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AIBU to feel unfairly ostracised after a joke at the sports club?

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Sasco86 · 08/09/2026 23:39

So a few weeks ago, there was what I perceived as a jokey conversation going on and another mum said her stepson was as gay as they come. I jokingly said that she wouldn’t be getting any grandchildren from him any time soon then. To me, i was just joining in on the jokey conversation and that’s all it was. I have now been ostracised and reported to the safeguarding lead officer at the sports club this happened at. People who were my friends have taken her side because she’s made it far more of a thing than it was and my children have even been told things that are far from true. I almost feel that this person is now trying to bully us out of the club. Adult bullying is by far the most horrible situation I’ve ever experienced.

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WinterPalace · 08/09/2026 23:45

Sorry but that's a weird thing to say and it sounds like you wouldn't treat e.g. adopted kids as part of the family. I remember someone making a similar remark around another family member who was adopted, and felt awful for them.

However, no idea why a safeguarding person was involved?

ifonlytheydlisten · 08/09/2026 23:45

I don’t get why that’s a safeguarding issue. She said he was gay basically and you made a joke back. It wouldn’t even hit my radar

CleaningWoes · 08/09/2026 23:45

Treebaubles · 08/09/2026 23:43

A very extreme reaction from her. Is she normally such a drama llama?

I agree. When she was the one who said he was gay in the first place. I don't understand how this can be a safeguarding issue?

Overthebow · 08/09/2026 23:44

What you said wasn’t really a joke, I’m not sure why you’d say that.

murasaki · 08/09/2026 23:43

You do know gay people can have kids, right? You came over as homophobic, I'm not surprised she's avoiding you. The safe guarding thing seems OTT, unless you're in a supervisory role, in which case you might be coaching gay people and it's right to alert the lead about what you said.

Treebaubles · 08/09/2026 23:43

A very extreme reaction from her. Is she normally such a drama llama?

Namechangedforthis25 · 08/09/2026 23:42

your comment doesn’t make sense and is an odd thing to have said.. sorry

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 08/09/2026 23:40

Yeah, that was a stupid thing to say.

I’d also avoid you.

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