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Dh angry I don't sweep up the leaves every day

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Whyhavethestreetlightsgoneoff · 10/09/2026 20:56

I don't give a crap about the leaves in the front and back garden, yes it looks lovely when all tidy but I have enough to do.
I work part time, very part time, but I do everything else, all in the house, food shop, cooking, washing, care of Dc, school runs, school meetings, bill payments, dog walks, vets, picking up dog poo, everything.
Literally the only thing I cannot be arsed doing is sweeping up all the leaves every day. I've never said it needs to be done and have never done it as don't care either way.
Dh always sweeps and sorts garden, great, it looks nice, but no one says he has to.
Second time tonight after work that he was storming around angrily, muttering under his breath about having to be the one who always does it, slamming around angrily.
The last time he made a comment, I told him outright that i'm not doing it on top of doing every other single thing in the house and with Dc.

It's because I only work a few hours.

Aibu or is he?

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parietal · 10/09/2026 21:01

leaves are good for the garden. especially on grass and flowerbeds, they feed the soil and contribute to mulch. don't remove them.

is your DH obsessive about cleaning and tidying in other ways? that would be very stressful to live with.

AffableApple · 10/09/2026 21:01

RocksByThePool · 10/09/2026 20:58

Leaf the bastard.

I was going to say tell him to do everything you do and you'll do the leaves. But this is better.

ChoccyHobknob · 10/09/2026 21:01

I wish I had time to... but if DH expected me to I'd tell him to do one!

Whyhavethestreetlightsgoneoff · 10/09/2026 21:01

Gengha · 10/09/2026 20:59

I’m really lazy but I’d be thinking what’s the point more wlll fall the next day anyway, seeing as it’s autumn

Exactly

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vodkaredbullgirl · 10/09/2026 21:00

RocksByThePool · 10/09/2026 20:58

Leaf the bastard.

😂

Shedmistress · 10/09/2026 21:00

What does he do with these leaves?

Whyhavethestreetlightsgoneoff · 10/09/2026 21:00

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 10/09/2026 20:58

You DH gets angry about leaves?

Leaves?

Is he okay?

Crazy isn't it

The garden does get messy as we have a huge tree and leaves everywhere, but seriously?

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Gengha · 10/09/2026 20:59

I’m really lazy but I’d be thinking what’s the point more wlll fall the next day anyway, seeing as it’s autumn

GentleSheep · 10/09/2026 20:59

RocksByThePool · 10/09/2026 20:58

Leaf the bastard.

You win the Internet today! 😂

QueenCamillaMW · 10/09/2026 20:59

RocksByThePool · 10/09/2026 20:58

Leaf the bastard.

Applause

Whyhavethestreetlightsgoneoff · 10/09/2026 20:59

RocksByThePool · 10/09/2026 20:58

Leaf the bastard.

😂

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TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 10/09/2026 20:58

You DH gets angry about leaves?

Leaves?

Is he okay?

RocksByThePool · 10/09/2026 20:58

Leaf the bastard.