Dh angry I don't sweep up the leaves every day

OK, so measure the comparison between workload by looking at how much leisure time (sitting around) time you each have. He works regular hours but I'm guessing you're on-call 24/7 with one thing or another?

But, bottom line is, if he wants the leaves swept, he should bloody well do it himself. It wouldn't even make it on to my 'to-do' list.

Oh god I thought the 'bough' was a typo at first (German native speaker - had quite a job to 'learn' British humour). Hats off to you both (I stopped for a moment in case a pun came to mind, but no luck).

Í think people have missed that their grass is fake. It’s not an unnecessary job.

He’s not behaving well about it though.

I appreciate your frustration OP but I can also see how he might be irritated.
I appreciate it's only leaves but we all have things that irritate us.
How part time are you and how old are your children?
I appreciate the responsibility of running a home and caring for the children, it seems your husband has responsibility for the financial side.
Don't let this become a bigger problem than it already is, resentment will fester and will be detrimental to all.

Why can’t dh do it if it bothers him so much im failing to understand?

What a waste of perfectly good leaf mould!

Blimey! I am single but I never sweep up leaves as it seems such a waste of time!

But it sounds like you have enough on your plate and he’s trying to give you his one job. Also sounds like he wants to take up your time with something unnecessary and repetitive, almost as a control/ abusive thing.

Throw his clothes in the garden - he can sort them all when he's getting the leaves that he deals with every day.

Point out to him that fallen leaves are really important hibernation spots for minibeasts, and removing them is damaging the ecosystem.

My husband could be a bit like this. The grass had to be cut every few days, with a petrol mower that gave it stripes. Leaves gone. The cars were constantly being washed and he'd hate it if I used my car and it got a bit of dirt on it. His buckets, sponges and cloths were the most frequently used items in the house. Funnily enough, this desire for neatness did not extend to inside the house where he was the messiest person going. He died two years ago and honestly, the peace from not having to live up to his car and garden standards is immense. Not to mention how much tidier things are indoors.

Must say too, daily leaf fall is a pain, but sweeping or raking is daft. Get a blower or a vac to get them into one area, then either leave them on flower beds to mulch or bundle them into the garden waste bin.

Can't he just be an utter knob?

Based purely on my own experience I’d hazard a guess that he’s generally feeling angry, doesn’t really know why and is pleased to have the leaves as an excuse. You’re really doing him a huge favour. Don’t take away his excuse to be angry, he’ll just have to find something else!

His obsessive behaviour obvs.

You need to leave him to deal with the kids and a lift of chores and shopping to be done. Maybe he’ll then appreciate you.
Being full time doesn’t mean he doesn’t have anything to do. I assume you still function at the weekends.

For a couple of days just to make a point I’d sweep the leaves, and I’d leave anything if his doing where he left it, maybe even the DC stuff too and when he asks why the house is a state tell him you swapped priorities as per his request and have been sweeping the garden and he can pick up his own shit.

He is very untidy with other things and i'm the one forever picking up clothes and things left by him and Dc
So stop doing it. I know you say you can't stand mess, but you do sound like you have enough to do.

What did he say when you told him you didn't intend to do it on top of doing everything else in the house and with DC?

How many hours a week do you work?

I've never swept leaves in my life, I certainly wouldn't be doing it everyday! He can do it himself after work if he's that bothered, it's not up to him to command you to do a job that doesn't actually need doing.

If he's so anal about leaves tell him to buy a stihl garden vac ,they can be sucked up quickly and he can do it! What an arsehole

Time to make like a tree and leave

He should buy a leaf blower and do it himself if he's so bothered. You do everything else so that would be fair enough.

Like the men who say they "don't see mess ", you can claim that you "don't see leaves".

Do you not have a garden waste collection? They ought to be going in that, not landfill. Though we tend to just leaf-blow them into the flower beds where they mulch down.

How are other things going? Have you spoken to him in general about his mood? There is a good chance this is nothing to do with the leaves and it is something else entirely

As your grass is fake I do think the leaves need picking up unfortunately. They’ll turn into a slimy mess on it otherwise.

Doesn’t have to be you doing it though!
Have a chat with him about the division of household jobs.

I cant stand men who think having children means they can just work a 9-5 and do fuck all else, less than a single, childless man. He has no respect for you.