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AIBU to want to express support for women who were assaulted at a political conference?

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Warmlight1 · 08/09/2026 21:41

To want to send out support to the two women visibly assaulted at a political conference.
I am concerned about the other protesters too and actually anyone who was hurt. But having to listen to jeering from the podium plus the crowd chanting in live TV at the same time must have been so traumatic and the publicity will die down and coverage move on but that can't be easy. Just want to send love and support.

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Fizbosshoes · 09/09/2026 08:52

The Andi Peters thread i commented on got to 40 pages, id say people had quite a lot to say about it.....
Its possible for both things to be true- it was outrageous, unreasonable and unacceptable the way MM spoke to Andi Peters on live TV (it would be just as bad in private)
Its also outrageous, unreasonable and unacceptable for people to commit (and also condone) violence at a party conference

emuloc · 09/09/2026 08:52

Sereine · 09/09/2026 08:49

No-one has been convicted of her murder.

Have the Police even said, what they beleive the motive for murder, was?

Sereine · 09/09/2026 08:52

Boomer55 · 09/09/2026 07:18

As the protestors were (apparently) technically trespassing, I shouldn’t think they have a leg to stand on, legally.

I just wondered what the point of it was. They would never have convinced a roomful of Reform voters to change their votes. The cash thing was well known about anyway.

If it was to get their 5 minutes of fame on TV, then it worked I guess. 🤷‍♀️

Were they trespassing? How?

In any event, the law does not permit criminal assault on trespassers. You can use only reasonable force to eject them. Hecklers turn up at every party conference, but other parties manage to deal with them without having men hitting women over the head and seizing them by the hair.

SmallDFartyCarNRG · 09/09/2026 08:50

napody · 09/09/2026 08:39

It's horrific. The slightest inconvenience or disagreement and they're a violent mob.

"Where's the 5 million?" is a legitimate question that Farage needs to be asked every single day in every interaction.

And Jenrick is idiotic to the point I wonder how he gets through the day. "Cries foul if a pensioner knocks her over the head with his zimmer frame..." he admits he's seen that she's hit over the head with a stick and still waves it away. Old white men can abuse women and the women will be laughed at for mentioning it, and blamed for being there.

I really hope she contacts the police, but this is a problem in general with male violence against women. Even with video evidence it's up to her to pursue it. The police need to be finding out who the perpetrators were anyway. Hopefully they are.

It's all part of the hyper-masculine feedback loop; insecurity (feeling threatened that "other" people will take their jobs/homes/women), join a group of similarly frustrated men (low IQ, low status banding together as group is stronger, dress in black to intimidate), RAGE at everything or anyone who gets in their way with very little need to discuss why or look at facts - on a hare trigger for violence and always shout the loudest/smash stuff/argue the toss with everyone you come in contact with - eventually get arrested and a permanent record.

Then after all that they wonder why they can't get jobs or a woman and the cycle starts again.

BackToLurk · 09/09/2026 08:49

HandPulledNoodles · 09/09/2026 08:46

People have protested conferences all the time. Remember the guy who have Theresa May a p45?

I think the violence at this event plus all the dodgy finances are giving all the swing voters and undecided voters all the info they need and hopefully another nail in the coffin for Reform Party Ltd.

Staunched Reform voters will still minimise and deflect all issues and have double standards about violence.

That image of the older women raking at her hair sickened me.

I suppose it demonstrates that these must be real Reform supporters. I can’t imagine even Russian bots would think any of these lines of defence is going to tempt swing voters.

Sereine · 09/09/2026 08:49

LuckyHazelFox · 09/09/2026 07:14

Really. Has the thug, who murdered Ann Widdecombe suddenly changed skin colour? Pray tell how that happened.

No-one has been convicted of her murder.

BackToLurk · 09/09/2026 08:47

LuckyHazelFox · 09/09/2026 08:44

Oh I thought there would be a difference, there always is.

Glad I’ve been able to educate you about the difference between people not contributing to a thread (maybe they didn’t see it, maybe they aren’t interested in celebrities, maybe the title didn’t grab their attention) and spending time on a thread repeatedly making excuses for assault. Every day is a school day.

HandPulledNoodles · 09/09/2026 08:46

People have protested conferences all the time. Remember the guy who have Theresa May a p45?

I think the violence at this event plus all the dodgy finances are giving all the swing voters and undecided voters all the info they need and hopefully another nail in the coffin for Reform Party Ltd.

Staunched Reform voters will still minimise and deflect all issues and have double standards about violence.

That image of the older women raking at her hair sickened me.

LuckyHazelFox · 09/09/2026 08:44

BackToLurk · 09/09/2026 08:42

Yes. Of course. People not taking part in a thread about a celebrity is exactly the same as people actively making excuses for violence against the wrong type of woman.

Oh I thought there would be a difference, there always is.

EstherGreenwood63 · 09/09/2026 08:42

hattie43 · 09/09/2026 06:16

It’s so tedious . She didn’t even need to be there . No-one in that room would have had any interest in what she had to say . You and your ilk don’t like Reform , so what , plenty of others do so get over it . We live in a democracy, everyone can choose who they support and no amount of unwanted disruption will change that .

Still illegal to physically assault people whose voices and views you don't like pal. Lucky for your lot eh? Bisous.

BackToLurk · 09/09/2026 08:42

LuckyHazelFox · 09/09/2026 08:35

I'm not a Reform voter, I'm a Tory. I voted Reform at the last GE as a protest vote. I'm not 'justifying' that one any further. The Andi Peters thread is very quiet. I could say that some only care about racism when it's against a certain type of brown person or when the perp isn't right wing. See how it all works.

Yes. Of course. People not taking part in a thread about a celebrity is exactly the same as people actively making excuses for violence against the wrong type of woman.

emuloc · 09/09/2026 08:41

"Where's the 5 million?" is a legitimate question that Farage needs to be asked every single day in every interaction.

Indeed.

Sereine · 09/09/2026 08:39

hattie43 · 09/09/2026 06:06

Well here’s the thing . Don’t disrupt and enrage people and the chances are you won’t get your hair pulled .

You really think that justifies criminal assault and people jeering at the victim?

LuckyHazelFox · 09/09/2026 08:39

CaptainMyCaptain · 09/09/2026 08:38

It's not a pile on it's just that most people disagree with you. Fortunately.

There's a way of disagreeing.

napody · 09/09/2026 08:39

It's horrific. The slightest inconvenience or disagreement and they're a violent mob.

"Where's the 5 million?" is a legitimate question that Farage needs to be asked every single day in every interaction.

And Jenrick is idiotic to the point I wonder how he gets through the day. "Cries foul if a pensioner knocks her over the head with his zimmer frame..." he admits he's seen that she's hit over the head with a stick and still waves it away. Old white men can abuse women and the women will be laughed at for mentioning it, and blamed for being there.

I really hope she contacts the police, but this is a problem in general with male violence against women. Even with video evidence it's up to her to pursue it. The police need to be finding out who the perpetrators were anyway. Hopefully they are.

emuloc · 09/09/2026 08:39

BackToLurk · 09/09/2026 08:32

Yea. We know. You care about violence against women when they’re the right type of women or the perpetrators are brown. No need to keep repeating that.

What’s been interesting, is that I don’t think I’ve seen one of Reform’s cheerleaders just say “that level of violence is inexcusable”. It’s all been excuses and victim blaming.

It shines a light on them, and shows them up for the hypocrites that they are, imo.

CaptainMyCaptain · 09/09/2026 08:38

LuckyHazelFox · 09/09/2026 08:28

Calling somebody a joke is against talk guidelines. You will then complain when your post is deleted. I'm not going to report it. The thread is already becoming the usual pile on. I stand by my opinions.

It's not a pile on it's just that most people disagree with you. Fortunately.

LuckyHazelFox · 09/09/2026 08:35

BackToLurk · 09/09/2026 08:32

Yea. We know. You care about violence against women when they’re the right type of women or the perpetrators are brown. No need to keep repeating that.

What’s been interesting, is that I don’t think I’ve seen one of Reform’s cheerleaders just say “that level of violence is inexcusable”. It’s all been excuses and victim blaming.

I'm not a Reform voter, I'm a Tory. I voted Reform at the last GE as a protest vote. I'm not 'justifying' that one any further. The Andi Peters thread is very quiet. I could say that some only care about racism when it's against a certain type of brown person or when the perp isn't right wing. See how it all works.

BackToLurk · 09/09/2026 08:32

LuckyHazelFox · 09/09/2026 07:46

No, I responded to the poster about their words. Ann Widdecome was a Reform associate, therefore a supporter, and her murderer isn't brown. That is fact.

Yea. We know. You care about violence against women when they’re the right type of women or the perpetrators are brown. No need to keep repeating that.

What’s been interesting, is that I don’t think I’ve seen one of Reform’s cheerleaders just say “that level of violence is inexcusable”. It’s all been excuses and victim blaming.

emuloc · 09/09/2026 08:31

Bridgertonisbest · 09/09/2026 08:28

I just want to be clear, make sure I understand …

violence against women is wrong, unless they speak out of turn?

We have freedom of speech but only for Reform?

“Play stupid games, win stupid prizes” is not even a step away from justifying domestic violence because the woman stepped out of line.

More, or less, to some Reform supporters, it would seem. Sad.

Warmlight1 · 09/09/2026 08:30

LuckyHazelFox · 09/09/2026 08:08

So she feels strongly about issues. Don't we all. I'm not about to waste my time pretending to be a Labour voter just to get among them and make a fool of myself. She wanted the attention and she got it. So why hasn't she brought charges or has she?

I have no idea if she has or why. In fact she gets to choose.
But how common for the friends, family and colleagues of abusers to try to intimidate and dissuade victims from seeking justice through the criminal justice system.
This is done with threats, intimidation, persuading the victim it was their fault, persuading them people disapprove of them, and laughter- that deadly laughter - at their trauma. Trying to shame women,
So I think if we have political leaders proudly going round doing that then it's a collective responsibility. It's unfair to land that responsibility on one or two people. They may or may not come forward , but probably can't deal with the bigger issue. The more fundamental problem- that of the reaction of elected MPs - is everyone's problem and I'm grateful what the women have done is shone a light on it. It's not the first time those men have tried to publicly gaslight a victim of assault.

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LuckyHazelFox · 09/09/2026 08:29

whatsthepointffs · 09/09/2026 08:28

I believe this is when a left wing person would be called a snowflake

I don't make the rules up. You crack on.

whatsthepointffs · 09/09/2026 08:28

LuckyHazelFox · 09/09/2026 08:28

Calling somebody a joke is against talk guidelines. You will then complain when your post is deleted. I'm not going to report it. The thread is already becoming the usual pile on. I stand by my opinions.

I believe this is when a left wing person would be called a snowflake

Bridgertonisbest · 09/09/2026 08:28

I just want to be clear, make sure I understand …

violence against women is wrong, unless they speak out of turn?

We have freedom of speech but only for Reform?

“Play stupid games, win stupid prizes” is not even a step away from justifying domestic violence because the woman stepped out of line.

LuckyHazelFox · 09/09/2026 08:28

whatsthepointffs · 09/09/2026 08:25

It’s not exactly an insult is it.

Calling somebody a joke is against talk guidelines. You will then complain when your post is deleted. I'm not going to report it. The thread is already becoming the usual pile on. I stand by my opinions.