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To be pissed off with school about football boots and complain?

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PyongyangKipperbang · 10/09/2026 20:57

Got an email on Tuesday telling parents that DD's PE class is doing football until half term and please make sure that they have shin pads and football boots by.....today!

Several issues with it.
Firstly financial. We all know that things are tight for a lot of people, and boots are not cheap. I know for a fact that there are a lot of kids at that school who's parents wont be able to simply drop the money on them. I would have to put them on the credit card as I dont have the spare money right now. Its so fucking tone deaf to expect this just after new uniform has been bought by a lot of parents. DD rather selfishly allowed her arms to grow so she needed a new blazer that she will wear for about 6 months before she doesnt need it anymore!

Secondly, the short notice. Basically one day to get them, err.....I have a job and deliveries around here are not at all reliable!

DD has no interest at all in football so these will go to waste afterwards, I can't imagine I would get much for them if I put on marketplace. I am not prepared to lose that money, especially when......

DD has a medical condition that means she can't actually play most (and especially team) sports. She can do the training but not participate in the sport. So why the hell would I pay out for basically no reason?!

I will be emailing the teacher back tomorrow (already replied once and got no acknowledgement) but am thinking about pointing to out to year head/HOD how this lack of notice especially is not on. WIBU to do that?

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Besidemyselfwithworry · 10/09/2026 21:09

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/09/2026 21:05

Sorry yes, Y11

That takes time and I am not paying money for something she can't really use due to her medical condition.

I agree this is tone death
just email them and say you won’t be buying them and your daughter won’t be partaking!

everyone else also needs to say it’s too short notice and refuse! Especially in year 11 when a lot of them leave in May, what a massive waste of money!

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/09/2026 21:08

Weirdpig · 10/09/2026 21:06

Isn't the ground too hard for football boots at the moment?

You tell me! I am to football what the King is to cheerleading!

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Weirdpig · 10/09/2026 21:06

Isn't the ground too hard for football boots at the moment?

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/09/2026 21:06

latetothefisting · 10/09/2026 21:00

Does dd actually want to play? I did anything to get out of pe when I was in school. I'd just refuse to buy them and send her in with a letter saying so, either they'll let her play in normal trainers or she'll sit the lesson out or they'll be told to do something else. It sounds like she wont be the only one without boots so wont be singled out.

" So why the hell would I pay out for basically no reason?!"

You answered your own question really, dont! They cant make you.

Edited

Funnily enough, today I asked how it went and she said "We didnt do much as no one had boots or shin pads" so clearly I am not the only one who said "Fuck that!" and no, she doesnt want to play.

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PyongyangKipperbang · 10/09/2026 21:05

Octavia64 · 10/09/2026 21:02

Presumably secondary.

Vinted?

Sorry yes, Y11

That takes time and I am not paying money for something she can't really use due to her medical condition.

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Octavia64 · 10/09/2026 21:02

Presumably secondary.

Vinted?

Wrenbirdwren · 10/09/2026 21:01

I completely agree. My son hates football and I resent having to buy kit for him that he will use about 6 times. PE at school seems so antiquated to how we now understand how to keep healthy and fit. Let the kids who want to play football play and offer a kit-free alternative to those who don't.

latetothefisting · 10/09/2026 21:00

Does dd actually want to play? I did anything to get out of pe when I was in school. I'd just refuse to buy them and send her in with a letter saying so, either they'll let her play in normal trainers or she'll sit the lesson out or they'll be told to do something else. It sounds like she wont be the only one without boots so wont be singled out.

" So why the hell would I pay out for basically no reason?!"

You answered your own question really, dont! They cant make you.

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