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To be sick of school directly undermining me

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LainaDelBoy · 10/09/2026 16:42

I’m at my wits end and really need some external perspective from people outside my local school/council area. (I moved to another part of the UK to raise my children, so this is not the school system I went through myself and isn't an area where there's much school choice - if you're not happy, you pay to go private it seems).

Since starting school at five, DD has routinely used a school-issued iPad (no one told me this would happen). I gradually discovered, mainly through what she told me rather than information from the school, that she had been signed up to all sorts of platforms and apps without me knowing/us being asked to approve.

It seems she has watched YouTube during lessons (I've regularly heard they've done PE on YouTube/"music" I've learned is often a sing along Disney song with the words at the bottom? etc) and come home talking about things seen in adverts. Some of the apps have coins, rewards and "friend" features which was a lovely (!!) sudden introduction to class bullying to deal with. and she's been using AI tools on the thing, but school haven't ever told me what it is/why/and I still don’t know what that tool was.

This week, another mum has just confirmed that the school ipads DO also all have email addresses through which they could message one another (although kids like mine age 5 aren't told the passwords for a couple of years yet - thankfully apaprently).

and tonight she's just come home talking about reading a book at school, only for a few questions later for it to bcome clear that it's not a BOOK book, it's another bloody ebook they scroll through on the ipad.

Stepping back a bit: I feel as though the school and council have taken away my ability to manage how much screen time my DD gets, while telling me I have "no legal right to opt out" of so much screentime at school when I asked about toning it down last year (I didn't ask for specifics, I just asked about the messaging stuff, and how much time they were on the iPad for typically).

We game a lot as a family (consoles/etc so i'm not anti-screens generally), but i just feel like there's a constant barrage of poorly done apps, videos and AI without clear limits or safeguards in her classrom. I don't know if it's like this in all schools.

In the UK, would you consider this "normal" or acceptable? Have other parents successfully asked for reduced digital screen learning/alternatives? AIBU to keep challenging it (the council are quite adament that their policy has zero flex)?

I don't know where to go from here and i don't want to be "that parent" but there are so many red flags here but i don't know if to keep pushing on it?

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Cakeandcardio · 10/09/2026 20:44

Glow is the system used throughout their education. In secondary it is common for pupils to submit work on it. Or even email their teacher directly. It's Nationwide.

pinkdyno · 10/09/2026 20:44

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It will be down to each local authority and individual class application but pretty much yes.

The issues OP has raised and the issues emerging are abhorrent. Yet nobody cares, the teachers who object, cannot speak out. The local authorities that have gone down this route have bought into Apple and all that goes with it.

it is the same for my very young children.

I could go on and on. Would you like to know about age 7 year olds being asked to enter into a contract? And sign same? Despite it being illegal to do so?

the entire thing is a nightmare

Cakeandcardio · 10/09/2026 20:41

Is it in Scotland? I would say not the norm. Def school's choice. Some teachers do get carried away with technology (I am a teacher myself). In my son's school there's some use of tech but to supplement paper and pencil work.

NameChangeScot · 10/09/2026 20:39

I could tell you're in Scotland. We don't have reception, governors, ehcp, etc here it's a completely different education system!

My children have each had a school issued iPad from p5, they're now S1 and S5. I actually really like it, each child gets the same, don't need to worry about paying for the device, repairs, uogrades or compatability issues. They are completely locked down and can only access the council approved education apps. YouTube isn't available on ours at all. Makes homework easier too as it's all in one place and get lost!

Glow is the how every child logs into the system, they will have had a glow account from the day you registered them in school.

I'm not sure why the school would ask you for approval to use apps, it's such a routine part of education now, they school will only use the approved apps too. Things like Sumdog, Reading Eggs.

The apps with making friends, they won't be able just to friend any random person, it will be children in their class and they'll be playing educational games. Hence why they need the code to access it.

There was a backlash against the ebooks for reading at our primary school. But the.head teacher explained that paper books were getting destroyed or never returned and at £600 for just one class set of books, and they need several books at each level reading level the school just couldn't afford enough books to go around so the solution was to switch to ebooks. They still get to visit the library and choose their own personal reading books. The PTA offered to fund raise but it didn't make a dent in what was needed.

I have found it's very teacher dependant too, some use them a lot verging on reliance and some hardly use them at all. You're not going to win this battle, that ship has sailed a long time ago! Your choices are change schools with a placing request (but it might not be any different elsewhere) , go private or home school. You don't get to control this.

Ponderingwindow · 10/09/2026 20:35

My dd is 17 and in her last year of education before university. She started school with an email address and school ipad when she was 5. I’m not in the UK. We are in a wealthy US school district.

It’s interesting to see the anti-tech panic as computers roll out to more schools. An entire generation has already been successfully educated with tech.

Sassylovesbooks · 10/09/2026 20:33

My son is 15, but this wasn't typical at his Infant school and isn't typical of his secondary school either! I work in a First school and yes the children get to use an iPad but as there's only 30 for the entire school, it's not often! Yes, if it's a wet lunch they may watch something on the screen.

Leanoutpls · 10/09/2026 20:22

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NewShoes · 10/09/2026 19:08

my year 3 child has never used an iPad in school. I would be very concerned personally if he was on one as much as your daughter is.

But he must have used a Chromebook or laptop/desktop computer (neither very common in schools now) in order to access the Computing curriculum if he is in England?

FlippingGiraffe · 10/09/2026 20:17

I’m sorry I’m not here to advise but I’m just so worried about this. My child is only two (this month) but I can’t help but worry what screen time school will call mandatory. I absolutely don’t want him using an iPad, especially not in primary school but this seems really unlikely and I’m dreading it

pinkdyno · 10/09/2026 20:17

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It doesn’t matter. It’s across the board here. No opt out.

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AuntieBiotics · 10/09/2026 20:12

Glasgow City Council gives every child an iPad. Obviously each school will use them differently but unless the OP pays for private, saying "just change school" is not that straightforward. She would need to go to another local authority - if she can get a place - and travel potentially considerable distances each day.

Blooko · 10/09/2026 20:10

None of the schools local to me (England) are like this, even at high school. There is absolutely no evidence that any of the screen-based learning is actually of benefit to children. Even if there were a clear benefit, it's outrageous for school to use apps with adverts and to regularly show kids tv instead of actually giving them real PE lessons or educating them.

mjhx · 10/09/2026 20:08

Been a TA in reception class for over a year now and the only time we use iPads is to take pictures to upload to parents on the school class platform.
We use the interactive whiteboard for class games like number locks ect and we do look up class related topics, and we do a daily music time with Danny go or something to get the children moving but the children have no access to iPads at all.

I think technology is inevitable, everything is online now. But in moderation, and with purpose.

Avie29 · 10/09/2026 20:06

Not normal here, my kids have always come home with mountains of books/paperwork at the end of the year, and still go to the school library once a week to change their reading books.

User451278 · 10/09/2026 20:03

They are popular around here in secondary schools. Some more than others.
Lazy teaching.

catgirl1976 · 10/09/2026 20:02

DS,s school like to get very sanctimonious about screens and not letting them have phones. All well and good.

But….all the homework is on apps. Half the lessons seem to be internet videos or work on apps. All the reading is on an app. The schools meals are paid for via an app. Ditto the bus ticket to get to school.

The Soarks reader app has utterly destroyed DS’s love of reading and has now done the same for Dnephew

then we get another patronising email about not letting them have phones and limiting screen time

pinkdyno · 10/09/2026 19:59

@Pigriverscotland. Standard. Huge battle ongoing

theresnolimits · 10/09/2026 19:57

Look up ‘Steven Jobs schools’ in the Netherlands. Completely failed experiment of using iPads in education - now abandoned.

BeOchreDog · 10/09/2026 19:55

We don’t do the maths learning that is assigned on a gamified app where they do maths to gain coins to spend. I told the teacher that at 5/6 I felt it wasn’t appropriate, they were indifferent and I got the impression they had to assign something.

We do other activities to reinforce the learning like playing shops with coins, playing board games with dice for number bonds and bought a watch for practicing the time.

LainaDelBoy · 10/09/2026 19:53

I have never signed anything for them to use iPads in school no

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LainaDelBoy · 10/09/2026 19:51

I'm in Scotland. So devolved to Scottish government yes.

Yes that's the app for email access: "glow"!!
I'm really not anti tech and I've asked to dial it down by speaking to them. I was told that parents don't have the legal right to opt out of the iPads, it's not like religious education or sex education (apparently). When I asked our teacher how much screen time they have they were a bit evasive and didn't really answer, so I put it in writing by asking what apps they're using and how I'm concerned, but the legal position sounds like I either need to lump it or go private, which isn't an option!
To answer questions, sorry I can't keep up, but they're actual iPads, apple, it's not me using the word for tablet.

And my daughter was talking about the adverts that she'd seen on YouTube so it doesn't seem to be a paid version (she mentioned a brand I had no idea she knew about and I asked her how she knew it)

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Bookbears · 10/09/2026 19:50

Pigriver · 10/09/2026 17:30

Teacher here and I don't know any school that gives every school and iPad!

The eBooks....we are forced to use a phonics scheme (we can choose from a list) and every child needs a book matched with their phonics phase/sound they are learning. You either have them all on the same and need 30 of each book which isn't reasonable due to cost. It they are all on different and it's a minefield as they get lost, damaged it borrowed by another class never mind the time to sort and match the right book to the right child. Having them online and able to assign the right book to the right child almost instantly is amazing and will really help their reading develop quickly.

I now teach an SEN class and mine do have their own iPad but over the school day probably use it for 30 mins. 5 mins maths, use of speech to text or voice recording to record their work (some have physical disabilities) or snapping a quick pic of a practical activity they have done. They have ed shed which is an app for spelling practice. They all have different spellings so this way they can have individualised activities at the correct level.

Sorry but I think the book thing is awful! My son’s school is a tiny village school but can still find 30 physical books of the same reading level to hand out to the children. Does your school not have a library?