Woman in underwear in own home

You are entitled to do whatever you like and wear whatever you like in your home. And you're absolutely right they'd have said nothing about men in pants.

Tell them to fuck off OP.

I see it as a 'heads up' that you can be seen, incase you thought you couldn't and would have an issue with being seen.

Not 'cover up woman, even in your own home'.

I think you've pulled up your feminist pants too high on this one.

But crack on and enjoy the indignation.

I totally agree with this. The neighbour was clumsily giving @Alee36 a heads up that, at some point, she might find herself eye to eye with a gutter cleaning man right outside her window. If she would be uncomfortable with them seeing her up close in her underwear, she now knows that it might happen and can try to avoid it if she wants to. I don't think the neighbour needed to actually mention underwear at all but I genuinely think they thought they were being thoughtful.

this.

Yes, there's quite few huge leaps being done here, just to get at men.

Well, you'd try to find a way to mention it politely, which this comment isn't really. Another poster nailed it with 'btw we can see into your windows' which would alert you. But walking around in your underwear by windows where you can be seen is a bit bizarre - though I doubtless am older than you and thus have what you might consider outdated views on what is appropriate to wear in a room which is open to public gaze (and I used to play strip whist with my late DH). What's wrong with a kaftan - my choice in hot weather? I would find it bizarre to walk about in the house in effectively knickers and a bra top. What if I had to answer the door or my DS or DSS turned up (they have keys)?

I think that's a bit different, tbh! 😁

Person walking around their house in their underwear not realising they could be seen through a first floor window is a bit different to knowingly walking around your garden in the nude.

We have two women living next door who sunbathe in their garden in bikinis in the summer - not noteworthy.

If the chap on the other side started mowing his lawn in the nude, you can bet my partner or I would be saying, "You'll never guess what I saw today!"

I think I must be odd, because I wouldn’t walk around in my undies in a house without blinds or nets if, having stood at my windows I can clearly see my neighbours and therefore deduce that they can see into my home. I don’t assume I have privacy unless I am the only property for miles.

That will be why I have blinds, though, so that they can be angled for privacy and still let daylight in.

That's quite odd. I would decline the contractor and tell the neighbour it's pervy to look at people in their homes in their undies and comment on it. If you happen to see such things you avert your eyes. Not because someone's in a bra, but just because if you are a contractor (or anyone outside of the house) you shouldn't be looking into people's windows.

I've a male neighbour and I've accidentally seen him nude a couple times. The windows across the road are just blatantly facing the other side as it's old style. It's obvious he's simply travelling from bathroom to bedroom to dress, and he's certainly not trying to expose himself. I'd never dream of saying anything. I just look away.

It’s the implication that you should be embarrassed, that your husband should be embarrassed

No, you have inferred that.

He passed on a fact. I think a lot of people would prefer not to be unwittingly seen in their underwear.

Overall, why on earth has a contractor passed on this information to our neighbour

We've recently renovated and our roofer told us that the neighbour 3 doors down was mowing his lawn in the nude. The roofer didn't NEED to tell us this info, but did!

Maybe the neighbour telling your husband was a subtle hint that you shouldn't have waited 2 weeks to buy curtains or maybe to keep your current curtains shut if walking around in underwear? 🤷‍♀️

@HeddaGarbledYou need to improve your reading comprehension skills as OP quite literally said in her post that she WASN’T ‘parading around in her front of her windows in her underwear’ yet that’s exactly what you’ve just accused her of….! 🫣

'I'd have seen it as a bit of an FYI rather than a complaint or criticism or a 'keep yer missus under control" statement'

Exactly. So many posters take offence at the most innocuous of comments, how difficult their lives must be.

Maybe the information was passed on as a bit of a heads up in case the OP didnt realise she could be seen in her underwear?

After all, and as someone has said, you wouldn't expect to be seen through a window on the first floor so it would feel pretty private.

I'd have seen it as a bit of an FYI rather than a complaint or criticism or a 'keep yer missus under control" statement.

Honestly, I'm more than happy to call out dick male behaviour but unless it came with a, "She's not hot so tell her not to do it again," or a, "He said her husband's a lucky bastard," type comment, I really can't see the problem.

Isn’t it more that they were giving OP a heads up in case she didn’t realise how visible she was?

There’s nothing in her posts that indicate she should be embarrassed.

But lots of people would be embarrassed by being seen in their underwear by a contractor. I daresay most women would be unhappy to be accidentally seen like this.

People pointing out stuff like this are usually trying to help others.

It's amazing how posters are reading different things into the OP's situation. Like most posters I thought it sounded like a heads up that if she want to walk around in her undies while someone is fixing the guttering she needs to be aware that she can be seen.

No it's the implication she might have been unaware that she was visible. He was being helpful.

I voted YABU. Not because I'm a "Peeping Tom supporter" but because I'd want to know if I could be seen in my underwear. OP is unreasonable not to consider that this is the motive of everyone involved in the chain.

I can see why you are annoyed. It’s the implication that you should be embarrassed, that your husband should be embarrassed (because he owns you?)

People pointing out stuff like this are not “being kind”. They are trying to police your behaviour by making you self conscious

I'm raging and need to know if I'm blowing this out of proportion

Sorry, but I think you are. Now you know not to walk around in underwear if anyone is working near the window, or you draw the curtains.

Yes, this is how I would have interpreted it, as a heads up.

Next time I would walk around naked.

It is odd.

If I was doing some work on a house and saw a bloke in his undies, I’d not think any thing of it and it would be forgotten.

If I saw a woman in her undies. Same.

I am a woman.

If I saw someone naked I might mention it as a funny story to a friend. But not to the home owner.

The fact that a male contractor, told a male home owner, who then told the woman’s husband that the male contractor had seen his wife in her underwear is odd. They wouldn’t have said anything if it was a man. For sure.