AIBU to utterly despise someone based on one comment they made?

The comment my XH made on taking me back from the hospital after I’d had an abortion because he made it clear he didn’t want another baby….
He told me that he’d had a lovely conversation with a couple while waiting for me in the waiting room (we’d been told he couldn’t come with and he didn’t raise any objections despite me begging him to be with me).
Before you ask, I felt I had no choice in the abortion.
(He had at least two affairs before I finally came to my senses and told him to leave, but that comment really brought home to me that he didn’t really give a shit about me.)

There were no news channels in 2001, it was shown on all 4 normal channels - it was so utterly shocking and wasn't just one event but a series of events.
Your comment was quite cold. Can you imagine seeing people jump out of a skyscraper rather than be burnt to death?

Oh my god - that's horrendous.

Fkg hell! Horrendous.

I think the entire thing was so beyond horrific and shocking people just didn’t know how to react or respond … or what to say. My exH was there that morning and saw the most awful things 🙁 He only ever spoke to me about it once. He always changed the channel if it was mentioned or shown on the TV or radio. After many years I asked him why and he said he would never, ever need to re-live it. It would be etched in his brain until his dying breath. He was later diagnosed with related PTSD. Your ex’s remark was awful but so was people selling photos at the site. And the current president lying about his involvement…such an unbelievable act of terrorism affects the collective brain!

That's really awful, OP for you to handle. Sending love.

Tonight I asked my 'DH' if he's coming to our child's 1st chemotherapy session and he said he 'doesn't have the luxury of being able to take a full day off work'. To which I responded neither do I. To which I was told to 'fuck off and stop being a victim'.
There are no words.....

My DD at age 10 had a PSE lesson in school in which the children were in small groups with a list of experiences like ' parents divorce', ' breaking up with a friend' ' loosing a pet' and loosing a grandparent'
And they were asked to ' rate' these experiences! The other two girls thought that breaking up with a friend was worse than loosing a pet so my daughter after arguing that the cat would be actually dead, felt she had to go with the majority. Thankfully she managed to persuade them that loosing a grandparent ( that's my mother) was worse than having divorced parents ( that's us)!
My DD might well have been looking twice at her friend's after that! I still can't fathom, why on earth ask them to rate the experiences!!!!
I don't despise anyone though but that's mainly because my brilliant mother probably would have seen the funny side.

My good friend (who honestly I didn’t realise was an extreme racist) told me that my children are ok as they pass for white, when she was on a rant about Pakistanis. To me. The woman married to a Pakistani who had Pakistani children.
I disappeared from her life almost instantaneously. My children were shocked as they had been sat there at the soft play listening to her when I decided we had better things to do than listen to her obnoxious statements.

Someone left a a comment telling the RNIB to stop picking up.immigrants....
And they responded with a helpful explanation offering to assist if there were any vision problems..

But yes there's a lot of staggeringly awful - very scripted- stuff around about the RNLI.

Quite possibly triplets 😆

Omg that's psychotic!

My DH had an accident at work 6 weeks before our wedding.
DH's cousin came to our wedding with her new fiancee, a solicitor. We'd never met him before. At the greeting line he shook DH's hand and the first words he said were "Give me call, I can get you six grand for that".
Obnoxious twat.

My then boyfriend (much older) had a habit of always causing an argument whenever we had a night out. On a weekend away for a wedding same old pattern happened again but this time he uttered “who the fuck do you think you are? You’re just a nobody from (insert village)”, and it finally woke me up.

Travelled home from the wedding on Sunday, ended the relationship on Monday.

I remember my mother being very upset one evening at home. The last straw for her with her FIL was when the last of the premature sextuplets had died and it was reported on the 6 o’clock news. FIL said “Good thing too” and seeing my mums shocked face clarified “they would never amount to anything”. We both despised that man - that was the final straw.

What was the comment exactly?

What was the comment exactly?

Oooh get you 🙄

YANBU This wasn’t someone I know personally. But I remember the verdict of the inquest into the Hillsborough disaster being all over the news and social media. An older woman said she was fed up of seeing it forget the fact it had only taken nearly 3 decades to come to the decision that the police were at fault. Honestly some people have no empathy.

I was glued to the TV at work when 9/11 was happening in real time, was deeply troubled by it, crying, upset, especially as we lived near Heathrow at the time and there was a worry that there were many more hijacked planes in the air and who knew where they were headed and who was next. I had a young child at the time and despaired at her growing up in a world of such terrifying cruelty and destruction. I called my ex when I got home as he was working late to talk about it, and he couldn’t have shown less interest. He was like “oh yeah, heard about that, I’m going out for drinks so will be home late, see ya”. The next day he barely mentioned it, went to bed when the news came on, didn’t want to know anything about it. I thought it was bloody weird at the time and still do to this day.

Something happened when I was 11 years old. I was at school and in class with my favorite teacher. Over the intercom came the announcement that president Kennedy had been shot and following that we were told we were dismissed early. So my teacher said "Ok lets go home and see the pictures of the bloody president on tv." Well that certainly destroyed my admiration and respect for him. His callousness had a profound effect on me.

So sorry for your loss.

Not “meditating on the very great pleasure which a pair of fine eyes in the face of a pretty woman can bestow” then!

It is pretty repetitive watching a news channel for a full day.

I think we are siblings without knowing it!