AIBU to suspect a colleague’s behaviour may relate to my nationality?

I would not tolerate this. She is trying to sabotage you.

Start keeping a record of every instance to flag to HR.

Criticising Israel and the genocide they are inflicting on Gaza is not anti senitism.

This is the way I'd play it.
Can't argue with cold, hard evidence.

Well there are different issues here. Nationality is very different from race which is different from religion.
Eg if you were Israeli those things could all conflate. I wonder if you are from Eastern Europe, as there have been some issues with criminal gangs from parts of Eastern Europe that may have been latched on to by her partner. Im not excusing his weird Facebook posts, just trying to think about what is going on.
I don’t understand why as we have criminals from all sorts of places but I have heard negative comments about some Eastern Europeans, and comments about Russians partly due to the war in Ukraine.
Possibly this woman is just not very nice full stop, competing with you and trying to undermine you and would be doing that whatever your background.

Oh dear God, I hope you’re joking lol

The entire thing is odd, OP, her colleague, stalking someone’s SM etc.

This might be the poster who is anti English and keeps her nationality secret.

Is this the poster who thinks English people hate her but we suspect it is her personality that might be the issue?

It doesn't matter who the two people's views are here: nationality, religion, colour, domicile, sexual preferance etc. No one should ever bring these views into the workplace. All are there for the benefit of the Company involved. Personal preference is left outside the working hours, full stop. OP is being undermined by someone either above, at the same level, or subservient. They are not in any way entitled to do so.

Hopefully HR (OP are you copying HR in on all interactions?) will pick up on the way they are treated and will take appropriate action. Clients should not be disadvantaged or informed of the situation.

Yes

Racists are generally smarter than that now though. It's the micro agressions like OP says.

Found it odd that OP doesn’t just say what she is. Why the cloak and daggers?

Just as odd, she’s been able to find their SM despite not following them and unlikely the colleague would have volunteered for OP to be FB or SM friends.

So OP is being bullied because she’s a Messi fan?

I can’t see a work situation where at an equal but different senior level would be responsible for arranging meetings and contact lists, and taking you off. And if this was happening, I’m sure someone would ask me if I’d managed to dodge the Whitehall meeting #222!

Also, how was it that a message to do with some urgent work went through her instead of straight o you.

if both of the above really happened, it shouldn’t be difficult to get your name back on the appropriate lists.

my vote is that she’s incompetent and/or doesn’t like you.

you haven’t said how she is to you personally, in a workplace or large group I’m aware of who wants to know me and shows an interest, and those who are in different circles. Does she ever mention what she’s done at the weekend for instance?

You mean like the hatred some cultures have towards the British nationals overseas because of our government involvement in Afghanistan, Iraq, Iran etc?

@oneofthems is it possible to say to her the next time some micro aggression presents, 'Goodness, Julie! Not again! This is becoming a bit embarassing that you constantly miss me out - and it's obviously affecting my team. I'm starting to think it's because it's because I'm Argentinian and it's deliberate, lol. That's surely not the case, is it?'

Make her deny it. Keep it light and with an airy laugh. When she does, say, 'Just incompetent then? I'm wondering whether to raise it'

You've nothing much to lose by the sound of it. Then she either continues with the stupid behaviour that you've made it clear you've noticed or she grows up and starts thinking about doing her job professionally as she should be doing.

OP, in response to your comment on my previous post...

' I know perfectly well...'

Yes, as I wrote, you had already stated you knew what to do professionally in response to what appears to be what I'd characterise as a silent, passive-aggressive undermining of you and your professionalism.

I sympathise with you and can understand your desire to know why she is behaving towards you in this way. Nobody on mumsnet can answer that for you. Posters may agree with your suspicion because of the husband's posts. But short of this colleague telling you herself, there is no actual way of knowing and she's not going to tell you even if you were to ask her directly. That's a possibility open to you - to ask her directly why she's undermining you; but i think you probably know she will never admit any intentional malice, dislike or racism. Only she knows why and she aint telling. So you will likely never know for sure. You have to live with that.

Of course it's a horrible situation to be in: to be undermined for no apparent reason. Quite often in workplaces there are these animosities which come from seemingly nowhere and subvert the mission, which is to get the job done. Ive experienced it myself and been naively mystified because I never imagined people behaved in this way, silently undermining onecwhilevsmilingbto one's face. It's deeply unpleasant to be caught up in such a situation but sometimes there is nothing to be done about it. It's all about the other person.

However, I'm glad that your doubling down on calling her out more publicly is beginning to work and with luck (I hope) she'll cease her campaign of subversion. As I said before, your option is to move to other employment.

Then your situation isn’t the same as OP’s, is it?

Totally different departments so I do not have to deal with her at all thankfully. She still will tell you I hold her nationality against her as she of course does not see herself as an annoying cow.

I can comment on the algorithms thing - they don’t care anymore. I reported someone for calling me white vermin on Instagram and saying we should be exterminated. Apparently that doesn’t break any of their community guidelines…

Yes it’s probably because of your nationality. Unfortunately I doubt you could prove it.

Do you deliberately withhold information and meetings and tasks from your colleague, dropping them on her when it’s too late to
meet the deadline?

Anyway - the why is important to you, but actually, it's not relevant. Her behaviour is the important thing, and whether she's doing it because you are Argentinian or because you can speak 3 languages or because have blue manicured nails or whatever else doesn't matter. She's treating you poorly, and it wouldn't suddenly be okay if the reason turned out to be something else other than your nationality.

I agree it wouldn't be ok, @EBearhug , but if the colleague's behaviour is targeting the OP because of her nationality, religion or ethnicity, that could be considered to make the colleague's actions more serious.

I think you should send an email in reply, pointing out that this the Nth occasion on which your colleague has not passed on a request for something you need to do promptly, which has meant that you have to complete it in an uncessarily tight time frame, and please could she forward any such emails promptly in future. And blind copy your manager in, so they are aware.

Still no reason to behave unprofessionally.

Have you considered she just doesn’t like you as a person rather than playing the race card.

That’s exactly what you did.

Absolutely. There’s no excuse for unprofessional behaviour. But the OP is suggesting this is motivated by racism or dislike of her nationality, but the more she posts the more I’m wondering if it’s about open support for an unpleasant regime.