To think less of those who slept with a lot of people

If you want to take the moral high ground over something that's got nothing to do you knock yourself out. You've no idea what goes on in people's lives and why they do things.

what do you mean ‘what did they achieve from it’? Presumably they enjoyed it? What else do you need to achieve from not doing it? Why do you care what they did or didn’t get out of it?

Are you a man?

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Finally, I’ve met a few women who clearly thought the number of people they slept with validated them in some way and felt it was worth mentioning. It was volunteered in a way as if to say “I am so attractive / cool / outgoing / sexual” that I’ve slept with such a high number of people. Yeah, not the brag you think it is… gives the vibe of a man who hasnt had much sexual experience, in which case, yabu and judgemental.

YABU and sound like you're give this far too much thought. Why do you care what other people do?

I mean, the guy aiming to sleep with a woman on every continent was obviously an arsehole - not for sleeping with multiple women, but because they were just a notch on his belt, so to speak, rather than because he cared for them or enjoyed their company. But enjoying sex is not a bad thing. I think it's pretty sad to think sex is so separate from life that you see it as completely unrelated to building a life/having a family etc. (That's before we even get onto the fact that not everyone wants a family.)

I'm a bit hypocritical because I also have a similar response but I was a bit of a raver back in the day. It's not so much a moral.judgement,.more that I think they're going to look back one day and wonder what they achieved from it, but yes it's double standards for me to think that way. .

I like to think people today take fewer risks, as in they use contraception and women don't allow themselves to go to unknown locations with complete strangers although no idea why I'm assuming thats true. May not be.

Yeah you sound very judgemental. I’d rather be friends with someone who’s slept with all load of people (which has zero impact on me) than someone like you.

I guess if man I worked with told me he'd slept with 200 women then I probably would judge. But then my opinion of men isn't that high to start with.

I don't care how many people anyone has slept with and I don't think sleeping with lots of people says anything about your self esteem. I also don't care who you're judgmental of or why, what a tedious little subject.

Why is having sex a bad thing? If someone enjoys sex then why is it something to be judged……and why do you then feel superior?

I don’t understand why you would care or judge

you make it sound like you have a little level in your head of “good” and “bad” people and categorise them according to the different information you learn about them, with them going up or down the levels of your approval depending on what you learn.

whats the point? What difference does it make if you “think” less of someone?

I don't think I've ever given it much head space, it's not something that is dropped into day-to-day conversations so I have no idea how many people friends and colleagues have slept with.

I don't personally care what other people do in their consenting sex lives but I do judge people who go around telling everyone about it. Sex is a private matter, everyone does it and it's not that complicated, difficult or interesting (unless you are one of the participants.)

I dont care at all how many people someone else has slept with. I dont judge them because I dont care.
You have to care about something in order to judge people for it.
Nobody judges anyone for something that they genuinely dont give a shit about.

Oh, grow up.

The number of people someone has had sex with has absolutely no bearing on who they are as a person.

I honestly don't care. I wouldn't judge

I keep out of their sexual business tbh and don’t care. It doesn’t affect me .

Yeah I think it's probably something to keep to yourself. It's easy to feel squeamish when you know