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Colleagues complaining I'm too slow

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Stuffedandbloated35 · 09/09/2026 16:53

In driving- I'm not, I'm just actually doing the speed limit. We're in a community-based role where we have clients who need two carers and we all have to drive as part of the role.
I've only been driving a few months but I seem to be one of the few who actually does 20 in a 20 (I know the speedometers and sat navs are probably slightly off) and I'm definitely not doing below the limit, I'm doing 30 in 30s and so on.

But I've been in the car with these colleagues e.g. when i was shadowing, and most of them go a few miles over the limit so it looks like I'm slow in comparison. We meet at people's houses and they're always there before me, also because I'm new I have to find the address on my sat nav, I don't yet know the way by heart.

I've had one member of staff ask me if I can go a bit quicker, and often now carers go into the call before I'm there, so it makes me look late even if I'm not. I'm not getting lost or going the wrong way, I must only be a min or two slower at most and sometimes we do arrive at the same time.

It's stressful but I'm not willing to risk points over it, not sure what to do?

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nomas · 09/09/2026 17:36

I've heard of people getting speeding tickets for doing 23 in a 20, so YANBU.

Are any of these people going to pay your speeding fine?

Are they going to take your speeding points for you?

Are they going to pay your insurance premium hike if you crash your car?

No, they won't. So just say you won't breaking the law for anyone.

Balloonhearts · 09/09/2026 17:36

The sat nav is correct. Speedometers over read by a couple of miles an hour. They're built that way.

Stuffedandbloated35 · 09/09/2026 17:35

I just don't trust whether the sat nav is more precise or the car

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Stuffedandbloated35 · 09/09/2026 17:33

I start my car, enter the address then set straight off, takes about 30 seconds to wait for it to set up

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WecanbeheroeslikeBowie · 09/09/2026 17:27

Let them get the speeding tickets.
You will feel better when you know your routes and have more confidence in driving. We all have to learn at some point how to do new things.

Catza · 09/09/2026 17:26

I used to be a carer and it's never been an issue for me. I also drive to the speed limit and, if they elect to go in without me, that's their prerogative and it will be their responsibility should anything happen to them or the client. My job is to document what happened i.e. "arrived at XX:XX, colleague X was already at the house. I did these task ,they did the following. Left YY:YY" happy days.

beaglescurleduplikebagels · 09/09/2026 17:25

Cars always show a little over what you're actually doing. The sat nav will be much more accurate.

throwaway3749574 · 09/09/2026 17:23

Are you setting off promptly? My dd passed her test a year ago and is a careful driver (good) but it takes her ages to get anywhere as she also takes a while to set off as she’s faffing about with her sat nav etc.

Don’t feel pressured about driving faster, better to be few minutes late and in one piece.

Stuffedandbloated35 · 09/09/2026 16:57

BreezyClouds · 09/09/2026 16:56

They can drive.

Have Google maps on the dashboard. It'll display the speed limit and your actual speed.

Thanks, i do but they don't match, if it says I'm doing 30 on google maps it'll show as about 32 on my car, so I don't know.

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Stuffedandbloated35 · 09/09/2026 16:57

Shedmistress · 09/09/2026 16:55

Get them to give you a lift?

It may be the only way, just sometimes it's difficult because we also have 'single' calls in different areas where we need to go our own way to.

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BreezyClouds · 09/09/2026 16:56

They can drive.

Have Google maps on the dashboard. It'll display the speed limit and your actual speed.

Shedmistress · 09/09/2026 16:55

Get them to give you a lift?

Stuffedandbloated35 · 09/09/2026 16:54

If I'm on a 20 road and a car is driving right behind me, I hate that so I tend to let them pass and funnily enough they whizz down the road, so were probably doing way more than 20.

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