AIBU to utterly despise someone based on one comment they made?

I remember telling my boyfriend at the time about what had happened and he said something like 'oh right?...' and that was it. Couldn't work out what the fuss was about

To be fair 9/11 (I was 13 at the time) was my first experience of rolling tv news coverage. I remember being home from school with my younger sister whilst parents were still at work and watching it. Whilst we were absolutely shocked by what had happened, the fact that it was shown non stop on pretty much every channel was also very shocking to us and part of what we we discussed whilst watching it. I think we went through all the channels to see if there were any without it on.

Instant ick then I dumped him for saying to me when we were having sex "you're just like a school girl". I was 38, and being 5ft and was around 7stone then so petite but all I could think was ew how would you remember what shagging a school girl was like at the age of 42?

Well done Carol!

I do try to give people a second chance if I know them well, but normally someone who says things like that is exactly who they sound like.

I disliked the old woman (dh’s old aunt) anyway, for appalling meanness with money and general selfishness, but she ramped it right up by phoning at around 4 pm on 9/11 to complain that Countdown wasn’t on.

I said, ‘But haven’t you seen the terrible thing that’s happened in New York?’

‘I don’t care! I want Countdown!’

I for one could not feel remotely sorry when she died.

Oh yes. Not quite as heartless as this but I quite often find myself blacklisting colleagues in other departments or external partners. Especially if it's a legal thing. Something switches in my brain - you're a prick/you haven't read the material/ you don't understand the legalities of your job - I no longer need to have any regard for anything you say.

I despise an old fart at my husband’s sports club. Once I made a couple of pots of tea for people to help themselves from.
He hollered at me to come and pour his tea “as that was what women are for”.
I hope he rots in hell.

Not at all. Everything is relative. That was so crappy of him to say. Our experiences dont diminish yours. I've had to remind myself over the years to remember my loss is my loss and others are entitled to have a bad day too. For what its worth. 9/11 is so sad. I saw old articles only yesterday with the week thats in it. How people can get a buzz from it is beyond me

I remember a man talking to me and my friend in a restaurant. He seemed fun and charming, until he made an incredibly lewd sexual comment. I can’t remember what it was but my friend and I both went “oh ok” and physically turned away from him. End of interaction.

during the first ever conversation I had with a neighbour, they remarked, ‘I always get my own way’. I wouldn’t say I despised them at that moment, but it did make me wary of them .. and unfortunately with good cause!

YANBU
Btw I’m one of those people who can decide very quickly if I like a person or not ….. plus I can (rarely) hold a ‘grudge’ for donkey’s years. Other than that I’m very pleasant and easy going!

Sadly, I’ve got a couple…

When my DBrother committed suicide, a lady who had known well all my life rang up with “ condolences” but spoilt it rather when she
said he’d “brought shame on my family name..” 😞

When my DPs Dad described my DBrother as a ‘coward’ after persisting in asking me what had happened to him! ( I hate him, but he’s v old and I’m enmeshed with the family, so still have to see him😡 )

A lifelong friend who we bumped into in town, described me as “looking like
I’done well out of it” about 12 weeks after my darling husband had died!
Me and DS were off to cash our widowed mothers allowance at the time. DS was 14…🙄

I'm so sorry about your nephew 🩵 I had a similar experience when one of my twin sons was stillborn and his twin brother died in the NICU 3 days later after life support was withdrawn. An in law said to me, "sure my aunt lost a baby at 6 months old, now that was hard, and he was a real baby"

Those words have never left me. That was 2.5 years ago but I was in such a stare of grief, I never challenged them.

In a meeting with MILs care home manager, about MIL being particularly difficult, entitled, and insulting to the staff. I asked her to please listen to the manager as she was talking over everything the manager said.
MIL turned to me and said
’Shut up and keep your nose out, it’s none of your buisness.’
This is in front of the whole care team. I gave as good as I got and the manager told MIl to apologise to me. I wouldn’t speak to her for weeks afterward. Something in me died that day. I actually couldn’t care less about her now and avoid any conversation with her. I’ve not forgiven or forgotten what she said.

My sil went off on a massive rant about not wanting to put her baby dd in a supermarket trolley seat that had had nasty little (racist slur) fingers all over it. It was the first time she really showed me how racist she is, there have been other incidents since.

It's the "spoiling it" comment that revealed he was seeing it as entertainment