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Completely unreasonable things that really piss you off when you’re driving

211 replies

BakersKitchen · 09/09/2026 19:22

It can’t just be me surely! I get so angry when:

  1. I am in a rush or just want to be home after a long day and people just won’t stop needing to turn right
  2. I realise I need to turn around and all of a sudden the world and his uncle are up my arse or trying to leave every junction it would have been good to do a U-ey in.
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BakersKitchen · 11/09/2026 08:00

CheshireSplat · 11/09/2026 07:46

This is quite specific. It makes me so angry and I think I really need to be told for the sake of my blood pressure to chill out, so please do.

When you're joining a 2 lane dual carriageway from a slip road. You join fine and pretty much immediately need to pull into the lane to your right to overtake car in front of you. You can't pull over immediately because there is a car to your right. You indicate.

There is a car joining, just like you, immediately behind you. It doesn't have a car to its right, so it immediately moves into the right hand lane, speeds up and stops you overtaking.

This happens all the time at a junction near me and it makes me furious.

I think I need to get a grip because that isn't good for me. I think it feels really unfair. I was ahead of you and you're now, deliberately or not, blocking me in so you can get ahead of me. If I were behind, I'd let the car in front of me out.

Does anyone know what I'm talking about? Please help!

Yes very annoying I agree! Although I probably also do it to people

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BCBird · 11/09/2026 07:53

People not having a clue about what to do at roundabouts. Someone shooed me on the other day. It was priority to him. If I give way to someone and they don't say thanks it gives me the rage.

CheshireSplat · 11/09/2026 07:46

This is quite specific. It makes me so angry and I think I really need to be told for the sake of my blood pressure to chill out, so please do.

When you're joining a 2 lane dual carriageway from a slip road. You join fine and pretty much immediately need to pull into the lane to your right to overtake car in front of you. You can't pull over immediately because there is a car to your right. You indicate.

There is a car joining, just like you, immediately behind you. It doesn't have a car to its right, so it immediately moves into the right hand lane, speeds up and stops you overtaking.

This happens all the time at a junction near me and it makes me furious.

I think I need to get a grip because that isn't good for me. I think it feels really unfair. I was ahead of you and you're now, deliberately or not, blocking me in so you can get ahead of me. If I were behind, I'd let the car in front of me out.

Does anyone know what I'm talking about? Please help!

OrsolaRosso · 11/09/2026 07:40

Cyclists who think that the usual rules of the road don't apply to them and pull out in front of you.
Cyclists who think it is ok to cycle at night with no lights and dressed in dark clothing.
Drivers who say thank you to you by flashing very bright headlights in your eyes 👀 🫩

Flamingojune · 11/09/2026 07:35

These threads just highlight how many irate drivers there are on the roads

MaggieMop · 11/09/2026 07:30

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Newstartplease24 · 11/09/2026 07:28

Men who use one finger above the steering wheel to slot you into where they think you can go, but they can’t see what you can see and it isn’t safe. Just don’t get involved.

btw: cycle lanes are often useless as they just stop or offer no way to turn right. For instance. They aren’t an equivalent set of roads that cyclists could just use. They’re individual stretches of tarmac that may or may not help you go where you’re going

overnightangel · 11/09/2026 06:48

This is the literal opposite of keeping the traffic flowing 🤦🏻‍♀️ 😂you’re stopping to introduce more traffic from elsewhere

EdithStourton · 11/09/2026 06:46

BakersKitchen · 10/09/2026 13:09

Roads are for cars. There are plenty of other places you can practice cycling as a hobby without causing a nuisance or presenting a danger to yourself and others.

Your comment about skiing makes no sense and has no bearing on anything.

No. Much as peletons of arrogant lycra lovelies irritate me, roads are for everyone. I drive on country lanes most days and encounter cyclists, horses and riders, farm machinery, massive grain lorries, dog walkers, joggers and even the occasional pony and trap.

I do my best to be considerate to all of them, though the peletons have strained my patience this summer. They can be so bloody rude - the polite ones stand out as exceptions.

ilovepixie · 11/09/2026 00:49

People stopping to let people out of side roads.

nevertherightweather · 11/09/2026 00:31

People who don’t understand merge in turn and think everyone needs to form a queue

it’s fashionable for drivers in my area to not fully use a right turn lane and to only put their nose in so they are at a diagonal to turn right, blocking the lane that goes straight ahead

cyclists - when the council have spent millions on tarmacking and maintaining a cycle path and the cyclists cycle alongside it on the road.

horse riders - I live near an equestrian centre on a winding, narrow B-road. They regularly go out 12 plus horses making them impossible to pass safely. 4/5 yes but a row of double that and more, is crazy.

people that cannot work roundabouts and wait until there’s nothing coming at all.

Pineneedlesincarpet · 10/09/2026 20:49

Therainbowqueen · 10/09/2026 19:45

There’s no such thing as a fast lane. All lanes are the same speed.
calling them slow/fast lanes is part of the problem

Ok the lane on the far right of the motorway. The one where the slow vehicles don't go. Anyway my point was about undertaking.

Elsvieta · 10/09/2026 20:24

Bloody gigantic agricultural vehicles puttering along at 30 in a 60 zone, selfish food-producing twats.

Therainbowqueen · 10/09/2026 19:45

Pineneedlesincarpet · 10/09/2026 15:56

Within the speed limit obvs. So if a car is in the fast lane going 70mph you can't undertake legally

There’s no such thing as a fast lane. All lanes are the same speed.
calling them slow/fast lanes is part of the problem

TheWytch · 10/09/2026 19:31

Katemax82 · 10/09/2026 08:49

I'm too stupid to envisage this

And you risk a £1000 fine and 9 pts apparently!

www.selectcarleasing.co.uk/news/article/roundabout-slingshot-warning-motorists-uk-solicitor

Auburngal · 10/09/2026 19:21

Drivers that change lanes all the time for no reason . I saw one car this evening drive 200m, change lanes, drive 100m, then change again.

Drivers that jump red lights. Yes many junctions traffic lights are programmed to improve traffic flow. This evening, three cars jumped the red light from the junction on my right and I was blocked by them as if I went straight on then I would got stuck on the box junction. Then caused problems from those turning left from my left

HangryBrickShark · 10/09/2026 18:45

People constantly braking for no reason, during one stretch of two mile road with bends and gradients the driver in front of me braked 42 times! I kept my distance and took my foot of the accelerator or changed down to the appropriate gear when I needed to slow down and didn't need to brake once!

However, having said that I appreciate its not so easy in an automatic.

TheWytch · 10/09/2026 18:41

The last driver in a string of cars letting me out of a side turning!

Why?

I've already looked behind you and checked it's safe to pull out after you. You stopping is actually delaying me as I then have to register you stopping, realise you are letting me out, check that you really are letting me out, then a final check to my right....

Be much quicker for everyone if you just carried on.....

Pineneedlesincarpet · 10/09/2026 18:37

Badbadbunny · 10/09/2026 16:21

But if the other car is doing 70, you can't "over" take legally either.

No. True. That doesnt stop the speeding youth undertakers though.

JohnofWessex · 10/09/2026 16:53

People who design roads, which asylum do they recruit them from?

Where you get several sets of traffic lights and they dont work together, eg coming out of the Southgate Centre Car Park in Bath you get a Green Light BUT cant go because the next set of lights is red and the traffic is blocking your exit.

Worn Out Box Junctions that are barely visible.

Badbadbunny · 10/09/2026 16:23

Flamingojune · 10/09/2026 15:59

Tractors, horses and pedestrians lose out by that metric

Indeed, but is it really fair to delay dozens or hundreds of people so as not to delay a single horse, tractor or pedestrian? There should be a balance. If the car coming up to the end of a traffic queue is going to be stuck for 10 minutes before they get through the pedestrian crossing that changes every 2 minutes, why shouldn't the pedestrian wait for a little longer than 2 minutes. Why is the pedestrian's time more valuable than the dozens/hundreds of people in the queue?

Badbadbunny · 10/09/2026 16:21

Pineneedlesincarpet · 10/09/2026 15:56

Within the speed limit obvs. So if a car is in the fast lane going 70mph you can't undertake legally

But if the other car is doing 70, you can't "over" take legally either.

Flamingojune · 10/09/2026 15:59

Badbadbunny · 10/09/2026 15:09

@Wowwee1234

Why are you more important than me? So important that your journey matters more than mine?

Personally I think it should be a matter of the majority gets priority. I.e. if there is a single cyclist holding up a dozen cars, then the cars should have priority simply because of the number of people inconvenienced. Likewise traffic light junctions where the lights change to let 2 cars out (the only ones waiting from the side road), but there's a tail back of dozens/hundreds of people on the main road. Likewise pedestrian crossings in similar situations where the lights change every couple of minutes to let one or two people across, but because they change so often, there's a very long tailback/queue meaning far more people being inconvenienced for the convenience of a handful of people. By the same vein, I'd also agree that say a cycling club of 20 cyclists should take priority if there's only 2 or 3 cars behind them being held up. Everything should be a numbers game.

Tractors, horses and pedestrians lose out by that metric

Pineneedlesincarpet · 10/09/2026 15:56

Badbadbunny · 10/09/2026 15:01

"Undertaking" is illegal. What isn't illegal is merely continuing in the same lane passing cars who are travelling at lower speeds to your right. It's the act of changing lanes before and after the "undertake" that makes it dangerous driving. If you stay in your own lane before and after and continue driving WITH due care and attention as you pass, that's not an illegal move.

Within the speed limit obvs. So if a car is in the fast lane going 70mph you can't undertake legally

Badbadbunny · 10/09/2026 15:09

@Wowwee1234

Why are you more important than me? So important that your journey matters more than mine?

Personally I think it should be a matter of the majority gets priority. I.e. if there is a single cyclist holding up a dozen cars, then the cars should have priority simply because of the number of people inconvenienced. Likewise traffic light junctions where the lights change to let 2 cars out (the only ones waiting from the side road), but there's a tail back of dozens/hundreds of people on the main road. Likewise pedestrian crossings in similar situations where the lights change every couple of minutes to let one or two people across, but because they change so often, there's a very long tailback/queue meaning far more people being inconvenienced for the convenience of a handful of people. By the same vein, I'd also agree that say a cycling club of 20 cyclists should take priority if there's only 2 or 3 cars behind them being held up. Everything should be a numbers game.