AIBU to feel angry after my ex took the car back?

Why did it take you so long if he’s been asking for his car back for 3 years? Sounds like you were dragging it out for somewhat dubious reasons

Oh dear. I got slated and pushed off this thread but I had a spider sense that something wasn’t right.

Op I would strongly advise you go get counselling to help you move on.

You have posted so much in this thread where the timelines make no sense and I get totally that you’re annoyed but that meant you didn’t get helpful advice.

Post to vent about your ex and tell the truth about the timelines and you’ll get support and advice that relates to your current situation.

How did he know?

OP, I’m really sorry but there are so many contradictions in your story. Your first post late on Wednesday afternoon said he took the car the night before and your main argument was that you wouldn’t be able to get the kids to school. Then on Thursday night you said you’d got your kids into a local school and on Friday morning that they had settled in really well. Later you replied to someone about struggling to get them to their school for a few days without a car, but it had only been 1 day. After that, you say your son struggled to go to the new school and complained that his father didn’t even phone him to wish him well, but how did he even know they’d been moved overnight to a new school if he has blocked your number and you have no way of contacting him?
The worst part is that you’re now saying you’re going to stop him from seeing his children in retaliation. Oh dear!

OP. I think the answer is obvious as you’ve make it clear to all on this thread: you are an angry illogical individual and he doesn’t want to have to deal with you.

To speak with his kids, he’s have to call you. That’s what he doesn’t want. He’s having to not speak with his kids as he doesn’t want to deal with your vitreol.

Stop making this a “woe is me”, accept some accountability, learn some emotional control, and get on with your life.

I realised from a comment you made that you're the same person who posted before about not being able to contact your kids on a camping trip (the accidental message when you heard his new partner bitching?). You tried to say you were over the end of the relationship/him moving on, and people suggested you weren't actually over it. I think this shows you're definitely not, and that's ok!

He obviously treated you badly, and continues to be a dick! I'm sorry you're struggling, the issue for me was your posts changing every time, but I get that you're venting and not in a great place? Are you managing to keep it from your kids? That was the hardest part for me, wanting to tell my son what a useless POS his dad was while also not wanting to affect my son's mental health or his relationship with his dad. It was a nightmare, but I did it, and now me and my ex have an ok relationship and their relationship has always been great. Ultimately, your kids will know you're the one they can rely on 100%.

Have you considered therapy? I found it incredibly helpful.

🙄

So from what I can tell is you have created a thread to trash your children’s father online. Despite the fact he pays CMS and allowed you use of HIS car for the last 3 years after you split up.

That's sensible, and the best thing you could take from this. It's a hard lesson, but you can make sure you learn as much as possible from it. This was an obvious risk of the choices that you made, he's not someone to be relied on, you can protect yourself better in the future. Stop doing things for him. Collecting the kids from school on his Fridays as a favour is a privilege reserved for decent co-parents, which he isn't.

And as others have said, cancel the insurance immediately.

Walkerss, it's clear that after 3 years you're still struggling with this break up and need some support. Can I suggest that you'll get that support, which MN is very good at, if you start another thread telling people what your current problems are and asking for advice on dealing with them?

The problem with this thread is that people new to it are going to read the title and answer the first post.

Sadly there are way too many women who can offer you first hand advice of bad fathers which might help.

I hope the kids are doing well at their new school.

I get what you're at, OP. You've been caught out talking about the ongoing grief with your arsehole of an ex as if it was ongoing.
Nobody likes that but it doesn't change the fact that you think he's an arsehole.
He probably is, far too many are.

Goodness me! Don't bring facts into the argument.

The insurance policy extension that allows you to drive other cars (DOC) is only valid if that car is fully insured by its usual driver. It does not cover you to drive a totally uninsured car.

I am simply reading what she has written.

It wouldn't need the kind of benefit of the doubt you are asking for her over anything I write because there is no way that I would write the totally conflicting stuff she has written.

Vicious? Spare me the histrionics. Report my posts if you think they break forum rules.

I don't know why you've chosen to argue with me, there are plenty of other people who've said exactly the same things.

Because you’re being vicious in your attacks on her and frankly, I don’t think you’re being fair. You certainly aren’t giving her the benefit of the doubt that you would want someone to give you.

No, because most drivers are covered to drive another car, not just their own, so it won't affect him at all

Especially as it hasn't JUST happened, so am sure he sorted it out ages ago

youve not mentioned when the insurance is up for renewal, but make sure you cancel it the day you hand the car back. If there’s a few months to go, you’ll get a refund(minus admin fee).
If you accidentally forget to tell him it’s cancelled and he assumes it’s still covered - that would be terrible wouldn’t it 🥲

I mean who knows when it happened or what the truth is?

No, I agree, I'm sure he is a dick.

Why are you bothering to discuss this with me?

I'm not the OP, and if I was I wouldn't be writing a thread so full of holes and backtracking.

Because she stated it was current. ( Last night he turned up,) Were her exact words