscious. I would keep a record and, if you have sufficient examples already, I’d flag with line manager/HR that you have concerns.

Why do you judge him speaking Russian, can I ask? Unless he's being very loud etc. Do you judge e.g. French colleagues speaking French?

I think if you are noticing it, then I imagine that you are right . I would trust your gut instinct and keeop notes. Forwarding work on a Friday afternoon that they had known about since Weds is not acceptable. I would say that people have no tolerance for those who have different views these days and almost seem to want to destroy the individuals involved.

American?

Russian?

OP - I think your instinct is correct, but because all the behaviour is so micro, you would struggle to prove it. It sounds as though any accusation would be met with a wide eyed "are you alight??"

Document, track, challenge and evidence is the way to go. Pretend you haven't seen her partner's socials and act accordingly. If you were on the receiving end of what you thought were deliberate mini-sabotages and had no idea why, how would you behave? Do that.

For every 'late request' - send a reply challenging the lateness until it becomes impossible for them to delay requests without it raising suspicion.

For every exclusion - send an email along the lines of "I've just learned that XXX. Please CC me in future" until it becomes impossible for them to exclude you without raising suspicion, and so on.

In the meantime, keep a micro-aggression diary. Note every single instance and if things don't improve dramatically and quickly - you'll have to escalate.

I have one of these colleagues. In my case because I think because she was v large and I am not and we are the same age.

Honestly nothing you can do. She’s never going to cross the line. The only defense is to make friends with everyone else to try to mitigate her behavior. Assume that she is a bad actor and it’s her issue and dealing with her is part of the job. Maybe try to treat her like a forgetful ditz and she might move on to a new victim?

you could try asking every Monday if there is anything you should know about….

yeah, sucks.

fuck know what goes on in these people’s head. Just be glad you aren’t her. Try not to think about her too much as it is. Waste of your time and energy

So deal with it professionally.

As difficult as it may be you need to ignore what you know about her DP and suspect about her.

Professional all the way.

Common ground where you canm
Call her out each time so she has to make the excuses
Mention to manager informally so they are aware of the barriers you are facing with silly errors meaning you are cut out/given work last minute
Keep doing an amazing job.

Longer term one of you needs to leave, unless you are going down a formal route once you have records.

Good luck and I'm sorry this is happening.

Presumptuous and potentially problematic

Why can’t you say where you are actually from?

Is there a reason why you couldn’t have an actual conversation with her about this rather than trawling through her social media, and that of her partner? That’s very intrusive behaviour.
If you truly believe she is behaving in a certain way as a personal slur against you then you need to report it to your line manager following your works grievance policy.

Regardless of her motive (which would be extremely difficult to prove) it seems like she might be bullying you in a slightly pathetic underhand way. When people have done this at work, I have always drawn attention to it in front of others and in a casual way. For example, saying 'I can't believe you didn't send that until just now. Think of me over the weekend. I owe you one!' or something similar. It usually freaks them out and they back off. You could confront them in a more professional way but then you could end up getting into a passive aggressive battle of formal emails.

Bear in mind, people who behave like her usually do it to others as well because they are bitter pathetic people who don't really need much of a reason. Take note of how she treats other people as well. It is a lot easier raising concerns about someone when it is a general concern and not just personal to you.

There's very few professions where you can't be in a union, you might not have the benefit of collective bargaining but you would have support for individual issues such as this

I couldn’t be in a relationship with someone who regularly posted racist sentiments on Facebook (or regularly spouted privately racist sentiments in our home). So I think she must agree or at least she doesn’t wholeheartedly disagree with what he says. It probably is the reason she is the way she is with you. I find it hard to believe all the other people that are having to give you information she should have given you or invite you to meetings or calls haven’t noticed that she doesn’t do the same with others.

This. Especially stuff like missing you off emails. Raise it straight away with your boss, stating as many cases as you can where she has done this before. This is an example of her at the very least being incompetent.