Wedding related would you do this? Outside perspective needed.

This is exactly what I would fear would happen and puts the B&G in a very awkward position. "Well Xs wife was at the afters". Few would believe Xs wife had the absolute cheek to just arrive at the afters she wasn't invited to and it could cause a rift because then all spouses would appear to not be treated the same!

That was so cheeky! You essentially turned up at an event you weren't invited to! And anyway its different to the OP because they are stressing how much the person will NOT be going near the wedding!

It's a shame that Aunt, mother etc have been told about this plan, because it is none of their business, provide you do exactly as described and keep away from the wedding party. Don't mention it again and tell your partner not to either, and hopefully the others will stop thinking about it.

Maybe ask if the MoG would mind if the invited spouse paid for a sex worker to spend the night in the room rather than their spouse.
Ignore the comment, if you’ve never met them they wouldn’t know you anyway if you passed in the corridor

MOG is being ridiculous if the spouse paid for room then b and g have no say.

It’s a shame MOG found out

theres nothing wrong with a partner staying to make use of facilities

Sounds a very strange wedding where a number of married people attending are expected to attend without their spouses. I could understand if the uninvited partner was the OM / OW of the FOB/ G or MOB/G, but with no backstory, then odd. I don’t think the partner should attend or stay in the hotel if they are not invited.

I was married to a wedding singer, we gatecrashed many a wedding.

OP if you are sure that no spouses are invited and it is not just some convoluted story your partner has made up so he can bring an affair partner instead then I say go and to hell with what others think. They won't see you after all.

That is not normal 🤣🤣

They may not have said anything to you, but I bet they did to each other. You gatecrashed their wedding dude!

The last thread had the OP suggest getting dressed up and seeing if they could have a cheeky dance at the reception which I thought was pushing it too far. Ultimately you don't need someone's permission to use a hotel, the hotel decides whether or not to accept your booking.

Perhaps MADMOG intends to march around all the rooms of the lone invitees when the wedding is over peering in the wardrobes and throwing back the bedclothes to check they haven’t sneaked anyone else in their room.

Is the room rate the same for single and double occupancy?

So mother of groom is saying that people booked into a hotel that have paid for their room cant have anyone else in their room, bat shit crazy and none of her business, if your hubby was single and pulled some bird would she not be ok with that either, go enjoy yourself and if you see her in the hotel smile and walk on, orrrrr you could gate crash reception and really piss her off in your towel waving a bottle of prosecco

Only if you've paid £200 to park on the road, which includes access to a roadside spa, and loads of other people will also be paying £200 to park on the road and use the roadside spa.

I reckon it’s the same poster. The responses last time were very negative if I remember rightly! This has been phrased in a different way…. Presumably in the hope to get different replies 🤣

It might make the wedding party feel a little bit guilty, but to be honest, I would want to do this too! You mean she doesn't have to go to a wedding, but instead can make use of the hotel facilities and have a quiet night to herself in a fancy room?! YES. PLEASE!

Breakfast could be a funny one

Room service.

If b&g have not paid for room then it's totally fine to go and hang out in room/spa. The wedding party won't be using the spa on wedding day anyway. In-laws need never know.

It's not exclusively hired so no I don't see it as a issue at all as long as they aren't then going to the wedding or brunch. It's a bit odd not to invite spouses but they don't get a say of who's allowed into a hotel room!

They are worried all the other spouses will do it and collectively show up the wedding party!

God, I'd go and enjoy being in the posh hotel! I would probably try and keep out of the way a bit though.

There was a thread about the same situation fairly recently.so it's obviously a situation that arises now and again.

No I wouldn't. I think it would be seen as provocative. Not invited, not going. Not missing much and not tip toeing around in case I was seen. Nope not worth it.

In fact I hate weddings so much that I would be delighted not to be invited in the first place anyway!

Why not? It sounds like it has amazing facilities and why isn’t every other non invited spouse not doing the same

No. Weird to lurk at the venue of a wedding you aren’t invited to just to get vfm out of the room.

The same thing that happens at breakfast time for all the other paying guests in the hotel that have nothing to do with the wedding.

Do you imagine that the bride and groom have "forbidden" any non-wedding guests from eating breakfast at the expensive hotel that they have paid good money for?

Hm - find you want, but as long as you can guarantee you won’t cross paths.

to be honest I wouldn’t go in case it was interpreted as a passive aggressive ‘I will go where I want’ dick move.

it really depends on the relationship with the bride and groom and whether you want this remembered for decades ‘we didn’t invite poison ivy, but there she was, peeping out from behind the palm tree in the hotel foyer’