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AIBU to feel angry after my ex took the car back?

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Walkerss · 09/09/2026 15:38

So 3 years ago my ex left me for somebody else, I have finally got to a place where I am happy, the kids are happy and all is going well.

when we were a couple we made an agreement that I would pay nursery fees and he would pay the finance on my car. Obviously since the split there have been constant threats to take the car and last night he turned up and demanded the keys. I gave them to him and instantly felt relieved that he didn’t have anything else on me. However school is quite a drive away since I moved area and I told him I wouldn’t be able to take them to school. His response was, not my problem, I can take them on my days so it’s nothing to do with him.

how can he be so evil?! At least warn me so I had time to get a car. I hate him!

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GirlFromNowhere · 09/09/2026 15:56

Walkerss · 09/09/2026 15:54

Yes

Is he paying enough

Walkerss · 09/09/2026 15:56

TGT · 09/09/2026 15:55

Did he have to buy a car when you split?

No he had a car

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TGT · 09/09/2026 15:55

Did he have to buy a car when you split?

RowsOfFlowers · 09/09/2026 15:55

I think you’ve been very fortunate that you’ve had the car this long - he’s been nice enough to let you have it until now. Appreciate you pay the MOTs and insurance, but it’s time for you to sort out a car for yourself now.

TGT · 09/09/2026 15:55

Walkerss · 09/09/2026 15:53

No, I’ve paid for the mot’s and if anything goes wrong with it. I pay for the insurance etc.

Do you tell the insurer that you don’t own the car? Isn’t that expensive?

personally as I said, I wouldn’t want someone I’d no connection to driving my car. My partner drives mine now and again and I his but that’s all I’d want. If we split I’d not exoect to keep his car.

RedToothBrush · 09/09/2026 15:54

Walkerss · 09/09/2026 15:53

No, I’ve paid for the mot’s and if anything goes wrong with it. I pay for the insurance etc.

Who got it in the divorce settlement? If there's no divorce because you weren't married and it's in his name, tough shit really.

Walkerss · 09/09/2026 15:54

GirlFromNowhere · 09/09/2026 15:54

Is he paying maintenance

Yes

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GirlFromNowhere · 09/09/2026 15:54

Is he paying maintenance

Walkerss · 09/09/2026 15:53

TGT · 09/09/2026 15:50

It’s his car. He’s the one with hassle around it. I wouldn’t want someone else driving a car that I didn’t have anything to do with.

who paid the insurance? Was the agreement that you’d keep it for ever?

No, I’ve paid for the mot’s and if anything goes wrong with it. I pay for the insurance etc.

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MissChanandlerBonng · 09/09/2026 15:53

I think you should have taken control years ago and sorted your own car.

RowsOfFlowers · 09/09/2026 15:52

Can you not sort a car out for yourself?

TGT · 09/09/2026 15:50

It’s his car. He’s the one with hassle around it. I wouldn’t want someone else driving a car that I didn’t have anything to do with.

who paid the insurance? Was the agreement that you’d keep it for ever?

Overthebow · 09/09/2026 15:50

Are you still paying nursery fees?

Walkerss · 09/09/2026 15:48

Octavia64 · 09/09/2026 15:47

If you split three years ago and he’s been paying for the car all that time (and presumably he is the legal owner?) I’m surprised he let you have it for three years.

bus/bike/walk for school?

It was paid for by the time we split.

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Octavia64 · 09/09/2026 15:47

If you split three years ago and he’s been paying for the car all that time (and presumably he is the legal owner?) I’m surprised he let you have it for three years.

bus/bike/walk for school?

Walkerss · 09/09/2026 15:45

maz210 · 09/09/2026 15:44

Was the car in his name?

Yes it was. To be honest it’s not really about the car , surely he wouldn’t want the kids to struggle?

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maz210 · 09/09/2026 15:44

Was the car in his name?

cloudbabies · 09/09/2026 15:42

All about control