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Urine ice cubes as an act of revenge?

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Realworld10 · 11/09/2026 21:44

A friend who, let's say, is a bit of a wild card. Mia (not real name) found out her BF had been unfaithful but rather than confronting him immediately she did a few things for revenge before going ballistic and throwing his belongings into a drum fire in the garden. Yes, this what's she like and she's a true and loyal friend but one you wouldn't want to cross.

He likes whiskey with just ice so she told me after she had done it that she peed in the (special round) ice cube tray! Mia found great satisfaction in watching him drink without noticing.

While i found it quite funny I did say that's disgusting, how would you feel? Her reply, it's not poison, he'll live and doesn't know. Fair enough, it could have been a lot worse, but I was shocked that she even thought of this.

The other things were inconveniences and more, such as a flat tyre, fish in boot of car, scratches on car, a delivery of meat to his office, he's vegan and more.

This girl was hellbent on making his life miserable for several weeks before she really let go, had his clothes and other stuff ready at side of a metal bin to throw in and ranting and shouting!

Mia only told me afterwards about it all and I said I understood her fury but it was cruel, clever but OTT.

Aibr...she should have just confronted him rather than tormenting

Aibu... he deserved it and learnt a lesson

Personally, I would be upset and wouldn't be able to hide my feelings and need to talk. However Mia is a completely different type of person, someone you're immediately attracted to because she's so outgoing but in a caring way and makes you feel special. She has so many friends, everyone loves her, but she takes no nonsense, will defend us all with passion. If someone hurt us she would do these same things.

While we're all in awe of her, we're also a bit scared of her!

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FloofTrousers · 12/09/2026 08:07

It's horrific. An ex of mine did something similar to me, but I twigged before using the cosmetics he'd sabotaged. It made me feel really unsafe in my own home because I had no idea what else he might have tampered with. I hadn't cheated, I'd just ended the relationship. That amount of malice is frightening when you're on the receiving end of it.

daisyydaisyy · 12/09/2026 08:01

That is absolutely vile. She just leave leave him instead of doing whatever.

Seajaye · 12/09/2026 07:58

She is committing criminal offences with some of her acts of revenge. You should not be endorsing her revenge tactics.She just needs to dump her boyfriend in a more normal way. She sounds like she may have anger management issues. Depending on what else she's done, if her boyfriend reports her to the police for criminal damage and or harassment she may have bigger problems to deal with.

WhatNextImScared · 12/09/2026 07:04

That’s disgusting. She sounds unhinged. I would keep my distance tbh. You’re right to be scared of her. She’s the sort of person who could dismantle
your life on a whim.

Mydogisagentleman · 12/09/2026 06:11

Did she? Did she really?

imnotsickbutimnotwell · 12/09/2026 05:47

CurlewKate · 11/09/2026 22:07

Another fantasy post!

I know….it used to be journalists looking for stories and asking “what did you do for revenge” etc. Now it’s outlandish posts like this written by AI to gain engagement. Most of the posts I read on here now I don’t think are genuine. It will end up like Facebook / instagram where the people replying are also bots.

LondonLass2026 · 12/09/2026 01:50

Don't be silly.

She's not some special, magical, higher being. She's an idiot, and she's well on the way to being arrested. I counted a good number of crimes there. Hope he calls the police.

"in awe of her". God. Raise your standards.

grinandslothit · 12/09/2026 01:23

How old is this person?

Bestwishes23 · 12/09/2026 01:20

"someone you're immediately attracted to because she's so outgoing but in a caring way and makes you feel special"

Sounds like superficial charm. She isn't a nice person and it's best to steer clear of her.

Realworld10 · 12/09/2026 01:13

XenoBitch · 12/09/2026 00:32

It seems pointless unless she sees the aftermath of it... as in seeing him actually suffer.
Bit like the trope of the wife who made a dog food pie for her cheating husband, and he actually really enjoyed it.

I used to know a lady who found out her partner was cheating. She put frozen prawns inside the curtain rails of their house.. But then she also did catch him in the act, and punched him in the face too.

Making piss ice cubes, or anything to do with things you ingest or use on your skin/hair... other people could fall victim to that. Seems a shit thing to do, no matter how mad you are.

Oh she saw the aftermath because he told her about it all and she also watched him drink the whiskey

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Realworld10 · 12/09/2026 01:10

JillyComeLately · 12/09/2026 00:48

My immediate thought was Bunny Boiler.

Oh yes, we're aware!

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MCF86 · 12/09/2026 00:58

Stillheere · 11/09/2026 21:46

Yikes. Sounds performative and calculating. I wouldn’t like her as a friend!

I wouldn't want to fall out with her either though!

Tsubasa1 · 12/09/2026 00:56

Deserved!

Viviennemary · 12/09/2026 00:52

She is a weirdo bunny boiler. Steer well clear of her.

JillyComeLately · 12/09/2026 00:48

NotTerfNorCis · 11/09/2026 23:22

Psychopath is the word that came to my mind too.

My immediate thought was Bunny Boiler.

XenoBitch · 12/09/2026 00:32

It seems pointless unless she sees the aftermath of it... as in seeing him actually suffer.
Bit like the trope of the wife who made a dog food pie for her cheating husband, and he actually really enjoyed it.

I used to know a lady who found out her partner was cheating. She put frozen prawns inside the curtain rails of their house.. But then she also did catch him in the act, and punched him in the face too.

Making piss ice cubes, or anything to do with things you ingest or use on your skin/hair... other people could fall victim to that. Seems a shit thing to do, no matter how mad you are.

Daygloboo · 12/09/2026 00:25

Realworld10 · 11/09/2026 21:44

A friend who, let's say, is a bit of a wild card. Mia (not real name) found out her BF had been unfaithful but rather than confronting him immediately she did a few things for revenge before going ballistic and throwing his belongings into a drum fire in the garden. Yes, this what's she like and she's a true and loyal friend but one you wouldn't want to cross.

He likes whiskey with just ice so she told me after she had done it that she peed in the (special round) ice cube tray! Mia found great satisfaction in watching him drink without noticing.

While i found it quite funny I did say that's disgusting, how would you feel? Her reply, it's not poison, he'll live and doesn't know. Fair enough, it could have been a lot worse, but I was shocked that she even thought of this.

The other things were inconveniences and more, such as a flat tyre, fish in boot of car, scratches on car, a delivery of meat to his office, he's vegan and more.

This girl was hellbent on making his life miserable for several weeks before she really let go, had his clothes and other stuff ready at side of a metal bin to throw in and ranting and shouting!

Mia only told me afterwards about it all and I said I understood her fury but it was cruel, clever but OTT.

Aibr...she should have just confronted him rather than tormenting

Aibu... he deserved it and learnt a lesson

Personally, I would be upset and wouldn't be able to hide my feelings and need to talk. However Mia is a completely different type of person, someone you're immediately attracted to because she's so outgoing but in a caring way and makes you feel special. She has so many friends, everyone loves her, but she takes no nonsense, will defend us all with passion. If someone hurt us she would do these same things.

While we're all in awe of her, we're also a bit scared of her!

I had a friend who is a lovely person. Very energetic and very giving within our group of friends. Then one day out of the blue she dropped it into a conversation with us all that she had done something similar ( just one thing not a whole load of things ) when her sister split with a boyfriend. I wont say what it was, but something along the lines of the sort of things you've mentioned with your friend. ( not the urine one !!!!). Anyway. point is, I was really quite shocked because it seemed completely out of character. I started thinking if she could do that, what else could she do. I've genuinely never felt quite the same.about her since. It showed a kind of vengeful passive aggressive side that really took me aback.

BBCLW · 11/09/2026 23:53

She sounds like a psychopath and I'd keep well clear.

Teffe · 11/09/2026 23:35

Mia might find herself arrested and end up with a criminal record. Aside from ordering meat to his workplace everything else can be cast as a criminal offence.

I wouldn’t be in awe I would be appalled.

HalzTangz · 11/09/2026 23:32

She sounds like a fruitcake and would benefits wth therapy

PurpleCardigan47 · 11/09/2026 23:28

Just do not piss her off otherwise she may piss in your cornflakes 😬

ThisFridayNight · 11/09/2026 23:26

If this is true then her behaviour is worse than his. Much worse. Her behaviour is vicious and abusive and if that's what she does to someone for cheating, then I can only imagine what her behaviour would be towards someone who done much worse. Not someone I would even want to engage with, let alone "be in awe of".

Imagine a man writing on here saying my girlfriend has cheated on me and she doesn't know it yet but I have put urine in her ice cubes, burnt her clothes, put fish in her car, damaged her property. Absoloutley vile behaviour and she should probably seek some help.

NotTerfNorCis · 11/09/2026 23:22

MajorSamanthaCarter · 11/09/2026 22:21

Mia if she exists is a psychopath. It's not friendship if you're scared of her it's more like low key Stockholm syndrome.

Psychopath is the word that came to my mind too.

Hoork · 11/09/2026 23:15

I don’t know whether to be scared or impressed…

DrMickhead · 11/09/2026 23:15

I went out with an ex to meet his friends and I they were all very nice to me, we got on well. The drinks were flowing and we got suitably pissed. Then his best friend told me that my exes ex was a stuck up bitch and they all used to (not my ex, he had no idea but his friends) stick their cocks in her drink when she left it unattended.
It was about 10 years after this had happened they told me and this was about 25 years ago now, but the cruel and humiliating nature of that always stuck with me. I never saw any of them again and broke up with their friend soon after. Anyone capable of anything of that nature is an immediate no go. Fruit loop, stay away and stay safe.

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