Woman in underwear in own home

I also think they felt bad and wanted to let you know you could be seen. Most women do not wish to be publicly seen in their underwear, so would appreciate the heads up if they’d not realised. I understand you are good with it, and that’s fine, but I’d not think anything malicious here.

Maybe he saw it as an invitation to the physical act of love (if you watched Friends you'll KWIM 😄)

I wouldn’t overthink, I just suspect the contractor felt bad for seeing you and the neighbour felt obligated to pass it on. I walk around in whatever I want even nothing at all!

Just to play devils advocate. Was the neighbour telling you because he thought you might want to know that happened in case you didn’t want it to happen again? Some people would be mortified if someone had seen them in their underwear and would want to opportunity to make sure it didn’t happen next time?

Except that's not really what people are saying.

They're saying that the contractor probably thought OP wasn't aware people could see her, and was trying to find a way to make her aware, just in case.

OP is free to wander around in her pants all she likes. If she doesn't care that people can see her, it's no issue - if she does care, now she knows and can shut her curtains next time.

I regularly walk round my house in my underwear but if it’s on an evening, will close the blinds or avoid the big back bi folds at all times of day (I know from neighbours houses, if I can see in from certain rooms, they can see in mine too!)

I think in all honesty it’s less about them being bothered at all you were in your underwear in your own home and more letting you know his contractor can see in. I’d personally appreciate the heads up and ask which day he’s coming. I’m happy to walk round in my underwear, but no, I don’t want some random contractor looking in at me (potentially taking photos) I do it for the freedom and convenience, not to be looked at!

True, I said do not wander about in underwear if you can be seen from outside. It's more modesty than suggesting that underwear is sexy (most of it isn't!).

Agree with this.

The reason it's "weeks later" is probably because the neighbour knew it wasn't appropriate to mention at the time, but now they're having work done at your level feels they should inform you.

If he’d cared that much he could have closed his curtains?

He doesn’t have to worry about me, I don’t care.

Because that’s what all the posyers and I’d say 99% of people would infer.

This is from this idea that woman in underwear = sexy = only suitable in private.
Hell you even have people who think that, if you want to be in ‘underwear’ in your own house you should close the curtains/only do it where people can’t see you.

Don’t they?
Whats the difference between what the OP was wearing and small short plus a vest/crop top?

Probably just a clumsy way of making sure you are aware there will be a workman about who can see in.

It just sounds like he was trying to make you aware, in case you didn’t know you could be seen. He’s not passing a moral judgement on your behaviour, just giving you a heads up in case you’d be upset.

It might not be some puritan/sexist thing about revealing skin, just that to most people wandering around in your underwear would be similar to “house clothes”- happy to wear them about the house but wouldn’t open the door in them or want others to see them.

Not in my neck of the woods they don't. The very thought! Clutches pearls.

No - people are entitled to comment on whatever they like.

If you want privacy in your own home then you close the curtains or make sure you're somewhere where you're not being overlooked.

Slatted shutters or blinds so you can see out but neigbours cant see in

No, it doesn't suggest that - that's what you've inferred.

I think you’re over reacting. He may have thought he was doing the decent thing letting you know what his contractor said. Some people don’t want to be seen in their undies. Some people don’t care and if you’re the latter just crack on!

Absolutely but not to the neighbours. That's the point. By mentioning it, it suggests she should be covering up.

Do people not wear bikinis on the beach?
She's in her OWN home.
Why should people comment? People are absolutely not entitled to comment. Neighbour and contractor should mind their own business instead of trying to embarrass her.

Well, I would definitely comment to DH if our male neighbours were wandering about in their pants 😂

Because men walk around naked curtains open and nothing is said. Women's purpose on earth is not to be oggled. They're allowed to exist and take up space.

Then she can't be surprised if people see her and comment.