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AIBU to expect air freshener in toilets when visiting friends?

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HangryBrickShark · 09/09/2026 23:11

Is there an expectation that people's toilets should have an air freshener in? Like a spray air freshener?

We always have air freshener in both our toilets in case friends or family get caught short when visiting us or even to freshen the bathroom after having a wee if necessary, so I hate it if I go to a friend/family members house and they have none.

I get some people may be affected by asthma but surely if you had asthma you wouldn't use it?

We have a glade air freshener at work that sprays into the space where the wash handbasins are for example.

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chattyness · 10/09/2026 06:06

we don't have air freshener in the loo either. I can't use them or diffusers or smelly candles, plug ins etc due to asthma . What use is a spray bottle with diluted dettol and spray that instead.

Iocanepowder · 10/09/2026 06:04

Nah it’s much worse if there isn’t a bathroom bin.

kombuchabucha · 10/09/2026 05:57

Air fresheners don't freshen the air, they just make it smell synthetically fragrant and IMO make it smell way worse, especially when mixed with the smell of poo.

But then I've been tempted to start a thread in the past about perfume and aftershave being unreasonable, so maybe I'm sensitive to smells! I hate having to smell it. Especially hate it when people are wearing it when holding my baby, and then my baby stinks of it afterwards. Also hate coming home from someone's house and smelling of their perfume cos it's so bloody strong.

Strangerthanfictions · 10/09/2026 05:57

I don't think an air freshener actually helps or saves anyone's blushes. You just get an awful flowery poo smell. Unless you've got an digestive issue the smells usually pass relatively quickly. We've all had a curry poo or something that's particularly nasty but there's no air freshener in the world helping that. Also maybe you should explore why this actually makes you angry, people have different preferences and reflect this in their choices for their own homes, why does it make you angry that they like different things to you? What's going on there? People can't accommodate every preference and shouldn't if something like air freshener is disliked by them. Are you actually using a lot of people's toilets to go for a shit or just like to scope them out and get riled up if they don't have air freshener

JustMyView13 · 10/09/2026 05:56

Surely you just open a window and ventilate if needed.
If your wee smells so bad you need an air freshener, I’d suggest drinking more water and visiting the GP if it continues.

PollyBell · 10/09/2026 05:42

They are awful things full of chemicals no cant stand them

No allergies or asthma or anything just all hate them

ElefantAndCastle · 10/09/2026 05:35

We don't do any cleaning products with parfume so you won't find any here.

Autumnallaround · 10/09/2026 05:21

Thegirlwhowent · 10/09/2026 04:43

How do you clean the loo without a brush?

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Bleach. We don't use loo brushes.

Periodically I throw in some neat limescale remover.

NeckMuscle · 10/09/2026 05:09

Air fresheners are a bit naff. Fresh air is better.

Thegirlwhowent · 10/09/2026 04:43

ChocolateCinderToffee · 10/09/2026 03:11

Yuck no.

I’ve got a reed diffuser and an open window in mine. Haven’t got a loo brush🤢 or a bin either (am ten years post-menopause).

How do you clean the loo without a brush?

NiftyKoala · 10/09/2026 04:42

This is very weird.

Thegirlwhowent · 10/09/2026 04:41

LuckyTraybake · 09/09/2026 23:14

i totally get this!!

I would not want to use a bathroom for a poo if there was no air freshener!

I don’t think it’s weird at all! More weird to not care if people smell your toilet deposits imo🤣

Just open the window. The smell of air freshener just adds an extra layer of awfulness.

isitfridayyetttt · 10/09/2026 04:37

Cherrytree86 · 10/09/2026 04:15

@aterriblemiddleclassfanny

your shit will smell. Vegan diet or not.

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Vegans have the worst nuclear death shits.

BeethovenNinth · 10/09/2026 04:33

this is why the planet is fucked. We can’t even ablute without using some short chemical in an aluminium and plastic container for after

either I am weird or you are

RastaMouse99 · 10/09/2026 04:31

hotmumshit · 09/09/2026 23:13

Yanbu tbh

Theres this tiktokker who i love and think is amazing, but she refuses to have a toilet brush! I'm like, what if someone (usually a man) has no choice but to poop in your toilet and finds he cant clean it?! 😩😩😩

I'm baffled as to why you think a man is more likely to need to poo..?! Especially considering your username @hotmumshit
We don't have air fresheners because we don't want random manmade chemicals flying around us any more than necessary.

Cherrytree86 · 10/09/2026 04:17

HelenaWaiting · 10/09/2026 02:37

Toilet brushes are extremely unhygienic.

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@HelenaWaiting

skids in the toilet aren’t great either.
I know which id prefer…

Cherrytree86 · 10/09/2026 04:15

aterriblemiddleclassfanny · 09/09/2026 23:17

This.
It wouldn't ever occur to me.
I'm vegan which may make a difference but honestly other than the odd occasion where I've maybe been on holiday and eaten a lot of foods I wouldn't usually, you could go in the bathroom straight after I'd been for a number 2 and not smell anything.

Do you have bowel issues and/or a rubbish diet in your family? I'd understand why you'd have air freshener if so. But to expect others to always follow suit is unrealistic.

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@aterriblemiddleclassfanny

your shit will smell. Vegan diet or not.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 10/09/2026 04:04

grumpygrape · 09/09/2026 23:16

Carry a box of matches with you. Brilliant for neutralising any nasty nifs.

Is there not a risk of an explosion from the toxic gases? 💥

MarieAntoinetteQueenOfFrance · 10/09/2026 03:54

MyCrushWithEyeliner · 10/09/2026 02:58

Of course someone on here has claimed their shit doesn’t stink! Sure…

Yep, my shit definitely doesn't stink!
It might smell a bit, but there isn't that lingering pong that you get from air freshener.

TripleSulko · 10/09/2026 03:29

Obimumkinobi · 09/09/2026 23:46

I'm with the PPs who dislike the smell of poo thinly (it is always thinly) veiled by an overpowering artificial scent. It's like a double whammy.
I'm also interested if the OP has a similar requirement for farts released outside of a bathroom? Are they sprayed too?

And that overwhelming fug in a caravan 🤢

ChocolateCinderToffee · 10/09/2026 03:11

Yuck no.

I’ve got a reed diffuser and an open window in mine. Haven’t got a loo brush🤢 or a bin either (am ten years post-menopause).

Bouncywaves · 10/09/2026 03:07

We keep a box of matches and open the window. Air freshener is a last resort.

Anon501178 · 10/09/2026 03:03

I use scented toilet roll to make the bathrooms smell nice

MyCrushWithEyeliner · 10/09/2026 02:58

Of course someone on here has claimed their shit doesn’t stink! Sure…

Sereine · 10/09/2026 02:55

We do fine with good ventilation.

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