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DD’s dad has taken her overseas and won’t bring her back

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CherryMummy1 · 10/09/2026 21:01

Me and my DD’s (6 years old) dad have been separated for 4 years. He had DD last weekend and has taken her overseas (he had her passport) and has moved overseas (America) with her and won’t bring her back! I had no idea that he was planning to do this! He has obviously been planning it for a while as he would have had to get Visa’s and plan his move to America and so on. He texted me on Saturday morning while he had DD saying that he was at the airport and that he was moving to America for work and that he was taking DD with him and wouldn’t bring her back! He hasn’t answered any of my calls or messages since. I’m going insane worrying about my DD. I’ve been absolutely in bits since, I’m an absolute wreck and can’t stop crying and worrying about my DD and just want her home with me! I’m DD’s primary parent so can’t imagine how scared and upset she must be feeling without me! The police here in the UK won’t do anything as they are saying her dad also has parental responsibility like me so there’s nothing they can do. Social services are refusing to get involved as well. AIBU to think that the police and authorities should be doing more to get my DD home? I’m absolutely in bits and can’t stop crying over it all! I’m furious and livid with her dad too, I’m absolutely raging at him with anger for doing this

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JHound · 16/09/2026 19:36

What the police said sounds very inaccurate so please seeker proper legal advice.

MyAmpleSheep · 16/09/2026 20:41

AntParade · 16/09/2026 19:09

I work for an organisation where people get their MP to write to us on their behalf often.
The MPs don’t even take a stance in their letter just a “I was concerned that hear about xyz from my constituent, I trust all is in hand…”. They get a standard reply back from us.

It really does not carry the influence people think - I say all this as I think others should be aware of where to focus their efforts in situations like this.

Maybe let us know what field you work in so if your organization fucks things up for us we’ll
know not to bother our busy MPs wasting their time with you.

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 16/09/2026 21:03

MyAmpleSheep · 16/09/2026 20:41

Maybe let us know what field you work in so if your organization fucks things up for us we’ll
know not to bother our busy MPs wasting their time with you.

It's not a matter of which organisation, MPs really don't do a lot apart from write letters and ask for responses. They get a response of course but usually no different to the one the client has already got

WhenYouWere · 16/09/2026 21:04

AntParade · 16/09/2026 19:09

I work for an organisation where people get their MP to write to us on their behalf often.
The MPs don’t even take a stance in their letter just a “I was concerned that hear about xyz from my constituent, I trust all is in hand…”. They get a standard reply back from us.

It really does not carry the influence people think - I say all this as I think others should be aware of where to focus their efforts in situations like this.

And yet, in my public sector, LA role, we really are made to jump, by very senior leaders, if a councillor is involved.

And we do!

CherryMummy1 · 17/09/2026 00:43

Sorry I’ll update in the morning. It’s been an emotionally draining few days here, sorry

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Mirsine · 17/09/2026 00:46

CherryMummy1 · 17/09/2026 00:43

Sorry I’ll update in the morning. It’s been an emotionally draining few days here, sorry

You have nothing to be sorry for.

You don’t owe anyone on here an explanation or update. This is your life and situation.

I hope you’re holding out okay, and hope you’re reunited with your daughter very soon ❤️

WearyAuldWumman · 17/09/2026 00:55

Agreed.

chickbean · 18/09/2026 22:50

Wishing you all the best OP. Don't worry about anything except your daughter.

Jan24680 · 20/09/2026 15:44

Any update @CherryMummy1? hope all is well

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