How much for wedding gift?

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Passthegin99 · 11/09/2026 20:00

Upcoming wedding. Bride and groom mid 40s and have lived together for years so have asked for money towards eg honeymoon instead. How much should we give? We haven't been to a wedding for a good long while so no real gauge of what is appropriate.

Context: we're financially comfortable, close to the bride and groom and they have invited us for the whole day.

My DH said £50 I but I think that's not enough!

YABU = £25 per person is plenty. You've got other costs you'll have to cover like a hotel room etc
YANBU = that's massively tight and won't even cover half of dinner

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Justaquestionplease · 11/09/2026 20:10

£100 minimum

Therattt · 11/09/2026 20:08

I'd say at least £100 if there's 2 of you going.

Popadomorbread · 11/09/2026 20:08

If it’s a couple I am close too my standard is £250. Someone not as close, work colleague etc… £100. But this is what I can afford. I certainly wouldn’t put myself out financially.

TinDogTavern · 11/09/2026 20:06

I would say YABU, £50 is plenty. I strongly suspect I will be in the minority.

In these circumstances I have to admit I’d give them nothing. They’re saying they have everything they NEED, so instead they’re asking for what they WANT, which is for their friends to pay for them to go on holiday.

Fuck that.

(I may be slightly embittered by a recent request for cash in not dissimilar circs except a) they’d both been married before and b) I wasn’t actually invited to the wedding……)

wifty · 11/09/2026 20:02

Oh I’m not sure - from experience if you’re close I’d usually say at least £100.

Obviously you don’t have to, but if they’re mid 40s and close it feels a bit low giving £25 per person.

Others will probably have a better idea! I have friends who’ve felt bad only giving £60 to friends but I’m not sure if that’s useful or not :D

Equally your presence should be enough, but the wedding meal itself would probs be at least £50+ per head x

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