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To be hurt that I was called racist over trivial parking incident?

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KatieHouse · 11/09/2026 18:35

I was looking for a space in a full car park next to a row of shops. I spotted two spaces together; one disabled and one not.

I have a large car so parking next to a disabled spot is ideal for me as there's extra door width - I'm quite sturdy.

There was a man with a walking stick standing behind the car in the disabled spot next to the disabled spot.

He saw me signalling and moved across to the empty disabled spot and stuck his stick out to block the spot. Confused

I just carried on parking in the empty normal spot got out, locked up and he said quite aggressively 'you shouldn't be parking in the disabled spot' I looked back at my car and said "I wasn't" you weirdo

Then someone else came over and signaled to pull and he didn't stop them. I said "why didn't you stop her?""She's my sister"

So obviously he was saving the space for her.

I just rolled my eyes and walked off.

He shouted after me "Racist cow".

I'm still smarting after a few hours.

Aibu?

OP posts:
ColdAsAWitches · 11/09/2026 19:52

QPZM · 11/09/2026 19:45

Where has she clarified this?

She doesn't need to clarify, it's a very common way of writing on the internet.

Chionic · 11/09/2026 19:47

Somebody shouted at me today for walking into them when I was nowhere near them. Some people are just unpleasant and rude. That’s a horrible insult you got for nothing. Just pity him and his tragic life.

QPZM · 11/09/2026 19:45

LifeOfAShowgirl13 · 11/09/2026 19:09

Op didn’t call him a weirdo, they were just thinking that.

Where has she clarified this?

LifeOfAShowgirl13 · 11/09/2026 19:09

QPZM · 11/09/2026 18:46

So it's fine for you to call him a weirdo but not fine for him to call you a racist?

I don't think either of you covered yourselves in glory so I'd pay it no more thought.

Op didn’t call him a weirdo, they were just thinking that.

morgan56 · 11/09/2026 19:00

My baby was called a ‘racist baby’ when he was in a trolley, because a random black man pulled a weird face at him and he just stared wide eyed 🤣 instead of laughing or whatever reaction the man was expecting.

hattie43 · 11/09/2026 18:53

It’s very easy to be called racist these days , just ignore him .

MaidOfSteel · 11/09/2026 18:49

It’s people like him, throwing around the word racist that are making it lose any meaning.

Don’t give him another thought, OP. You did nothing wrong.

Ilovemyfam · 11/09/2026 18:47

There was no racism in your explanation, that can be ignored. I am cross on your behalf that someone was bagging a space for their family - and he was waving his walking stick. I find that so annoying

I suppose you do know that accessible spaces are bigger because the people that need them need more space to get out of their car. It is impossible to get my DM from the car without a big space. In fact I wish that more of the accessible spaces were not placed beside front entrances. Once in a wheelchair I can push my Mum. Spaces near the front door seem to be more likely to be nabbed by people who don’t need them.

Oops I have hijacked your thread with my own rant. You were not racist.

NightSweatsNinja · 11/09/2026 18:46

Are you white, and was he a different race?

QPZM · 11/09/2026 18:46

So it's fine for you to call him a weirdo but not fine for him to call you a racist?

I don't think either of you covered yourselves in glory so I'd pay it no more thought.

PerfectPlasticPerson · 11/09/2026 18:42

Then someone else came over and signaled to pull and he didn't stop them. I said "why didn't you stop her?""She's my sister"

It was unwise to prolong the interaction by trying to score this point. Of course, that doesn't make you a racist.

emuloc · 11/09/2026 18:41

Why give it any head space, he sounds out of sorts anyway.

Holiday24 · 11/09/2026 18:38

ReplacementBusDriver · 11/09/2026 18:37

What's the crossed out "you weirdo" all about?

I assume that's what she was thinking..

TwinklyAmberSloth · 11/09/2026 18:37

He was clearly thick as pig shit and didn't even know what racist means.

People like that aren't worth losing sleep over.

ReplacementBusDriver · 11/09/2026 18:37

What's the crossed out "you weirdo" all about?

FionnulaTheCooler · 11/09/2026 18:36

You met a nutter. It happens, don't dwell on it.

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