Dh angry I don't sweep up the leaves every day

I always wait until there is a wheelie bin full. Doing every day is just a waste of time.

"He is very untidy with other things and i'm the one forever picking up clothes and things left by him and Dc, i'll be f*** if i'm doing the garden too"

Tell him that & then hand him a brush , shovel and a roll of bin bags

I do the leaf clearing in our garden, my DH doesn't care about them , but I do. I don't like them treading into the house every day and I like to be able to see where my dog has pooped so we don't tread in that either & bring it in on our shoes. I used to brush up every day because we get so many from our own trees and the neighbourhood trees on the common ground. One of those is a massive sycamore and it's seemingly endless pesky seeds are a real pain. This year I treated myself to a cheap leaf vac, it blows or vacs and it collects & shreds it all into bag which I empty onto the compo heap. It is giving me much joy. I don't use it every day yet, but I suspect I will soon enough. It's so much easier than sweeping though.

I’d buy him a leaf blower for Christmas 😂

The only purposeful reason for sweeping the leaves would be if you were adding them to a compost bin or using them for some other gardening tasks or if you were in a situation where they were a fire hazard because of very dry ground. Sweeping them to put the in the bin is a waste of effort when they biodegrade.

If you had, swept my leaves up I would be making you a lovely evening meal. Pouring you a glass of wine. Holding your hand gently and saying thank you darling.

Dear DH - is this really about leaves or are you angry and resentful about something else?
if it is really about leaves - I am drowning with everything else that I am doing - what task would you like to take over so that I can deal with the leaves?

Fallen leaves are important as habitat for bugs and critters, it’s not eco friendly to sweep them all up, and, also, at this time of year, completely pointless. Like shovelling snow in a blizzard or walking up a down escalator. Leaves are going to fall, it’s part of the natural landscape.

Your DH needs to get a grip.

Fallen leaves aren't messy. It's just nature.

Noooo! Compost them please!

If hes bothered, he should sweep it.

Take a look at this video, 'should i sweep up leaves' https://share.google/orX0baX23VVQzaAJt

He should not be doing this

Have a day when you do do nothing. Just to illustrate what you do in a day- no dinner ready, no bed made no laundry etc.

Maybe he's born with it. Maybe it's maple leaves.

Anyway, mine is also a grumbler who stomps around in a rage over trivial things.
It's unbeLEAFable the things he gets the ache about.
Tell your grumbler that if all he's got to worry about in life is leaves, then he's either very lucky, or very pathetic (maybe both!)
Mine moans about doors being left open, windows getting dirty from rain, having to wait for the kettle to boil and a multitude of other minor issues. I just walk away and let him moan to himself. I have bigger fish to fry.
If he wants the leaves doing, then leaf him to it.

Leaf the bastard

Can bough out

Tree-mendous

Branch out into comedic writing

MN, we should be able to acknowledge the considerable number of clever, witty women posting on here. We NEED the laughing emoji back so can show appreciation.

Letting the grass get covered with leaves is bad for it, I think. But OP's DH can sweep them up once a week? There is more to this than leaves. Possibly dissatisfacton at OP being 'at home' having a lovely time being part-time and a mum when DH is working. My ex did this - the final straw was when he said he 'wanted tit for tat', to work from home. No suggestion he would be doing housework, accounts, cooking, preserving, baking, organising social life whilst doing this - just having a nice time like I had (!) - and he kicked up a major fuss when I hired a once a week cleaner, until I stopped employing her. Needs investigating before she leaves him to the leaves.

“It seems your husband has responsibility for the financial side”

Major judgement and extrapolation - hope you aren’t on a jury anytime soon

Buy him a leaf blower for Xmas 🎄

Exactly. Do we always have to seek a diagnosis?

Exactly WHY do you do everything else @Whyhavethestreetlightsgoneoff?

As the mother of 2 children with Autism, i cant stand people like you! Diagnosising people you dont know and have never met. Its part of the reason people dont take autism seriously anymore because "sure everyone has it" 🙄

Wanting the leaves swept up everyday is not obsessive its just his preference. The same way most people like to sweep their floors everyday. Theyre not obsessing about their bloody floors, they just prefer them clean. Like he prefers a tidy garden.

This is the funniest thing I’ve seen for ages on here 🤣😂

He is because it’s not a task that needs to be done. But clearly it means something to him. So I’d say I’m happy to do it once a week because he clearly cares, but not daily as it’s low priority for me. And I would say no more angry muttering because it’s a task nobody else in the country does so he’s made the rod for his back.

Can't he find something useful to do. How about some laundry, vacuuming, cooking cleaning the loo and so it goes on. All the jobs that men take for granted will get done by the housework fairy. Stand your ground and tell him he can shove his leaves where the sun don't shine and if he doesn't shut up you will get a full time.job and then he will be too busy doing his share in the house to worry about the leaves.

My MIL was like that, I tried to explain come spring they will all be gone whether you sweep them up or not and while they are falling it's a bit like trying to keep back the tide. Just sweep them up when they are all down if you want to.