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AIBU to expect air freshener in toilets when visiting friends?

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HangryBrickShark · 09/09/2026 23:11

Is there an expectation that people's toilets should have an air freshener in? Like a spray air freshener?

We always have air freshener in both our toilets in case friends or family get caught short when visiting us or even to freshen the bathroom after having a wee if necessary, so I hate it if I go to a friend/family members house and they have none.

I get some people may be affected by asthma but surely if you had asthma you wouldn't use it?

We have a glade air freshener at work that sprays into the space where the wash handbasins are for example.

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Seajaye · 11/09/2026 08:17

Aerosol air freshers and some of the chemical compounds for propellants ets and dispersal are bad for the environment.No wonder global warming and climate change is a problem if some people are keen to spray chemicals into the atmosphere instead of opening windows or using extractor fans. You can use pot pourri and a few drops of essential oils instead.

TotaleclipseinFrance · 11/09/2026 08:15

Reminds me of awkward mealtimes at a relative's house.
Big new build house.
All 4 bedrooms have en suite bathrooms.

Also stand alone bathroom and downstairs toilet.

Unfortunately downstairs toilet literally next to dining room.

No window, matches or air freshener in there.

After a large meal you either have to use the downstairs toilet OR go upstairs in which case you might as well stand up and say, "I'm going for a crap."
I try to go in the morning but all that food stimulates digestion.

They are in-laws who I don't see often, either, so there's no easy crapping camaderie.

Yes, not a great problem I know but while we're on the subject of toilet etiquette.

Anarchy99 · 11/09/2026 08:10

We have a toilet at work which has no window. Outside of MN land, many people shit when they need to. Striking a match isn’t an option. No bleach is available.

So should people just leave the shit smell for the next person ?

PollyBell · 11/09/2026 08:07

Anarchy99 · 11/09/2026 08:06

Does everyone on MN have multiple bathrooms? I have never met anyone with more than one bathroom.

We have 2 but weirdly we just use them for what they were made for

Anarchy99 · 11/09/2026 08:06

RampantIvy · 10/09/2026 08:23

No they don't. They just dislike artificial smells.

We don't use the downstairs loo for anything other than wees, so it won't smell of anything. I open the window in it regularly as well so it smells of fresh air

Does everyone on MN have multiple bathrooms? I have never met anyone with more than one bathroom.

AuntieDen · 11/09/2026 07:38

agree with everyone on the sprays just adding a floral tinge to the underlying poo but the people advocating bleach instead are crackers - it just adds a bleachy tinge to the underlying poo and is even worse for the environment.

Reading this thread I'm now considering adding a basket with a voucher for therapy if you are traumatised by the smell of poo to my bathroom (along side the septic tank friendly loo cleaner, the regularly cleaned loo brush and the bin. Clearly I am not proper MN material).

LipglossAndLies · 11/09/2026 07:21

I would rather they all had hand cream in them

IwanttoWFH · 11/09/2026 07:17

hotmumshit · 09/09/2026 23:13

Yanbu tbh

Theres this tiktokker who i love and think is amazing, but she refuses to have a toilet brush! I'm like, what if someone (usually a man) has no choice but to poop in your toilet and finds he cant clean it?! 😩😩😩

I refuse to have a toilet brush. Put bleach down the toilet and some loo roll on top. The bleach will clear the stains off in no time, and no one will see them as the loo roll is there!

Shatenoeuf · 11/09/2026 07:05

The windows in all our bathrooms are easy to open. Theres a bottle of loo cleaner in the cupboard, cleaning the source of the smell & ventilating is much more effective than perfumed air sprays.

Thehop · 11/09/2026 07:01

Yes shit smells, but not as bad as shit covered with awful cloying air freshener.

just open a window.

PollyBell · 11/09/2026 06:32

queenofthebongo · 11/09/2026 06:22

I hate the smell of matches! But a candle all evening looks nice for guests and last for everyone.

And a fire risk apart from the chemicals in them

queenofthebongo · 11/09/2026 06:22

ConstantlyFuriosa · 09/09/2026 23:58

Even better, light a match. Cheap and it works.

I hate the smell of matches! But a candle all evening looks nice for guests and last for everyone.

BooBooDoodle · 10/09/2026 21:22

This is weird. I don’t have an air freshener in our bathroom. The windows are almost constantly open anyway. Nothing worse than air freshener and shit smells combined. It’s rank. You can still tell someone has been in for a shit even when you spray to mask it. Just have a shit, if there’s a toilet in there you’re going to be doing one or both of the two options you’d use a toilet for. Own the fact you’ve had a dump or do them in the comfort of your own home so you can have fun afterwards with your spray. Everyone shits, don’t know why there is so much fuss surrounding it. Your shit smells just as much as everyone else’s.

Gqqkkq · 10/09/2026 20:23

Spray air freshener is absolute filth. I hate it, it gives me a headache. It’s literally poison. If there is a smell of shit, open the window. The end.

ChocolateCinderToffee · 10/09/2026 20:22

Thegirlwhowent · 10/09/2026 04:43

How do you clean the loo without a brush?

I put loo cleaner in it and leave it for four hours.

Frequency · 10/09/2026 20:10

Elsvieta · 10/09/2026 19:07

How do you cope on holiday?

Badly and painfully usually, at least for the first couple of days, then the toilet starts feeling like mine, and I can use it (either that or the Senna I start munching on on day one takes control of the situation).

Catpuss66 · 10/09/2026 19:58

No nasty synthetic smells. The thing that bugs me are rim cleaners in florescent colours, why can they not make plain white ones with nice smell. I do have poo drops that smell of rose not too synthetic.

Wickedwhiskers · 10/09/2026 19:26

But then the place still smells of poo 💩 along with some horrible synthetic florals

EmeraldsAndPearls · 10/09/2026 19:24

I keep PooPourri, VIPoo or the supermarket alternative sprays on the back of each toilet for guests - or for people who live in the house when guests are round.

Matches work as someone else said but I wouldn't like to wave one about in someone else's bathroom, imagine setting fire to their shower curtain and having to explain that 😂

Elsvieta · 10/09/2026 19:07

Frequency · 10/09/2026 06:49

Off topic, but do people often shit in other people's loos? If so, I envy you. I have shy bowels. I physically cannot poo anywhere but my own loo; even if I really need to go, it just refuses to come out. It makes for some very uncomfortable workdays if I don't manage my morning poo.

How do you cope on holiday?

RotatingPenguin · 10/09/2026 18:24

What an odd thing to expect. We used to keep a box of matches on the bathroom windowsill in our old house. We don't have a windowsill in this house but there is an opening window which we use when necessary.

EveryoneUsingOutro · 10/09/2026 18:23

HangryBrickShark · 09/09/2026 23:36

We're on holiday at the moment and stopping in a large caravan with two loos, and not having anyone visit. But we have an air freshener in each toilet that we brought from home. I hate toilet smells.

For those that say their shit doesn't smell, are you serious??? Of course it does! 😅

Edited

Well 94% have voted against you so yeah YABU.

Bluedenimdoglover · 10/09/2026 18:15

Far worse things to worry about. If you're that worried, take your own

Viviennemary · 10/09/2026 18:14

No I wouldn't expect one. But a bathroom fan is a good idea for anybody thinking of a new bathroom.

Waitingfordoggo · 10/09/2026 18:12

BlackRowan · 10/09/2026 17:01

You are somewhat wrong. Febreze - unlike other air fresheners- can actually bind the molecules and reduce the actual odour. They had to add fragrances to their sprays because of marketing (as people didn’t feel the need to use pure odour eliminator).

Fair enough, I stand corrected. I won’t be buying it either way though. Opening the window doesn’t cost anything and is environmentally friendly.

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