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AIBU to expect air freshener in toilets when visiting friends?

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HangryBrickShark · 09/09/2026 23:11

Is there an expectation that people's toilets should have an air freshener in? Like a spray air freshener?

We always have air freshener in both our toilets in case friends or family get caught short when visiting us or even to freshen the bathroom after having a wee if necessary, so I hate it if I go to a friend/family members house and they have none.

I get some people may be affected by asthma but surely if you had asthma you wouldn't use it?

We have a glade air freshener at work that sprays into the space where the wash handbasins are for example.

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Enigma54 · 10/09/2026 00:25

We have reed diffusers in our toilets. Really good ones from Aldi. I’m not a fan of anything glade at all. Failing that, open a window or carry a poo pouri spray in your bag?

Crudd99 · 10/09/2026 00:22

I have ibs i carry poo pouri with me all the time. I don't expect air freshener in loos.

nocoolnamesleft · 10/09/2026 00:20

Spray air fresheners make me want to throw up. Far more so than the smell of bodily functions.

mymswashing · 10/09/2026 00:20

TinaBeliever · 10/09/2026 00:14

Just have your big smelly shit before you leave home.

And this is why people want to cover it up with comments like that

mymswashing · 10/09/2026 00:19

EmeraldShamrock000 · 10/09/2026 00:10

I assume that you have a built in extractor fan if you don't have a window? Most new build bathrooms without windows have an extractor.

Yes, comes on with the light but doesn’t do much to be honest. Takes out some steam after a shower or bath but it’s not great
work toilets don’t have extractors

Raspberryripple11 · 10/09/2026 00:19

aterriblemiddleclassfanny · 09/09/2026 23:17

This.
It wouldn't ever occur to me.
I'm vegan which may make a difference but honestly other than the odd occasion where I've maybe been on holiday and eaten a lot of foods I wouldn't usually, you could go in the bathroom straight after I'd been for a number 2 and not smell anything.

Do you have bowel issues and/or a rubbish diet in your family? I'd understand why you'd have air freshener if so. But to expect others to always follow suit is unrealistic.

Fellow vegan, can confirm.

LadyWiddiothethird · 10/09/2026 00:18

Hate air fresheners,also you cannot use a nice smell to cover a bad one.

5foot5 · 10/09/2026 00:15

NolanChanceJustLikeTheWeatherNSoul · 09/09/2026 23:40

Air freshener after a pee...why??
And at your work nothing says natural more
Than glade freshener.

No idea, unless she has been eating asparagus. That can make your pee smell a bit.

But I really don't get the air freshener requirement. Any immediate smell usually dissipates quite quickly.

ThisAutumnTown · 10/09/2026 00:15

ConstantlyFuriosa · 09/09/2026 23:55

There’s no such thing as ‘flushable wipes’. They may say they are on the packet but it’s a marketing lie. They’re terrible for toilet systems and plumbing and don5 break down properly. They should be binned (and banned if they continue to perpetuate the lie that they’re flushable).

As for needing air freshener at all but especially after a wee - if your urine smells that bad you’re dehydrated or worse and probably need to see a doctor.

I never said I use it after a wee Hmm

TinaBeliever · 10/09/2026 00:14

Just have your big smelly shit before you leave home.

weareallcats · 10/09/2026 00:12

No to air freshener - it smells bad. Opening a window is much better.

I do burn incense at home - Japanese sage - but that is just a general thing, not in the loo.

This thread had reminded me of an ex boyfriend who used to very obviously go for a shit and then spray an insane amount of air freshener. 25 years ago and I can still remember the cloying artificial lemony smell. I’m hesitant to say shit would have been better, but maybe it would have been.

Bowies · 10/09/2026 00:11

Open a window ffs I’d only be annoyed if there wasn’t loo roll.

RafaFan · 10/09/2026 00:11

But air fresheners don't work to cover up that smell. They just combine with it to make an even worse smell. Open a window or switch on the extractor fan.

Kokonimater · 10/09/2026 00:10

No, do not use them, they are terrible fake chemical smells. Really unhealthy. I don’t know any person that would use them.
If ever I have visitors over, I might light a small candle in the bathroom.

comeoncolleen · 10/09/2026 00:10

But air fresheners smell worse and are bad for the environment. Cleaning the loo and opening a window is better.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 10/09/2026 00:10

mymswashing · 10/09/2026 00:06

Am I the only odd one that doesn’t have a window? People keep saying open one, I’ve got two bathrooms and neither have windows
none of the toilets at work have windows either

I assume that you have a built in extractor fan if you don't have a window? Most new build bathrooms without windows have an extractor.

Isittimeformynapyet · 10/09/2026 00:08

HangryBrickShark · 09/09/2026 23:36

We're on holiday at the moment and stopping in a large caravan with two loos, and not having anyone visit. But we have an air freshener in each toilet that we brought from home. I hate toilet smells.

For those that say their shit doesn't smell, are you serious??? Of course it does! 😅

Edited

I only remember one person saying that (up to this point anyway) and it was the vegan.

WindsorGreatPark · 10/09/2026 00:08

Happyjoe · 09/09/2026 23:49

So you use a brush - how do you clean the brush? How do you clean the bacteria in the loo? How do you stop dribbling bits of poopy water all over the seat while you put the brush part back in it's container?

You don't need to bleach daily, let alone every time you poo! I only use bleach once a week, minimal quantities. Excess bleach is not healthy for humans any more than it is for the environment.

I lift the seat before brushing, rinse it in a second flush, let the excess run into the loo and return to holder. It doesn't drip. I grew up in houses with septic tanks where bleach kills the bacteria you need for them to function so this is all I have ever done.

It is not as if anyone is eating out of the loo!

MargotGobby · 10/09/2026 00:07

They smell really gross and chemically. I wouldn’t normally voice this, but seeing as you judged first, I think they are quite tacky

EmeraldShamrock000 · 10/09/2026 00:07

Nope. There is toilet cleaner. You might find a body spray in the bathroom cupboard.

DrCoconut · 10/09/2026 00:07

I have bowel issues and would only poo in a friend's toilet or small shared facility (such as one of the options at work) if I couldn't possibly wait. No one deserves to be next in line after that! Major and anonymous public toilets are fair game.

NolanChanceJustLikeTheWeatherNSoul · 10/09/2026 00:06

Some of those reed diffusers are awful
One we bought gave us banging headaches within the hour.
Binned never bought one again

mymswashing · 10/09/2026 00:06

Am I the only odd one that doesn’t have a window? People keep saying open one, I’ve got two bathrooms and neither have windows
none of the toilets at work have windows either

tokennamechange · 10/09/2026 00:04

"I get some people may be affected by asthma but surely if you had asthma you wouldn't use it?"

Surely you've answered your own question there - if someone suffers from asthma they won't have it in their house therefore won't be there for you to use!

Anyway, just open a window if you really feel the need to poo at a friend's house, something which in nearly 40 years of life I don't think I've ever done...Just hold it until you're home if you're that worried.

Yes, some people have bowel issues etc but if they get caught short that frequently and were so paranoid about leaving a smell, I'd say the onus was on them to come prepared with poopourri or perfume or whatever.

Deadringer · 10/09/2026 00:03

I hate air fresheners, crack a window if your shit stinks. Teenage dd insists on spraying perfume after using the loo and she usually leaves the window closed, you go in after her and feel like you have been pepper sprayed! Ugh

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