AIBU to expect air freshener in toilets when visiting friends?

I don’t like it but neither do I like going into the lav when one of the blokes at work has just laid a cable.

I get migraines from the stuff, and I'm far from the only one. It's also an endocrine disrupter.
Enjoy if you like the artificial floral + shit aroma, I'll avoid.

Give me the natural smell of shit over the artificial odour of an aerosol any day. And why pay for chemicals when you can open the window for free?

Here are my DD's and my tips for when your bowels move in the house of another:

1. Sit twisted on the seat, your hand poised over the flush.
2. Await the turd landing.
3. The second the shit hits the water, flush. (Benefit: less time for the stench to permeate the room)
4. Wipe your arse as a second part of the process.
5. Flush again.
6. Open the window, if there is one,
7. Plaster on smile.
8. Rejoin host.

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All the more reason not to spray toxic chemicals in an enclosed space then.

Here we go again... MANY TOILETS DONT HAVE A WINDOW TO OPEN. What a valuable contribution you made to the thread...

As many posters have pointed out, that isn’t always an option, particularly in workplaces

Air fresheners aren’t good for us, just open a window

It definitely contributed to mine. More so as I got older, began dating and staying at friends houses etc. If I didn't eat, i didn't need to go to the toilet. So of course, I didn't eat. I began to lose weight, feel better about myself (I had put on a lot of weight as a child due to bullying and being ostracised) so the pattern continued.

I am fit and strong now, but I am still very discreet about the loo compared to many I know. I am however confident that no smells linger.

A friend's mother used to attack him and scream at him when he was a teenager for doing a shit that smelled, presumably, of what it was. Bad menopause but still.

It's not only nasty bullying to berate people for doing poos that smell of poo, but it's also monumentally thick of them. It's especially horrible doing that to a teenager and/or vulnerable person, who might not have the confidence to stand up to them.

If somebody did that to me now - told me that I was disgusting for doing a poo that smelled of poo - I would give them a deeply withering look and ask them condescendingly what they expected poo to smell of... or have they only just discovered the concept of humans pooing?

That’s interesting actually as I have an ED

I had this issue too. I was berated for the bathroom smelling after I'd finished. I am as I've said above, confident now that due to being careful with my health, once I've flushed it doesn't smell. But it happened several times when I was a child/teen and for a long time I couldn't 'go' unless I knew the house was empty. I think it contributed to eating disorders in my teens actually. I had a disorder where I totally avoided any foods with fibre, for a long time. I'd only eat chocolate or sweets, I equated using the loo-disgusting. I was very underweight for a time. In fact, pro-ana forums used to have a logo that said 'The more you eat, the more you poo!' as one of their inspirational mantras. It's not uncommon.

YABU

Air freshener just smells like you’ve done a poo and tried to cover it up, which is more embarrassing than simply owning the poo imo! Especially since it doesn’t actually get rid of the poo smell. It’s like a really bad disguise 😂.

Seriously, just open a window.

Well that’s upsetting but it is exactly what I’m saying - stuff to make it seem like your shit doesn’t smell. Well it does, and that’s fine, so does mine and everyone else’s. Take comfort in that fact and shit whenever you need to and don’t let anyone make you feel bad about it.

No it’s so I can actually go when I’m out the house after being berated by someone as a teenager because i used the toilet, and it smelled, she said i was disgusting
After that I refused to use the toilet anywhere outside the house up until I was late thirties when I found the poo pourri stuff and also developed a health issue that means I need to go more

This conundrum has a whiff of ‘penis beaker’ about it.

And/or the power of the flush!

Maybe - wider and flatter probably best off, or elbow resters?!

I wouldn't have them in my house, because I find that those sorts of aerosols irritate my lungs and make my chest feel tight. Not to mention being horrible for the environment.

So do people with small bums have a disadvantage here? I've never thought about this in any (pun intended)depth!

Never been splashed - I suppose it depends how far your bum descends into the bowl! 😉

It's just denial (or blissful ignorance, if you prefer). It could feature in a new verse of Elvis Ain't Dead by Scouting For Girls!

Everybody loves having their arse sprinkled liberally with cold water!!

You are seriously saying your shit doesn’t smell?!

of course it does