AIBU to feel angry after my ex took the car back?

Give over... Its very rare there is no red flags before.
Its just an excuse used by women to make themselves feel better about their choices

Again. What is on the V5 is irrelevant.

A verbal contract is a valid contract. If it happened the way she said the car is hers. Her problem is that she can't prove that verbal contract was ever made.

She trusted a man, she won't be the last who does that.

@Imdunfer I am fully aware what the V5C shows.

In this situation the car belongs to OPs ex. Doesn't even sound like the V5 was in her name so as he made the payments, there is nothing documented to state she owns the car and she might have even being fraudulently insuring the car - he had the right legally to take the car.

Women have been advised for years to protect themselves from this sort of thing and unfortunately for OP she chose not to.

do you know anyone with a crystal ball ? It’s not possible to know what sort of a parent someone will be. Also it’s ’bear ‘ the blame. Unless you’re getting naked ?

The car is his regardless because the payments were made by him.

I don't think this is necessarily true.

If they made an agreement that he would pay the loan for her car if she paid the nursery fees, then it's her car. That wouldn't be an unusual situation if, for example, one partner can get a better loan deal than the other.

The problem is that she can't prove that conversation ever took place.

If she had recorded it, then it would definitely be her car.

And for the umpteenth time on this thread the V5 indicates the registered keeper of the car. It does not show ownership.

The point is you have zero clue that there were any red flags a before the got pregnant.
Shaming women for mens actions is not a good look.

I'm glad to be wrong in my interpretation of your questions👍🏾.

But he’s obviously going to prioritise his new partner. After 3 years, he doesn’t owe you anything. It sounds like you’ve got trouble adjusting and I mean that in the nicest way possible

Again you just want to slag off anyone who disagrees with you. There was nothing unbelievable in my post.

Strange you found out who insured the car. That is not publicly available information. Has he sent you a message to specifically tell you that when it is none of your business?

Where in my post did I say that at all? These are the reasons he can make a successful application for reduced CMS. Didn't say I agreed with it. I was also accurate in why he took the car.

The car is his regardless because the payments were made by him. My ex tried to claim my car was his because he drove it. I paid for it and the V5 plus insurance were all in my name, didn't stop him trying to claim it was his because he drove it. His V5 registered car was also mine. I paid for it and the insurance payments. Damn right I kept both cars.

You'd put someone else's children's needs above your own?

Therr isn't a dick in the world marvellous enough for me to disadvantage my own children for others. And, I'm eternally grateful the type of men with these mindsets have never found me.

I agree tbh. Not saying all women are to blame, but a large majority do need to take accountability for the choices they make, and the red flags they choose to ignore. Who you choose to have children with is the biggest decision you could possibly make in your life.

You can be bored all you want...
I'm bored of the constant threads where women make dire choices and pick absolute twats as fathers and then complain when they are still twats!

They see red flag after red flag and still decide to have kids with them. They bare some of the blame!

Bored of these ridiculous comments on threads too!
Maybe there were red flags,maybe, but its very victim blamey. You cant know the kind of father a man will really be until he has kids! (or mother, but dont see this comment that way round) They can seem like they would be amazing and talk a good game, maybe they are great with nieces and nephews and have big plans.... and then totally fail to step up to the reality of day in, day out parenting.

Maybe so, but people were saying "It's his car" from the start even though it was stated in the first post they were together when it was brought and when it was paid off, he had his own car, they had an agreement that she paid nursery and he paid car payments, so it wasnt just him paying for her car or him buying a car for a himself and letting her drive it. If they had simply switched the payments so he was paying nursery and she was paying the car it could be still "legally" be in his name, but no one would be trying to say it was his car,

Yes, further messages made no sense, she clearly decided to write is as if it just happened which was a bit of a silly choice, cos then updates then made no sense...but doesn't automatically mean she did it to be deceptive....but hell, she could be lying, I dont know her....that doesn't make the "it's his car that he "let" you have for 3 years" comments any less ridiculous.
My OH paid half for me to upsize my car when I was due with our second child and needed to be able to fit 2 rear-facing seats in my car. (My original car was mine, paid for, and looked after, just too small) New car was still 100% mine- the only reason for the upsize was the kids safety, he had his own car...so if we separated and he said half the car is his, I would have laughed in his face. (but I am wise enough to make sure the family car i drive is in my name, whether I pay all, half or none) Cos unfortunately I have heard too many stories of idiots like this.

It was d*ck move to take the car away from her and therefore his kids, no matter if someone thinks (from a few posts) that she might deserve it. His children are affected by that choice too. Especially if she is not in the financial position to replace it.

You picked this man as a father.

Maybe you should read this post @AlliWantIsARoomSomewheeeere as it does a good TL;DR for you

People are being "ridiculous" because the OP started a thread slagging off her children's father with a first post about not being able to get her children to school that turned out to be completely untrue. They had already been enrolled in a school at walking distance some time before the car was removed, and the father knew that.

So nothing from that point on can be believed.

The registered keeper is not necessarily the sames as the owner. The owner is usually the one bought the car unless they've transferred ownership to someone else though sale or gift

The driver needs at least third party insurance cover. The owner might also wish to check it's insured against against fire and theft risks..
The registered keeper is legally really for road tax.

Wow! The bar really is in hell for dads. 🤯
Give him a medal.he pays the bare minimum that the CMS tells him too and still tries to get a reduction 👏🏽👏🏽
On paper it may have been his. But in no other moral or practical way was it "his car".
They has 2 FAMILY EXPENSES when they lived together with children. He paid one, she paid the other. He has his own car.
Any decent human being would have signed it over to her when they split.

As for trying to reduce his CMS payments for HIS children cos he has a step kid. Dead beat.

Sorry you have had a hard time on this thread OP. Not sure why people are being so ridiculous, going on an on about him letting you use "his car" for so long. But you are 100% not wrong to be angry and disappointed for your children.

(These threads have gotten more and more ridiculous since they stated sharing them to FB which has become a cesspit of trolls too)
Keep your chin up. At least the kids have you.
I hope they are settling in well to their new school. 💐